I have seen that love should be seen before, and the point of view of children's love should be said, whether it is watching or saying, is to encourage parents to express their love and practice it in action. Indeed, love needs to be seen, and only when it is seen can children feel the happiness of being loved; Love should be said. Love is the warmest emotion. Only by speaking out can we establish a close parent-child relationship with our children. I still feel a little confused when I see that love is to be heard today. Love is an emotion that can only be felt. Love is a visible action. How can you say you can hear? After listening to the lecture, I found that love can really be heard, connected in listening and empowered in dialogue.
Coach Chen Fang said: "Every conversation is a reflection of each other's life. We just need to listen quietly, learn from children and recall our existing wisdom, learn from children how to love unconditionally, and believe that every angel seen will shine. " Every child is an independent individual who needs to be respected and understood, and also needs to be seen and affirmed. Every child can bloom in different colors, and every child is the most beautiful angel. Looking back on family life, have you really seen children? Perhaps you see more children's scores and obedience than children's growth; What you see is the child's grades and competition results, not the child's inner feelings. There is a saying in the domestic basic education circle: Don't let children lose at the starting line, so many children are forced to enroll in various cram schools before school starts, just to start early and save energy. It is precisely because of parents' excessive anxiety that children are rarely seen and rarely listened to.
The process of children's growth is the process of trial and error. In real life, parents pretend to be authority. They don't allow their children to make mistakes and get emotional. In the face of children's mistakes and emotions, they will not talk about things, but will label their children disobedient, severely criticize them and even treat them with force. On the surface, children are educated, but the harm left to children will never be seen. This kind of education will only solve problems and lead to more problems. As Teacher Chen Fang said, "Life-inspiring education is about why, not what and how. Pay attention to why it is about people, pay attention to what and how things are. " In front of the problem, what we need is to stand in the child's position, like friends, and ask the child why this is the case, and the problem will come to the bottom. Perhaps it turns out that children are not annoying, but worthy of love and care.
Love is the most powerful energy in the universe. Love should be audible, learn to listen to children's growth stories, learn to accept and understand the mistakes and imperfections in children's growth, nourish children's life growth with love, and children's future will embrace infinite beauty.