1, different ideas
The age difference between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is several decades, family education and social environment are different, so naturally they have different views on many things. Originally, many things with differences could be discussed, but in many cases, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have their own views, so it is good not to make trouble. They can negotiate and even reach less knowledge. After all, everyone thinks they are right. If many things cannot be discussed between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, living under the same roof is a kind of torture for both of them. No one will obey anyone and no one will listen to anyone. In this way, still like a family. Over the years, contradictions have been accumulating, and it is impossible to want harmony.
2. Living habits are different
Every era has its own characteristics. After all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not from the same era. It is normal to grow up in different environments and have different living habits. Sometimes it can't be said that anyone's habits are wrong, but everyone's practices are slightly different. Understanding mother-in-law will generally respect each other's living habits, even if they are different from themselves, as long as they are harmless, they will not say much, but there are not so many understanding mothers-in-law in real life. Sometimes it is difficult to be considerate of one party, but even so, even if one party can tolerate the other for a long time, it will inevitably be angry and think that the other party is meddling and pointing fingers, which is not conducive to family harmony.
3. The relationship between husband and wife is easily affected.
The bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affects the relationship between husband and wife. After all, it's all because of the husband of this mother-in-law's son and daughter-in-law. Because of this man, two strange women became mother-in-law and had in-laws They should be United and friendly, but if the relationship is not good and they get along well, then this man will have ideas in his heart, and some men will rationally analyze who is right and who is wrong, not. However, the daughter-in-law also has her own ideas. If her husband blindly allows himself to be patient, she will be very wronged. Once she has a grudge because of these things, the relationship between husband and wife will also be affected.
4. The mother-in-law is too controlling or doesn't care about anything.
It is often seen that some married women complain that their mother-in-law is Empress Dowager Cixi, and she is too controlling and has to take care of everything. Some complain that her mother-in-law is a "hands-on shopkeeper" and waits for her to serve without taking care of anything. In fact, what her mother-in-law did was related to her own personality and experience. Mother-in-law is human, sometimes for the benefit of the younger generation, but sometimes, she will go too far. Sometimes, as a daughter-in-law, she can let her husband talk to persuade her. If you really can't convince her, you don't have to live under the same roof. After all, everyone wants to be good to this family, but if such a thing makes everyone unhappy, living together will only make each other miserable.
"Stay together, but don't be too reluctant if you don't get along." There are some similarities between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If they don't get along, there is no need to let them live separately, communicate occasionally and not interfere with each other, which can make the family relatively harmonious and make each other comfortable.