Suppose it were you, what would you do? Is it to pretend that it doesn't matter, or to break out violent contradictions, or to open the road to cold violence from now on? The above three treatment methods are not sufficient. Next, let's take a look at Xiaoli's handling method. Recently, she always feels her chest is suffocating. Because her mother was diagnosed with coronary heart disease, she doubted whether she had coronary heart disease, so she told her husband her worries. The husband opened a way for the strange old man not to listen to him.
"This is the main reason for eating too much. I have told you to eat less, eat less, exercise more and pay attention to your health. Over and over again, you just don't listen, and now you're too lazy to mention it. " A bunch of aggressive complaints made Xiaoli feel wronged and her mood plummeted. Every time Xiaoli says she is not feeling well, her husband subjectively analyzes the cause, and then accuses Xiaoli of not doing what he says, which shows the appropriateness of her point of view. My 8-year-old daughter won't listen: "I eat more than my mother." How can she eat too much and make herself uncomfortable? " The girl asked.
Finding his point of view a bit untenable, my husband turned his head and talked about some main symptoms of my mother-in-law's coronary heart disease, and then compared it with Xiaoli. Later, he firmly said to Xiaoli: "Your concern is superfluous, and it is a whim to find fault." Originally, I just wanted to find a little relief, but I was so anxious that I just wanted to swear. Xiaoli, who was very angry, didn't want to say a word and turned into her room. First, she did a five-minute relaxation exercise to relax her tight body.
After that, I drew a mood adjustment chart on A4 white paper bit by bit. Gradually, she was surprised to find that she and her husband faced difficulties in a strikingly similar way. Every time he has a fever, a cold and a fever, it seems like the end of the world. Xiaoli always laughs at him: "Just like a three-year-old child, a little problem is very painful and particularly anxious." Don't husbands want this kind of behavior to be cared for, comforted and warm? To put it bluntly, the symptoms of both people are the same: on the one hand, they feel inferior, on the other hand, they don't know how to give each other the love they want. With this in mind, Xiaoli gradually got to know her husband. Whether analyzing her illness or blaming her, her husband's purpose is to let me relax and not be overly anxious.
Incorrect nursing methods can easily lead to aggravation of bad feelings between each other. Gradually, Xiaoli's anger weakened by half. Objectively defeated rationality and manipulated Xiaoli's thinking. Xiaoli gradually relaxed herself and told herself if she needed anything: "Honey, it's okay. You don't have to be afraid. I will always be with you. Tell me everything. " After relaxing, Xiao Li Mei sleeps at the seaside. After waking up, she decided to talk to her husband, express her needs and listen to her husband's needs. Xiaoli's method is very effective. To sum up, there are four points:
First, let your hard body relax and draw an emotional picture. Second, find the source of the problem. Third, comfort yourself and care for yourself. Fourth, implement the behavior and get rid of the predicament. There are contradictions in marriage, and sisters can try their best to get out of the predicament and embrace a better life again in this way.