Everyone is particularly contemptuous. They called him an apple polisher in private, and thought this behavior was particularly shameful and looked down upon. His friends reported him in private, but he didn't expect Xiao Ran to take it lightly. He continued to work hard in his flattery career and was promoted and raised only half a year after he joined the company. Among a group of people with similar business level, at this time, everyone couldn't hold it, and they came to learn from it.
"There is a saying among the people that' wear a thousand clothes without flattering'. "Flattering, as a traditional" martial art "in China, has been divided into three levels since its establishment: primary, advanced and master." Xiao Ran blurted out the theory of flattery without thinking, which shocked everyone and greatly praised it.
"Primary is a simple copy, and the formula is not new. Once it is too hard, it is easy to make people sick. Senior singers also like to find another way, dress, personality, habits, 360-degree front, pay attention to a just right, hit people's hearts. The more powerful point is to return to the original, and the specific analysis varies from person to person. In the flattering team with the same content, go straight to the bottom. " Xiao Ran told the secret he summed up, but the answer was obviously unsatisfactory. Who doesn't understand the truth? But in the specific operation, how to proceed, this is what everyone really cares about.
Xiao Ransi took a test and listed five dry goods in the workplace.
Step 1: Understand the leadership style.
Because each leader's personality is different, the way he adopts is of course different. For example, our director is obviously a hothead. If you want to ink on something that can be explained clearly in one or two sentences for a long time, you will certainly not have a good impression. So you must understand the tasks he assigned at the beginning and report the key nodes clearly. Don't delay them, make sure the leaders feel that everything is under control.
Our technical director is a typical science student, so we must ensure professionalism when communicating with him. Don't fool around with what can be explained in terms. Don't hesitate to mention what you really don't understand. After all, we are not an industry. At this time, sincere worship is ten thousand times better than giving gifts. Of course, if you encounter nepotism, you should remember one sentence to make others feel that you are one of us. In addition to business, you must have more contact in private. If people like fishing, you can give them bait. If people like sports, you will become a fitness expert every second. In a word, we are your own.
Step two: make up for the leadership defects.
If you take flattery as everything, you will never make it through the three episodes in the TV series. Therefore, you should not only know how to implement, but also have strength, and it is best to make up for the lack of leadership style.
Our director is resolute, and he can't know the progress and difficulty of the work clearly, but you must take a clear-cut stand and reserve time for each link. Don't panic because of lack of time, especially anything that our leaders need to communicate with their superiors. Be sure to remind him that the progress of the task is as big as a typo, so that our leaders can be calm and calm when they go out for a meeting.
Step 3: There is a difference between flattery.
The first person who does anything is a genius, the second is a mediocrity, and the third is a fool. The most taboo of flattery is to repeat what others say. Even if it is really flattering, the leader will probably get tired of listening to it for 70 or 80 times. So praise others must be different, find that others have not found their own advantages, and then wake up and praise.
Step 4: Casual flattery.
Flattery in front of others is flattery, giving people the feeling that there is a purpose. But if he hears compliments from others, then this flattery is absolutely valuable.
Step 5: Pay attention to the true feelings.
In fact, it's hard to say, and it's easy to say, as long as you have a heart to observe others and see the bright spots in others. Never say that the other person really has nothing to boast about. There are always the advantages of decent clothes, good mental outlook and family members. There is always something to show off about work achievements and glorious history. In short, this kind of praise must be sincere, mixed with some seeking truth from facts.
Don't feel stupid and can't say a flower. You know, glib talk is only a traitor's expedient measure, and true feelings are the ultimate weapon to obtain interpersonal interests.
When Xiao Ran said these words, everyone subconsciously gave him a thumbs-up and gave him a hard knock. If Xiao Ran hadn't said so much today, you would never have imagined that there are so many things to pay attention to when kissing up. People's EQ really makes them feel ashamed. Privately, I think it's time to practice my EQ and learn from others' words and deeds.
When it comes to "flattery", many people think it is the behavior of a villain, but I think it is a matter of different opinions. We all know that hard work is the ability that employees need most, not intelligence. I've never met a man with a clean mouth who can't work. At most, he spends less time in exchange for the same or even more work income.
We must know that there is no one in this world who doesn't like to hear good things, so doing things well is an ability, and it is also an ability to be good at reading leaders' minds and meeting leaders' needs.
Leaders appreciate an employee not only because he can speak well, but also because he can really bring benefits to the company. Only in this way can he appreciate and get a raise. When you are unhappy, you should clearly realize that this is the reality. When you can't change the reality, maybe you can try to change yourself.
Xiao Yu author
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