I believe that many of our elderly people still have the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" in their minds, which means that in their view, it is most reliable to rely on their children to support the elderly when they are old. After all, the concept of raising children to prevent old age has long existed.
However, when we really enter the real society, you will find that raising children to prevent old age is mostly a joke and totally unreliable. When people get old in their later years, only relying on themselves to provide for the elderly is the most secure and reliable.
Aunt Cai, 63, said:
I am 63 years old and my husband is a teacher in the town. Therefore, my husband and I lived in town for a long time. Although our life is not particularly rich, it is also very comfortable and comfortable. We only had one daughter, and there were no other children.
My daughter got married when she grew up and lived in the provincial capital with her son-in-law. Originally, I dreamed that my husband and I could spend our old age well, but who ever thought that in a few years, my husband suddenly got sick and left me, and I was really heartbroken at that time.
A few months after handling her husband's funeral, my daughter called and said that she wanted me to sell this house in the town and follow them to the provincial capital for the elderly. But I said to my daughter at that time, "I lived with your father for decades, and now he is dead." This is the only thought he left me, and I don't want to sell it now. "
Later, I packed my bags and went to the daughter-in-law's house in the provincial capital. The first time I went to my son-in-law's house, I was particularly curious and happy. I couldn't help asking my son-in-law a few more words, and after asking a few words, I stopped asking.
Since I arrived at my son-in-law's house, I have contracted all the housework in their house alone. Originally, I was thinking about my daughter and son-in-law, and it was difficult to go to work when I was busy. Anyway, there is nothing at home, so I can help them if I can do more at ordinary times. I think it's nothing.
But afterwards, I vaguely felt that my son-in-law regarded me as a nanny hired by their family. He usually asked me to do this and that, but in the end, what made me very angry was that he even asked me to wash his personal clothes and socks. He also specifically told me not to wash them with a washing machine, but to wash them by hand.