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But now it seems that the main force of babies born after 80 s and 90 s does not have this idea.

Influenced by modern concepts, the post-80s and post-90s with higher knowledge will agree that having children is not for them to support their old age. On the contrary, as parents, we should think more about our children and not drag them down in our later years.

If you really want to keep your children out of trouble and drag them down in their later years, you have to be "prepared" before retiring at the age of 60.

What preparations do we need to make? The following points can be understood in advance.

Save your pension.

Nowadays, many post-80s and post-90s don't think that raising children is to prevent old age. The reason is actually very realistic.

Because many parents know in their hearts that children have their own lives and families to maintain when they grow up, even if they live in their sons' homes, they are likely to be disharmonious. After all, when children grow up and have their own ideas, a generation gap sometimes appears.

Those families who live comfortably in their old age are only superficial harmony. In fact, there are often small contradictions and conflicts. In order to live a more comfortable life, some post-80s and post-90s people don't want to raise children for their old age.

After all, the society is different now, and the pace of life of young people is faster. If you say that you are old and you have to move to give them trouble, there will definitely be contradictions. Moreover, even if their children are willing to accept themselves, many elderly people always feel that they are not used to living in another environment, or that they are comfortable alone.

If I don't want my children to support the elderly in my heart, then first:

When you are young, you must save enough money for your pension.

Although money is not everything, it is absolutely impossible to have no money, especially for the elderly, who have to save their pension money to have confidence. This pension money not only refers to our usual daily expenses, but also includes occasional medical expenses.

Let yourself have a stronger body.

Besides preparing money, we should also prepare a healthy body. After all, health is the capital of revolution.

Nowadays, many elderly people pay great attention to health preservation, and will spend more time exercising to keep healthy after retirement.

Like some elderly people, they usually dance square dance and play Tai Ji Chuan, which are actually very good ways for the elderly to keep fit. If you don't want to be sick all over when you get old, you should pay attention to strengthening physical exercise before you retire, so that you can have a stronger body.

In this way, it will not increase the burden on children, but also make their later life more comfortable.

We should adjust our mentality.

Before we retire, we should also be psychologically prepared and adjust our mentality.

Many people are busy with work every day before retirement, and they don't feel empty and lonely, but after retirement, they can use more time in their lives. There is no work to do every day, so my heart is often a little empty. At this time, many negative emotions will follow.

If you really don't want to live with your children, don't want to burden them, and just want to live the life of an old couple, then you should adjust your mentality at work, knowing that life in your later years is bound to be a little lonely. In this way, we will not be filled with sudden loneliness and emptiness, nor will we have mental illness.

Reduce dependence on children

The last thing we need to prepare is our mentality. Besides being able to accept loneliness, we should also:

Reduce dependence on children.

When children are young, it is children who depend on us, but with the growth of age, in fact, some people will increase their dependence on children. If you are extremely dependent on your children, it will be difficult for you to be happy in your later years.

Because all the love of children will not be on their parents, they have their own homes and children who need love. Even if they love their parents very much, it is difficult to have both.

Therefore, if you want to live a happier and more comfortable life in your old age, don't rely so much on your children, live your own life and find some fun to enrich your time, so that you won't be too lost.

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Nowadays, many parents don't really want to spend their old age with their children and don't want to disturb them. If they have plans in this regard, then we must make the above preparations in advance.

Adapt yourself to an independent life, just as we teach our children to be independent when they are young. Only in this way can we live a happier life in our later years and our children will feel more relaxed.

Parents, will you choose to spend your old age with your children?

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