? In fact, the production process is full of variables. It must be remembered that having children is not a disease, but it is also a hurdle in life. In the past, people said that "you can't have four boards (tables) when you are born with sesame oil", which means that you can drink sesame oil chicken soup when you have children. But if you are not born, you can prepare a coffin for the funeral. It can be seen that giving birth to a child is a major event with half a foot in the grave.
Nowadays, medical care is very advanced. Although it can reduce the risk of maternal life during childbirth, it has also begun to advocate and advocate returning to nature, hoping to reduce the accumulated medical behavior of SOP, attach importance to maternal understanding of the production process, reduce the fear of production, and attach importance to the core value of physical autonomy!
Do you want mild production, elegant production or controlled production?
Everyone wants different things, but every production has its advantages, risks and preparations. In addition to being handed over to doctors and hospitals in the past, there are many prenatal courses now, which teach pregnant mothers some concepts about the labor process, how to take out the fetus, how to understand the ultrasound data every time, how to do perineum, how to breathe to relieve pain, and how to accompany their husbands.
There is a saying that if the analgesia delivery in the process of natural delivery is elegant delivery, caesarean section is the most controllable delivery, and welcoming the baby with family is gentle delivery, it depends on the physical condition at the scene, which is called homeopathic delivery.
In fact, as long as it does not affect the safety of mother and baby, the mother has the right to decide whether to carry out medical intervention measures such as perineum incision, intravenous drip, etc., but if it affects the life or health and safety of mother and baby, it must also cooperate with medical evaluation and carry out appropriate medical treatment.
Therefore, in addition to prenatal, you can know what kind of production mode you want, but you must be flexible in the face of the situation on the spot. During my stay at the Yuezi Center, I heard many stories about childbirth. Some partners want to give birth naturally, but the pain-relieving delivery has no effect. In addition, the breathing mode does not match, and the perineum is torn three times. Some mothers want to give birth at home because the baby's fetal position is not correct. Some mothers want to give birth naturally, relieve the pain, and the baby has a fever and respiratory distress. In the face of production, in addition to doing our best, we must resign ourselves to fate and give part to God!
Accompany the baby and give the husband specific tasks.
"Watching my wife give birth makes me feel powerless." "I'm afraid of blood ..." "Listening to my wife screaming at the top of her lungs broke my heart." Men are not the ones who give birth to children, and of course they don't feel pain.
However, if you don't understand the process of pregnancy and childbirth, you need a man to come in and accompany you. Seeing the pain of the beloved woman, you can do nothing, and you don't know what to say or do to help your wife.
In this way, for men, behind the so-called "new good man" and "warm male father", they can only hide their too frightened mood and fear and anxiety, which is also a kind of violence for them.
In the process of accompanying the baby, it is suggested that the husband can learn some relaxation methods, or prepare some small relaxation equipment to help his wife relax, such as: small equipment in the workshop, using relaxation and meditation to help his wife divert her attention and touch her forehead to her cheeks (repeatedly helping to relax);
Or, say to your wife during childbirth, "I know you work hard. Do you believe that the baby will work hard with you? " I am here, I will be by your side, and we will face it together. ""You are a great mother, and I see your willpower helping you. If you don't know what to do, ask your wife, "How do you want me to help you?" 」
When the wife enters the second stage of labor, she may not want her husband to talk, or she may become sensitive to the sound. At this time, her mother will certainly put forward "don't talk to me yet" and "don't make any noise" in due course. At this time, the husband can choose to touch his body or stay with him, believing that his wife is coping with the pain of contractions!
Every stage of childbirth is unique.
We must also understand that every child comes into this world in a unique way. Prenatal preparation is very important and may change, but parents have worked hard and are ready. In the face of childbirth, we should not expand our fears or increase our anxiety. When we are anxious, we should go through the books on the market and take prenatal education classes. Don't over-collect your own online information, don't over-listen to the fears and rumors among friends, be prepared and be flexible in the face of the present situation. As long as the parturient chooses the appropriate mode of production after understanding the labor process and makes the best choice for the baby and herself, it is the gentlest way to treat her gentle production!