1. People are visual animals, and people pay more attention to beautiful things. Everyone has a love of beauty. This kind of beauty is to hope for one's own beauty and the other's beauty. It is true that the beauty is pleasing to the eye, otherwise how can it be said to be delicious?
Since ancient times, beauty has been a treasure in men's hearts, and it is their unswerving goal. In ancient times, there were Yu Ji of Xiang Yu, Yang Guifei of Tang Dynasty and Gao Yuanyuan of Wu Sangui. Countless princes and princes tried their best to win the hearts of beautiful women.
In today's society, the story of talents and beautiful women is still being staged, and the standards for beautiful women are stricter, with beauty and thinness as the standards. Beauty will add points to job hunting, signing contracts will be smoother, and interviews will be easier to pass. The first thing people see is looks, so having a good-looking face has become the goal pursued by women.
It is not an exaggeration to say "this is an era of looking at faces". This may be what the landlord said, "I'm afraid of ugliness and obesity."
2. If I can understand it as "I'm afraid of being ugly and fat", then "I'm afraid of being short and ugly" or even wondering about it, I can't agree with it.
Although I don't know what makes you think this way, first of all, I want to say that this is because you don't recognize yourself in your heart, and you will follow suit without your own values.
We lose weight when people say we are not fat, and we adjust our feet when they say we are ugly. That means the whole person is not good. Can we go back to mom's belly and start over? So it's not a problem of society, but a problem of one's own mentality.
Women in the new era are not accessories of some men, but live for some people, change themselves for some people and things, and finally become beautiful, but is that still you?
3. People should first be confident, identify with themselves, accept themselves frankly and love themselves. The so-called beauty and ugliness are only aesthetic standards in secular understanding, and it is not necessary to deny the truth because of some people and things.
As the saying goes, "There are no two identical leaves in the world", and everyone is unique, because uniqueness is precious. The face will grow old at any time, but a beautiful heart and interesting soul will last forever.
Although there are many examples of looking at faces in society, more people are still very discerning. People who are "beyond the golden jade, they are defeated" will be seen through sooner or later.
We can't just live in the eyes of others, we should live in our own world. Accepting their imperfect selves frankly, there are many fat women who show themselves generously on social platforms and win countless fans. At this time, people value their talents more than their weight.
4. Strengthen self-cultivation, dress appropriately, and be "poetic and pretentious". It is very comfortable to get along with such a woman, and talking to her is like spring breeze. This is the real beauty!
It is not difficult for a woman to have the spirit of self-confidence, the ability to support herself and a good attitude!
I think in the final analysis, as an adult, you haven't accepted yourself correctly. Your life is just to meet other people's expectations.
Why do you say that? I would like to say the following personal views for reference only:
What we should pursue in our life is freedom, that is, no longer pursuing recognition. If you blindly seek others' approval and care about others' comments, you will eventually live in others' lives.
Why are you afraid of being fat and ugly? Because what you care about is what others say about you. When you put too much energy into "meeting other people's expectations", life will become quite painful.
For example, I know a plastic surgeon. Her real identity is a mistress kept by a rich man. She was very afraid that wealthy businessmen would hate her face, which was no longer young with the passage of time, so she kept plastic surgery to stay young. Finally, when she was abandoned by a wealthy businessman, she also suffered a series of sequelae.
These feelings you mentioned can be collectively called "dissatisfaction with yourself", that is, inferiority complex.
In the face of inferiority, our most sound attitude should be to make up for the shortcomings through hard work and growth, but those who have no courage to change will fall into constant self-denial.
What you have to do: don't be afraid of others' hate, but go ahead, don't go with the flow, but go ahead. This is human freedom.
Many people's lives are actually ordinary lives. We have many shortcomings and many insurmountable congenital conditions. Only when we fully accept ourselves can you live freely.
Ordinary does not mean incompetent. Seriously do what you can do now and let time give you the answer.
Learning can increase our knowledge and push our cognition to a higher level.
Exercise can make us have more beautiful lines.
Go hiking and let the wonders of nature shock our understanding of beauty.
In short, never stand in the same place and feel sorry for yourself. When you do something with confidence, believe me, you will never be afraid of wolves and tigers, because you clearly know who I am and what I live for.
By that time, you will be a scenery of your own, and you will smell good without others' affirmation.
Women are not that hard.
First of all, I think women are emotional animals and pay special attention to these foreign objects. I didn't know that these things would pass with time, but their meaning was only at that moment.
If you look at the past now, what you are worried about is nothing now.
Secondly, you have experienced so few storms. When you have experienced many things, your skin is thicker and the shell that protects your heart is harder, you will still care about these.
I used to worry about not having a star in my homework when I was at school, but now I won't worry too much even if I don't do it perfectly at work.
Finally, life is your own life. Do you want to live for others or for yourself? If you can't figure this out, you'll never get out of this strange circle.
Life is a process of wanting to be happy and seeking happiness. Others think of your appearance just like cats look at people and people look at cats. Need to care? If you live high, you can be happy. If you always cater to other people's opinions, you will eventually know yourself.
The love of beauty has nothing to do with age, from three-year-old children to silver-haired old ladies, they are smashing themselves, showing themselves and leaving a beautiful side for others.
My little sister's three-year-old daughter has to choose her favorite clothes every morning when she gets up. Go to grandma's house on weekends, put on a princess dress with shiny little shoes.
Ask her why? She said: I am a princess, the princess is the most beautiful, and there are little stars on her shoes. When I go out, children will play with me.
Who says three-year-olds don't understand beauty!
I sometimes joke with my husband: you are like your mother, with thin legs and fat upper body, like a top.
My grandmother is over 70 years old. Every time I make clothes for her, she always tells me: the clothes should be shorter, the waist should be shorter, and the fabric should not be too fancy, but it should not be Tai Su, black, and so on.
This is a coat. You want me to take in a little waist. What about the waist? Fortunately, I am a tailor, and I revised it many times until she was satisfied.
After putting it on, I looked around in the mirror and said to myself, well, this dress is thin, the color is good, and my face is not so yellow.
After listening to Pippi's words, my husband and I snickered.
Tell me more about me. Every time I go to the mall and see a favorite style, I ask the clerk to bring XXL.
Sorry, this one is only available in ⅹ L. Why don't you try this one? A T-shirt skirt.
Every time I go to the mall, I get hit in the face and go home. Husband is still weak: when I met you, I didn't wear size S.
Am I fat? You didn't make me fat. When I was born, I was always asked to eat more milk. I gained 10 kg, but I haven't lost weight yet.
When my husband saw it, he was angry and laughed: It is better to be fat, and it is blessed to be fat, which proves that I am good to you and makes you fat for nothing.
Oh, it's not the Tang Dynasty now. You think it's Yang Guifei! Mary is a powerful fat model with 3.92 million fans. Today, I am still tossing myself on the way to lose weight.
Therefore, women love to toss themselves. If you are fat, you want to be thin, and if you are thin, you want to gain weight. Ugliness envies beauty, beauty
I wish I were more beautiful.
I hope all the women in the world are beautiful, healthy and confident! Even if you are too old to go, don't forget to show your beauty in your own way until you are elegant and old!
Why not be afraid that if you don't work hard enough, you will not keep up with the times, be left behind by society, and care about these superficial things. A woman cares about her appearance, that is, she cares about her appearance in the eyes of others. This is the emotion she will have when she is ignorant in front of us. As a mature woman, she knows that her ability and value are far greater than her appearance, so enriching connotation and cultivation is the key to a woman.
We can't deny that in today's society, whether it is children or adults, whether it is life or work. The first impression conveyed by appearance is standard. But after a long period of understanding and contact. We gradually found that appearance does not represent the essence of this person, and appearance can only give people the first sensory impression. So we need to get to know a person better through long-term contact and accumulation. This reflects what I just said. As a woman, the most critical quality lies in connotation and cultivation, not gorgeous appearance. As the most mature person, he will not only look at your appearance, but also your ability. Whether you can calmly deal with all the sudden problems in today's society. This is the talent we need now, not a gorgeous vase. Vases are everywhere, but talents are indispensable in today's society. The first fortune. I hope my answer can help you, and you also hope that all women are not only gorgeous in appearance, but also more beautiful in heart. Like this ugly orange, ugly, but sweet, right?
Hello, I'm Shen, the secretary of zz Entertainment. Let me give you my opinion.
As the saying goes, everyone loves beauty, especially in the eyes of girls. As the old saying goes, "A scholar dies for a confidant, and a woman looks forward to her own happiness", which shows that many women are naturally fond of beauty and like to dress up to please the people they like. This was the case in ancient times, and it is also the case today.
As we all know, women are emotional animals by nature and pay special attention to their appearance all the time. Dressing thin and undressing with meat should be what every girl is pursuing.
As the subject said, I used to be afraid of ugliness and obesity, but now I am afraid of being short and ugly. This just proves that no matter how long the times have changed, women will always love beauty. Let's talk about being afraid of ugliness and obesity in the past. Indeed, in the 1980 s, it was an era of looking at faces. Or at that time, all the girls may not have changed their ideas, but just entered the beginning of fashion trends. I'm still conservative about dress, and I'm not too embarrassed to dress too exposed. A good face and slim figure have become a symbol of the beauty of girls in the whole era, and everyone is eager for it. Slimming and face-lifting occupy a lot of girls' talk topics.
Now, as a woman of 2 1 century, her mind and body have undergone great changes. Love beauty and be more enthusiastic. Beauty salons and gyms are all over the country, which shows that women are now pursuing beauty. The tall figure and slender legs represent the present female beauty. Is it ugly? Nothing, like at home or abroad, plastic surgery hospitals are open all over the country. Only you have the financial strength, spending a little money casually can make you look beautiful. But for height, it is not so easy to do. Height is beyond your control. She comes from her parents' genes. As we all know, which one do you think is short now? Standing on the runway, some women who love beauty are envious and jealous. Of course, having a pair of small and exquisite feet is also a kind of capital to show off to the outside world, and saving face is not just a man's patent.
As the saying goes, men love chic and women love beauty, and this truth remains unchanged. Especially for women's pursuit of beauty, this is understandable.
In short, there is no problem that women are difficult.
I think a woman's difficulty depends on her own mentality. Fear of ugly face, fear of being fat, fear of being short and fear of ugly feet, all these fears you mentioned actually come down to external things, and I think you take this aspect too seriously.
In fact, I think the charm of women is not only manifested in appearance, but also in talent and kindness inside and outside.
Qi Xuanwang's queen has no salt, and Zhuge Liang's wife Huang Achou is notoriously ugly, but they conquered everyone with their talents. Who dares to despise them since ancient times?
Our artist Han Hong, her face and figure do not meet the aesthetic standards of modern people, but who can not but admire her kindness and kindness? Who dares to call her ugly?
Therefore, I think that no matter how beautiful the appearance is, it will grow old one day. There is really no need to be too obsessed with face value. It is equally important to enrich your inner self.
When a person is poetic and bookish, even if she looks ordinary, her talent will make her look radiant.
To be a woman, we should strive to enrich ourselves, believe that we are the most perfect now, and don't care too much about superficial things and other people's eyes.
It is difficult not only for women but also for men.
A woman's appearance is an important bargaining chip in choosing a mate. I have to admit that people who are good-looking will have a much smoother road than ordinary people.
Those who are good-looking and in good shape have even more job opportunities than others. No matter what era, what society, advanced or backward, everyone likes good-looking people. It is human nature to pursue beauty.
Appearance is not everything. In this world that always values face, if you can't please people, then you can only try to tap other highlights of yourself! To get more social resources.
The same is true for men. What kind of height disability is the first-class and second-class disability directly determines that the love blind date market is not good, or even there is no way to go!
Everything comes from your mentality! First of all, you should respect yourself. You are unique. Don't envy others. The person you love most and can't live up to in this world is yourself first. If you are good enough to yourself, you will be happy. If you don't like yourself, how can you love others? So don't dislike being fat, thin, tall and short. In fact, each has its own beauty. Women must have confidence. Everyone is not perfect. I think that no matter how beautiful a man or woman looks, it is best to have a kind heart, which is the real beauty!
Your question is very feminine. Still a girl who lacks self-confidence. The ugliness of girls has both shortcomings and advantages. Someone teased the ugly daughter-in-law: I feel sad when I see nausea, and I feel relieved when I go out! Relatively speaking, although the beautiful daughter-in-law saw the temptation, she was willing to mention it, but she was not at ease when she went out. Girls who don't love beauty, there are people who love beauty, but what is more worthy of love is not just appearance but character and quality. There is a saying: women are cute not because they are beautiful, but because they are cute. You say you are ugly, but you will still be loved because you are gentle, considerate, considerate, virtuous and reasonable As for being fat or not, think about Yang Guifei. Being fat fascinated the monarch and set off a national style of loving fat. Being short is not a problem. Women are short and have high heels to make up for it. Everyone likes carrots and vegetables. In the past, it was a popular "variety show" to call short people "short people"! In addition, studies have proved that short people live longer. Therefore, we can be happy only by adjusting our mentality, being optimistic and confident, and being healthy and lovely.