We are not gods, immortals or saints. We can only use some existing "tricks" to adjust our emotions, and then form habits, so as to achieve the purpose of maintaining health and longevity. The commonly used methods to control and adjust emotions are emotional control, empathy, sublimation and detachment, suggestion, enlightenment, moderation and catharsis.
Emotion control method: According to the principles of emotion and the five internal organs, yin and yang, Chinese medicine uses the mutual restriction of emotion to transfer and interfere with emotions that are harmful to the body, so as to achieve the purpose of coordinating emotions. For example, happy and sad people will be defeated by fear; Thinking about hurting the spleen, winning with anger; Sad people will win with joy; Those who are afraid of hurting the kidney will win by thinking; Anger hurts the liver, but sorrow wins.
Empathy: Empathy is an important part of mental health preservation, which mainly means that in the face of complex emotional changes, we should be good at adjusting emotions and self-resolving, and we can properly vent emotions or actively transfer emotions, so that emotional activities will not go too far, thus maintaining a good mental state. Commonly used empathy methods are:
Self-consolation method. That is, take a step back and think about it and ease your troubles. When you encounter unpleasant things in your life, you'd better comfort yourself, get inspiration from experience and lessons, get rid of them and turn unhappiness into happiness.
Self-control of the will. If you are angry, it is easy to lose your mind, so you should first control your consciousness and try to reduce the emotional reaction of being angry. You can use language or words as a medium to help. Attention transfer method. Through self-regulation, we can shift our attention to other things and change our goals subjectively, thus alleviating bad emotions. When we calm down and return to the original problem, we can not only achieve the purpose of adjusting our mood, but also avoid making wrong judgments because of impulse and reduce losses. Basically, we can force ourselves to do things that we are usually interested in, such as consciously singing, listening to music, reading newspapers, teasing children and so on. In order to get fun from it and restore people's calm mood. Sublimation and detachment: This method is often encountered and used to convince others. Like turning grief into strength. The principle of this method is to be good at controlling one's emotions, turning bad emotions into enthusiasm and working hard in adversity when encountering unsatisfactory things. In this way, I can not only make myself do something, but also get free from doing something. The most typical example is Sima Qian in the Western Han Dynasty, who was imprisoned for crimes and was seriously corrupt. Sima Qian devoted himself to the writing of Historical Records with a strong and unyielding spirit, relieved his worries with Shu, and turned bad stimuli such as physical and mental trauma into aggressive actions. Hint: Hint not only affects people's psychology and behavior, but also affects people's physiological functions. Generally, verbal cues are often used, and signs such as gestures, expressions or hints of drugs can also be used. The story of "looking at plum to quench thirst" in Romance of the Three Kingdoms is a typical suggestive example. Enlightenment: it is to explain, encourage, comfort and encourage patients, relieve their ideological worries and improve their confidence in overcoming diseases, so as to cooperate with treatment and promote rehabilitation. Neijing recorded the method of enlightenment, saying, "When people die, their feelings are happy and they are told that they have failed. Good words, convenient guidance, and opening as well as possible. Although there are no people, evil does not listen. " The Doctrine of the Mean: The ancients said: "If you want to have feelings, you will have a good mood. If you practice it, you will stop wanting, and you can't do it." I'm talking about moderation here. In other words, psychological balance can be achieved by relaxing emotions and preventing the seven emotions from being too intense. Drainage method: As the saying goes, "It's not as good as people's wishes, not as good as people's wishes." If something goes wrong, if you press it hard in your heart, you will get sick, which can be solved by venting. You can talk to your friends for comfort, or have a good cry, or write a poem to dispel the stagnation, fully express your inner feelings and vent them.