The so-called "a gentleman is far from the kitchen" comes from the chapter of Mencius Liang Wang Hui: "A gentleman is also an animal. Seeing his life, he can't bear to see his death; I can't bear to eat its meat when I hear its voice. Far cooking is also a gentleman. " This is because Qi Xuanwang asked Mencius about the hegemony of Qi Huan and Jin Wen, but Mencius didn't talk about "hegemony" and "kingliness". He expounded Qi Xuanwang's "exchanging sheep for cattle" and thought that Qi Xuanwang had compassion, which was the basis of benevolent governance.

"Book of Rites Jade Algae" also said, "A gentleman can cook far away, but he can practice it if he has blood." It means that a gentleman should stay away from killing flesh and blood. "A gentleman is far from the kitchen" means that a gentleman is kind-hearted and can't bear to see the killing. Therefore, staying away from the kitchen does not mean that a gentleman should not go into the kitchen and be ashamed to cook. Mencius believed that the human heart has four ends. He said: "compassion is the purpose of benevolence;" The heart of shame and evil, the end of righteousness; The words of the heart are the end of the ceremony; The heart of right and wrong is also the end of wisdom. "

These four hearts are shared by all people and are also the basis of goodness. If people can recognize the existence of these four minds and raise them from the end, they can do justice and become saints. He linked the mind, nature and heaven, and thought that the "four ends" were inherent in the human heart and endowed by heaven, and the goodness of human nature was the true nature of natural people. Only by admitting from the heart can the motivation emerge in the heart. "A gentleman cooks far away" just conforms to this human nature, allowing people to actively practice morality and cultivate a gentleman's personality.

"Stop at the best" is the ideal of human beings, the realm of saints and the goal of being a good person. He who has compassion and realizes it and tries to practice it is a gentleman in practice. If we can turn this occasional charity into a lasting charity, we will become a positive result and a real gentleman. The biggest difference between a gentleman and a villain is that a gentleman always has good thoughts, while Zhi Zhi is determined to be good.