These 10 behaviors
It's easy to spoil bad children!
1 Give children special treatment
Children are superior at home and receive special care everywhere, such as "eating alone". In the long run, children will become selfish and unsympathetic.
2 children make mistakes to protect their faces.
Many parents protect their children's mistakes on the grounds of "don't be too strict, TA is still young", which will make their children have no concept of right and wrong and cause personality distortion.
3 Pay too much attention to children
A family that doesn't always take care of children will make TA feel that he is the center and the family revolves around TA.
4 Easily meet unreasonable demands
Parents give their children whatever they want, so that TA will develop a character that does not know how to cherish, pays attention to material enjoyment and does not care about others.
Allow children to live lazily.
Allow children to be picky eaters, stay up late, and play without restraint. It makes TA easy to lack self-motivation and perseverance, and muddle along.
6 begging children
If you coax your child to eat, promise TA to tell three stories, and then finish eating, the more you beg, the more embarrassed your child will be, not only can't distinguish right from wrong, but the prestige of parents will also be exhausted.
7 arrange substitution
Some parents never let their children work, they have to feed at the age of three or four, and they don't do any housework at the age of five or six. In this way, children will inevitably not become hardworking, kind and capable.
8 make a fuss
When a child is ill, parents panic and indulge blindly, which will eventually lead to the child not letting his parents leave one step and becoming timid.
Deprive of independence
If you put it in your mouth, you are afraid of melting, but if you spit it out, you are afraid of flying away. In this way, children will become dependent and often become "gatekeepers", bullying at home and being timid outside, forming character defects.
10 Afraid of crying
Parents who are afraid of their children crying are incompetent parents; If children are allowed to beat and scold their parents, they will sow the seeds of selfishness, ruthlessness and willfulness in TA's character.
These 9 kinds of dads are unqualified!
1 grumpy dad
If the father has a bad temper, he will always hit people and swear, and the child is likely to do the same, or even deeper. The father's irritability may also lead the child to form a humble and cowardly character in fear.
A doting father.
Every father loves his children, but overindulgence can turn into harm. Independence is a compulsory course that children should attend from an early age. Unconditionally satisfy children, and children will become bad over time.
Dad who doesn't understand mom.
Some fathers are accustomed to their wives' efforts, and even push the responsibility of educating their children to their mothers, which will make their children feel insecure. Children's greatest sense of security comes from their parents' love.
4 the father whose children are absent from education
From the father, boys will learn masculinity, while girls will learn how to get along with the opposite sex. As a father, no matter how busy and tired he is, he should also take up the responsibility of raising children, a veritable "father"
5 a father without integrity
A father who keeps his word is not only an example in children's minds, but also the best education for children. Writing empty checks often will not only lose prestige, but also be detrimental to cultivating children's sense of responsibility.
6. A controlling father.
If children always act according to their parents' ideas and have no choice for a long time, they will be eager to leave the family independently and become more and more rebellious.
7 nagging dad
Some fathers don't like reading books themselves, but they educate their children all day, "Stop watching TV and read books." In fact, the father is a "manuscript" and the child is a "copy". What a father wants his children to do, he must first start from himself.
Dad with bad living habits
Some men don't pay much attention to personal hygiene, don't like taking a bath and don't like brushing their teeth. Children can't tell right from wrong, just follow suit. Fathers who like smoking and drinking will have a subtle influence on their children.
9 strict father
If a father always treats his children severely, it will easily lead to estrangement after a long time. Once a child has any problems, he will not ask his father for help or discuss with him, and it is easy to make a wrong decision.
These 9 kinds of mothers are unqualified!
1 Bad-faith mother
You must do what you promised, otherwise your mother's prestige will disappear and your children will become more difficult to educate. Mother's dishonesty will set a negative example for children, so that children may break their promises at any time.
A mother who speaks ill of her father.
The child is half from the father and half from the mother. Denying one of the children's parents is tantamount to invisibly denying half of the children.
Mother who loves to compare with others.
Always comparing the shortcomings of one's children with the advantages of others' children and blaming them will make children unconvinced and even disgusted, which is not good for cultivating their character and self-confidence, and will also make them feel that their mother doesn't love me at all.
Mother who always says "I'm doing it for your own good"
Some mothers always seem to have endless thoughts, but some just plan their children's lives without authorization under the banner of "for your own good". Some roads are just for children. This is TA's life. Don't live for TA.
Five mothers who don't respect their children's privacy
Some mothers like to disclose their children's privacy when chatting with friends and neighbors. Every child needs to have his own private sphere, and even parents can't interfere at will.
6 grumpy mother
Some mothers treat their children as punching bags regardless of right or wrong, which will make them feel guilty. The child mistakenly thought that his mother was unhappy because of him. In the long run, children will feel inferior when they grow up.
7 crying poor mother
"Do you know how difficult it is to raise you?" This sentence hurts children very much. You can tell your child what you can buy, what you can't buy and why you can't buy, but don't always say "no money" and "can't afford it"
8 too "modest" mother
When children show their best strengths, some mothers always say that their children are not doing well in front of others to show modesty. In fact, proper encouragement is more conducive to the growth of children.
9 Mom who always plays mobile phones
When the mother ignores the child because of the mobile phone, the child will feel that the mother is perfunctory and naturally unwilling to communicate with him. If parent-child communication is blocked, children will become withdrawn and autistic.