Life never starts too late. If you want to be a better self, the best time is now, and it is also a good time to improve yourself in the future.
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Madame Curie wouldn't let her friends come to chat with her. She never put a chair in the living room, but devoted every minute to scientific research. ...
Flaubert's family often hangs a sign on the door when they are at home, which reads "The Master has traveled far" and tells them to concentrate on writing quietly. ...
Franklin said that time is the substance of life.
What you choose to enrich your time, what you choose to enrich your life, and where you spend your time, you will become what kind of person.
Time doesn't lie, judging a person depends on where he spends his time, and high-level people never spend their time on these three things.
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Don't spend time complaining about not working hard.
There is a fable:
Swan and duck are brothers, swan is brother and duck is brother. When they grow up, they learn to fly with the eagle as their teacher.
After only three days of study, the duck complained about his poor birth. If only he had been born in a family like an eagle and been able to fly since he was a child.
The swan comforted the duck that no one can fly naturally, and even the eagle must study hard to practice flying skills.
The eagle agreed that it is common for his children to scratch their wings and twist their necks in order to practice flying.
Hearing this, the duck stopped complaining, but after a few days, he began to be restless again. "The eagle starts high, and I can't practice it any more. I won't learn ... "
The swan tried to persuade, but the duck left and went to the Golden Eagle to study.
A few days later, he complained about the bad environment. "Can such a hillside practice peerless kung fu?" So he ran away again.
In this way, he traveled from one place to another, learning from seagulls at sea, seeking advice from vultures in the desert and learning from falcons in the forest. ...
The result was all in vain, because he kept complaining and complaining, either because the teacher was poor or because the environment was bitter.
Over the years, the flying ability of ducks has not improved at all, just barely shuttled between ponds.
And his younger brother Swan, without complaining, only tried to change and became an aviator that many people couldn't catch up with.
There are many people around us who complain like ducks, but don't blame yourself:
They regard complaining as a habit, always make excuses for themselves, or stagnate or make no progress, and as a result, they accomplish nothing. It's not so much that some people are ill as that they are not cultivated enough.
Because high-level people know that the key to life is not to get a good deck of cards, but how to play a bad deck of cards well. They never take the time to complain and always try to change.
As American billionaire Johnson said, "I will curse when I meet obstacles, and then move a ladder to climb over."
2
Don't spend time on gossip that has nothing to do with you.
There is an old saying in the west: it is better to say nothing than not to say good things about others.
Obviously, it is to warn the world to learn to praise and respect when interacting with others, but unfortunately it has not attracted enough attention.
I heard a friend tell the story of her former colleague Jason.
Jason and she are in the same office. When everyone is seriously immersed in their work, Jason always talks to someone, but what Jason says is gossip.
"The elevator ran into my colleague Daling downstairs. Today, she is carrying a Chanel bag, which is a copy. You see her usual pilling clothes, how can she afford such an expensive bag ... "
"There is nothing wrong with the section chief surnamed Duan. I heard that he recently divorced again, and even married a little girl 20 years younger than him. The little girl doesn't know how much longer she can hold on ... "
These unproductive chats delayed others' time, aroused others' antipathy and exposed their own level.
A friend said that Jason's working ability is not solid, he loves gossip and is unwilling to dig deep into business. She works eight hours and spends more than half of her time chatting.
On one occasion, the direct leader asked her to prepare a work report for the head office on WeChat. As a result, she didn't react, and the leader who didn't know went straight over and found her gossiping about the private life of the star in the office.
The data made in a hurry is also full of loopholes, which makes the leader make a fool of himself when reporting, and never cares that she is the leader of the old employees' feelings again, and gives her a knife.
Once a friend and leader were on a business trip, and they were still worried about Jason's dismissal: "If you focus on these gossip things all day, how can you have the energy to work hard and how can you have the foresight to make suggestions for the company ..."
Lian Yue has a good saying: If you don't mind other people's private affairs, don't interfere, and allow others' morals and lifestyles to be different from yours, you will eliminate more than 90% of the troubles in the world.
Bian Zhilin's "Broken Chapter" says that you are watching the scenery on the bridge, and the people watching the scenery are watching you upstairs.
Choose to be the highlight of the scenery or the audience and watch yourself, but high-level people never spend time watching other people's scenery, but only practice their own life.
three
Don't spend time on meaningless arguments.
When watching Ode to Joy, Andy is the most popular among the five beauties. His face value and IQ are high, but I appreciate her life principle-never waste time on meaningless arguments.
In one episode, Qiu Yingying was lovelorn and lost his job. Under the double blow, instead of going out to look for a job, she succeeded in motivating herself at home all day.
Andy kindly pointed out that don't blindly believe these inspirational books, and also pointed out that the logic of these inspirational books is unreasonable. I didn't expect Qiu Yingying to fly into a rage and argue with Andy.
When Andy saw this, he quickly turned and left. Qiu Yingying is adamant. First, I was bombed by WeChat, and then I sat at the door and scolded like a girl. Andy looked at the monitor at home and shook his head helplessly and said, "Don't talk to fools."
U.S. Treasury Secretary William McAdoo once said, "You can't beat an ignorant man with an argument."
Different levels, difficult to blend, different levels of people, destined to have different perceptions of the same thing, high-level people never take the time to care about winning or losing:
They won't argue unnecessarily, and the best way to speak is to keep silent, because they know that not everyone is worth explaining.
As Haruki Murakami wrote in A Cold Wonderland, there is a kind of sadness in the world that you can't cry. This kind of sadness cannot be explained to people, and even if it is explained, people will not understand it. It will never change, like snowflakes quietly deposited in my heart on a windless night.
After all, some words are meaningful only if they are told to people who understand, and the best way is to stay away.
As Lincoln said, "It is better to let the dog go first than to argue with it. If you are bitten by a dog, even if you kill the dog, you can't cure your wound. "
Writer Shen Congwen said: "I don't believe in fate, I don't recognize the status quo, but I respect time." I don't care much about the gains and losses in life, but I know the serious significance of time to the world and myself. "
Time deserves our infinite awe. Time can change everything. It is an attitude and wisdom for the top management not to spend time on these three things.
Seven Habits of Highly Effective People says: The most worthwhile time in life is to cultivate yourself.
Instead of wasting time on chatter, gossiping and arguing, it is better to cultivate yourself.
After all, on the battlefield of time, where you spend your time, you will become what kind of person.
For example, some people spend time reading, he gains knowledge, some people spend time writing, he gets money, some people spend time on fitness, he gets health …
But if you spend your time complaining, chatting and arguing, what will you get?
Indeed, the starting point of life is different, and the journey is different.
But if you spend a little more time to improve yourself, you can always gain a different self.
Never waste time complaining, gossiping and arguing, because what you miss is definitely not time, but an opportunity to exercise yourself.
Life never starts too late. If you want to be a better self, the best time is now, and it is also a good time to improve yourself in the future.