A man jumped into the mire angrily and fought with the pig that angered him.

The result can be imagined.

Apart from falling into a Grimer, people didn't solve any problems, while pigs happily continued to wallow in the mire.

So is life. It is meaningless to reason with a rotten person, but it is unlucky to be beaten by a rotten person.

Stay away from rotten people and spend more time with positive energy people, which is the greatest fulfillment for yourself.

2. Transfer negative emotions and stop internal friction.

Susan is a psychology professor at Yale University. Wherever she goes, she always takes a pamphlet with her.

Every time she meets someone who deliberately finds fault, she immediately opens the brochure and takes a look, then calmly leaves.

My friend thought that the secret of emotional stability was written in the booklet, but when I opened it, I found it was an urgent thing to do that day.

She said in her speech:

"When you realize that you still have so many things to do, you have no time to argue with boring people."

We don't change other people's obligations, but we are only responsible for ourselves.

If something goes wrong, instead of obsessing endlessly, it is better to shift your energy to what you can change.

When you crush your emotions into meaningful busyness, people or things that once bothered you will become insignificant in the face of accumulated achievements.

3. Don't be an emotional trash can and vent appropriately.

Emotional self-control has a "law of emotional conservation".

It means that daily joys and sorrows can only be transformed into each other and will not disappear out of thin air.

Compared with hiding something in your heart, knowing how to solve the bad emotions in your heart will not make you exhausted.

In this era of increasing emphasis on speed, it is even more necessary for us to stop occasionally and set aside some time to sort out our hearts.

Take 5 to 10 minutes every day, sit in front of the window and meditate quietly, and slowly release the accumulated blocks in your heart.

Or find a friend outside the circle to get rid of your recent troubles.

Writer Wu Jun once said:

"Emotion has no weight, but it can become a person's heaviest burden."

For this reason, only by emptying ourselves can we go into battle lightly and respond to the present with a more positive and rational attitude.

In the adult world, there is no such word as easy.

But the more difficult it is, the more the body and mind should stop internal friction and keep consistent with the outside world.

As Shen Congwen said:

"As far as my character is concerned, it is to cope with any difficulties, always accept it silently, not discouraged, not groaning."

This does not mean that we should suppress ourselves like ascetics.

But no matter what you encounter, you can control your emotions through active guidance and keep your body and mind healthy and full.