Aunt was very beautiful when she was young. I remember when I was in junior high school, a classmate happened to meet my aunt and asked me for her photos every day. She also vowed to marry her when she grew up, and even studied harder than before. Although, my aunt is eleven or twelve years older than us. Seeing each other now and then, he still remembers his aunt.
Like many beautiful girls, ZSZSZSZ has a strong personality. Although arranged marriage was still popular in rural areas, the matchmaker broke the threshold of grandma's family, and one of the suitors was the only college student in their village at that time. However, they were all rejected by menstruation. Finally, it was the son of the director of a state-owned enterprise in the city who won her heart.
However, this marriage was not blessed by both parents. Grandma and grandpa, who are experienced in life, instinctively oppose their coming together. However, no one can beat her. Finally, the family gave her a grand wedding and married her to that bastard.
They were still in love after marriage, and soon their first son was born. Life seems to be getting better and better.
However, in 1998, state-owned enterprises began to close down, and both aunts and uncles lost their jobs. My little uncle, who is usually idle, began to use his brain to engage in illegal activities with a group of friends.
Aunt opened a fruit shop by herself, and supported her family by herself. She was extremely proud of her uncle's behavior and strongly opposed it from the beginning. I have asked my uncle to break up with those friends many times, but my little uncle only keeps in touch with those friends on the surface and privately.
In the next ten years, my uncle was sentenced to two fixed-term imprisonment, and the detention center was entered countless times. Every time, it was my aunt who struggled to redeem him. And every time I said I would change, but it didn't take long for my old illness to recur and I was arrested again.
However, she never took the initiative to tell her parents, brothers and sisters about these things, and she has been silently enduring all this. Until he finally fell ill, only a few months later, he died.
I have an aunt whose youngest son works in a government unit. He looks like a serious man, but he is just not serious. A seemingly happy family with a wife and a son was a mess because of an extramarital affair.
This son hooked up with a female doctor in the acupuncture department in the hospital. They all have families, but they participate openly. There are rumors in the unit that they are thick-skinned and go their own way. Finally, they were caught by her husband at the woman's house. As a result, the woman's husband had a cerebral hemorrhage in a rage and was paralyzed in bed.
The man's wife also knew about it and made many troubles. Men have always maintained this shameless relationship. For the sake of her son, the wife had to submit to humiliation. In my 30 s, my period didn't come, and the whole person looked dark yellow, and then thyroid cancer was detected this spring.
I have met many unhappy women. Long-term depression, anxiety and anger can easily make them pale, and their temper can easily become more and more violent. Some people even have irregular menstruation, and even endocrine disorders lead to early menopause, while others suffer from neurasthenia, insomnia and even other physical diseases.
Actually think about it, why, who can't live without it? Instead of being so depressed for a long time, it is better to be free and easy, leave love rat as soon as possible and start over. After all, you are in poor health and no one can suffer for yourself!
I'm having an affair with my husband, too. I'm thinking about all the ups and downs of me and him in this 12 year. Often shed tears, often insomnia and dreaminess, and get sick after a long time. Liver fire, stomach often feels like fire, chest sometimes feels dull pain, mammary gland hyperplasia. ...
Later, I went to the hospital for an examination. The doctor said that I was caused by a heart attack, so I put aside my troubles and live a happy life without any problems. Since I came back from the exam, I took my children out to eat, drink and have fun every day, putting everything down and not taking any medicine. When you are in a good mood, you will get well naturally.
When the second child was in confinement, I found that he was still shaking, said a lot of disgusting things to her and sent her 520 yuan money. At this time, I completely collapsed. I cried for a few days and have been confined for two months. I can't see my eyes, my eyes are blurred. I regret it! I hate him very much.
Living in a depressed environment for a long time will not have a good result, and all aspects of psychology, physiology and spirit will get sick.
My hometown neighbor gave birth to two daughters, some of whom are probably daughters. They have been working hard until their two daughters are in their twenties and they have no boys. My husband still insists on having a son, and my wife is getting worse and worse with age. So the man found his third son outside to drag out an ignoble existence and gave birth to a boy. My wife was very angry and found out breast cancer within a few months. After a year of treatment, she left. !
Suppressing your emotions for a long time will definitely hurt your health.
There are two situations, one is an outbreak, which becomes irritable and irritable, and the liver yang is hyperactive, which will lead to kidney deficiency and spleen deficiency for a long time. One is to suppress yourself from erupting, which will form stagnation of liver qi for a long time and affect the operation of qi and blood.
I'll talk about my opinion later. We should learn to adjust our emotions. If the opponent is too tough, he should learn Tai Chi from Zhang Wuji. Zhang Sanfeng said: "He forced him to be strong, and the breeze blew his post and let him cross, and the bright moon shone on the river." It is necessary to take out "let him be three feet" and solve the contradiction unilaterally.
Hello, how unhappy is your unhappy marriage? Because your question is too general, I can only give you some general views, hoping to help you.
The reasons for unhappy marriage are actually varied, and the psychological problems caused by different situations naturally cannot be exactly the same.
Generally speaking, if the marriage caused by domestic violence is often unhappy, the possible mental illness will be multiple personalities, which is what we all call schizophrenia. Because the daily life in the family is particularly painful, whether psychologically or physically, the victims will subconsciously choose to escape, and the direct consequence of psychological escape is to selectively avoid their unpleasant memories and give birth to a new personality to help them share the pressure brought by the family.
If it is because of infidelity or lack of communication that two people have nothing to say, and you feel that you can't get the care and love you deserve in this family, which leads to an unhappy marriage, then the easy situation is depression. Because of the inner depression, there is no place to say a lot of words, so I can only suppress myself in my inner world all day. Over time, the victims are increasingly reluctant to communicate with others, and they don't know how to communicate effectively with people around them. This repetition and vicious circle will eventually make the victims of marriage escape from themselves, deny themselves, distrust everything around them, and finally close themselves up and become more and more depressed.
You will be depressed. I have been married for seven years. From the third year of high school to the present, we have been quarreling. From the beginning, I complained to others. Now I don't mention my husband to others, and I don't want anyone to mention him. I don't like the excitement recently. When there are many people, I have nothing to say to others. I feel that nothing in my marriage can satisfy me except children. Others have advised me that my husband is fine, but just like wearing shoes, only I know whether it is appropriate or not. Although I didn't go to the hospital for examination, I have obviously felt my change. Marriage, whether good or not, is the woman who suffers the most.
Marriage is not happy, what disease can you get from long-term depression?
Marriage is beautiful for everyone's wishes. Every young man and woman walks into the marriage hall with a beautiful vision, but some marriages come to a dead end because of everyone's different cognition.
Why on earth is this?
In the final analysis, it is because the initial "three views" are different, and incorrect cognition leads to ignorance of what is right and wrong, and ignorance of what is true love.
Because of the lack of true love, there is no tolerance between husband and wife. They always find fault with each other, only see each other's shortcomings and magnify them infinitely. They always compare their own advantages with each other's shortcomings and ignore their own shortcomings and the advantages of others.
As the saying goes, "I am red-haired, but I also call others goblins." Under such a misconception, the result of comparison is that the other party is not good at anything, and then dislikes the other party, which eventually leads to an unhappy marriage.
People have been living in unhappy marriages for a long time. Because I can't communicate effectively, I can't fully vent my depression and keep it in my heart for a long time. In the long run, this negative emotion will cause physical discomfort and eventually form physical diseases. Such as breast cancer, uterine fibroids, chest tightness and shortness of breath, nameless headache and so on.
Man is actually a precise machine with strong self-regulation function. Long-term depression will lead to endocrine disorders, chest tightness, headache, constipation, shaking hands, involuntary heartbeat and other symptoms due to the influence of negative emotions. Some women also get breast hyperplasia and uterine fibroids. If you don't adjust your mood in time, you will eventually get breast cancer and uterine cancer and lose your life.
It has been confirmed by scientific research that more than 90% of people's physical diseases are caused by negative emotions. Some statistics say it is 80%, while others say it is 70%. In short, most people's diseases are caused by negative emotions, which will eventually lead to mental illness.
Depression caused by disharmony between husband and wife is actually a mental illness, and physical problems are actually the result of long-term depression.
Through investigation, it is found that many couples' unhappy family life will lead to mental illness. This is a terrible disease, which makes life worse than death, and life worse than death, suffering day and night in pain. Mental illness is often referred to as depression, anxiety, phobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder and other mental diseases.
In everyone's cognition, depression is often associated with narrow-mindedness, lack of responsibility, parasites, irresponsibility and even suicide. In the usual impression, depression is synonymous with atavism, lifelong illness and incurable.
Under these misconceptions, all patients with mental illness such as depression will lose hope in life and confidence in the future, so they cannot live happily.
"People live a breath, trees live a skin", which is what we often say. A person lives by spirit. If a person has no spirit, then his or her life will lose its luster and he or she will suffer from mental illness after a long time. Once he (she) suffers from depression, he (she) will live as a walking corpse and become a living dead!
This kind of life is a painful life, and that kind of pain is really worse than death. That's why so many people (actually depressed patients) are desperate to jump off a cliff and commit suicide in various ways, because he (she) is more uncomfortable alive than dead, and that kind of mental pain is beyond ordinary people's imagination and understanding.
Therefore, the life of husband and wife is unhappy, and long-term depression is a terrible thing. You must try your best to get out of the predicament, or you are either crazy or dead!
Therefore, I suggest that interested friends can learn the classic of Chinese studies "The Emperor's Internal Classic", which can not only improve your ideological cognition, but also participate in your path of traditional Chinese medicine.
The essence of Huangdi Neijing is "treating the disease first, then treating the disease later". This concept is of great significance to a person's health care and will be of great help to a person's health care!
If you only want to learn the wisdom of not getting sick and don't want to learn medical skills, you only need to read these 20 words.
These 20 words teach you the highest way to stay healthy. Medical skills are used to treat diseases. The way to keep healthy is not to make you sick. Which realm is higher?
These 20 words can't be bought by any money or jewelry in the world. They are priceless treasures in life. Why do people get sick and live longer? The secret is in these 20 words.
These 20 words are: the method should be yin and yang, the technique should be counted, the diet should be moderate, the daily life should be regular, and you can get something for nothing.
Unfortunate marriage, long-term depression is very harmful to body and mind, especially to women. Just watched a video, the woman who suffered from domestic violence was hospitalized, but she stood up strongly. She told all women who suffered from domestic violence not to be depressed, but to get out of the predicament, regardless of whether they were injured or not.
The neighbor's daughter Xiaohua is 40 years old this year. She married a scum man and did nothing all day, so her children couldn't afford to go to school. Xiaohua was humiliated and scolded by herself. One night, Xiaohua came home suddenly, frightened her parents and asked her what was wrong. She said her chicken was missing and she came out to look for it. Her parents knew that their daughter was angry when they saw her look wrong and there was blood on her face.
Poor Xiaohua suffers from mental illness. He cries for chicken every day. Everyone sees it in their eyes and hurts in their hearts. Finally, with the help of parents, Xiaohua divorced and the boy went to find the man. Xiaohua has rested at home for several years, and her spirit is much better. Someone found her a date. The man is very kind to her, and Xiaohua's conditions are much better. Finding a lover who knows how to be warm and cold is the greatest spiritual comfort. Xiaohua is very happy now, I believe she will recover better, and I hope more people will come out of the unfortunate marriage. Don't let the pain be suppressed and buried!