From 20 14 to 20 17, I struggled in the workplace, and my children grew from 1 0 to 4 and a half years old. After a few years, I didn't feel how much money I earned, just to maintain a well-paid job that outsiders thought was good, and I missed a lot of time with my children.
As a department head of the real estate industry, I am too tired to work, always working overtime, staying up late, staying up late and working overtime. I have been working overtime to write PPT for countless nights; Countless weekends, I have to go to the company for meetings and can't play with my children; Countless times, the child said that his mother played with me, and I said that his mother had to work overtime. I never ask for leave when my child is ill countless times, because the company has many tasks, and every time I refuse my child, I feel my heart is rock solid; Every time I send my children to help relatives, I always get out of the car in tears and say that as long as my mother is by my side, there will be no one to take care of my children during the summer vacation of 20 17. I send my children to my relatives' home every day and then go to work. My children cry every day when I get off the bus. About three days, I broke down inside and was kidnapped by my guilt about my children in recent years. I immediately went to naked resignation Company and gave up all my career prospects and future, as well as the appreciation of the leaders.
July 20 18, naked resignation gradually adapted to the life of a stay-at-home mother, and spent a lot of time shopping, cooking, washing clothes, taking care of the baby and traveling with her. However, only a stay-at-home mother can understand how anxious she is. I am worried about whether I will depreciate if I leave the workplace for a long time, and what should I do if I worry about my earning ability? The income structure of anxious families has changed from two people earning money to one person supporting the family. In a family, only one man earns money to support his family. To put it bluntly, there is no continuous income. My husband and wife used to work at the cost of selling time and sacrificing the freedom to accompany their children. ) I am worried that children's tuition, toys, extracurricular classes, study tours and summer camps are so expensive. Children who are anxious about others can study abroad during the summer vacation. Can you give them this international vision and knowledge? Please don't laugh at me. I am an anxious Chinese mother, because I want to give my children the best, but I can't get everything I wanted when I was a child.
I have been thinking all this time, because I feel very lost and at a loss. For a long time, I went to the library every day to read books and listen to the thoughts of those successful or outstanding people. There is a saying that reading is the lowest and noblest thing, and I quite agree with it. Reading makes me no longer afraid of the future, but I am still confused and don't know how to choose.
Because I have my own insistence on life and don't want to live a frugal life. One of my classmates, after becoming a full-time mother, is in such a frugal state. She doesn't buy clothes, make-up, do hair, make masks, get a fitness card, go to a beauty salon, sing, drink coffee or travel abroad. The money at home is only used to buy food and necessities. ...
I clearly know that I need all the above things. I need to buy clothes suitable for different seasons. Make-up makes me feel good, and hair makes me look young. I also need to make facial masks, apply for fitness cards, go to beauty salons, sing songs, love coffee, love traveling abroad, and especially love traveling abroad. Because the world is so big, I want to see it. I don't want to cancel all the above consumption just because I quit my job. I don't want to be timid and childless.
It was clear to me many years ago that I didn't want to be the kind of woman who bargained with others in the vegetable market for a dime or two, so I worked very hard and stayed up late. I didn't ask for leave without asking for leave. Work always comes first, because I like the sense of value brought by high income, and I don't have to save what I like. However, hard work brings regret that you can't accompany your children. My child has become sensitive, crying and timid. Later, my friend told me that the child was so lonely, because he lacked companionship, and because he worked overtime and stayed up late to write PPT for a long time. The cervical vertebra had a big problem and always hurt. Before the quarterly meeting, I can't stand the pain, so I go to the blind for massage to relieve it, and then I continue to work overtime, overtime, and so on.
Then I have been thinking, transformation, part-time, changing industries, what to do next. The treasure moms in the community are nothing more than the following States:
1. After giving birth to Erbao, she has been a full-time housewife all her life. Since then, her career has ended and her quality of life has plummeted. Everything is local.
2. Some stay-at-home mothers are unwilling to give up their development and income, and are unwilling to lower their quality of life. They have transformed into WeChat business or direct sales: Amway, Green Leaf, Perfect, Melody Home and WV Dream Tour. Meimei, who wears professional clothes in the community every day, invites you to have tea, chat and talk. ...
Some stay-at-home mothers take care of their families and children by finding a shop assistant at home. They earn 3000 yuan a month and work long hours. The morning shift is from 9 am to 6 pm, and the evening shift is from 2 noon to 9 pm. The income per unit time is pitifully low.
None of the above States is what I want. Things you like are expensive, and places you want to go are far away. For example, I want to see the world. I want to take my baby around the world. Until one day I saw Sen's post on Zhihu, the words freelancing in the field of online marketing attracted me greatly. This is balance, work, life, walking and traveling, and high-quality company is not bad. After paying attention to it for a while, in less than a month, I added Shengge's WeChat and learned about it for a while. I don't think I should be a liar. This is an era of knowledge payment. Last year, the tuition fee for the second-level constructor cost 7500 yuan. In my opinion, Internet marketing must be the most important since the media era, so I should spend my own money to learn a technology. In late July, I stopped worrying about being cheated and decided to start learning online marketing.
After listening to two classes, I am no longer anxious. Studying is not tiring for me at all. What I am most afraid of is the sense of powerlessness without a sense of purpose and knowing where the future lies. Shengji's class is simple and clear, full of dry goods, which makes me feel full of hope. As long as there is hope in life, I am not afraid of uncertainties in the future. Although my previous job paid well, we sacrificed time, sold time, worked overtime intensively, and accompanied our children. In the year of being a full-time mother, every time I take my baby to the library, I feel that some children brought by grandparents are obsessed with watching TV and playing games. In fact, every child likes reading and learning knowledge. The key is that mom and dad are at work, grandparents are old, and it is very tiring to take their children to buy food and cook. Old people whose physical strength has gone downhill can't be tied to energetic children at all. The most convenient way is to watch TV and play games for children and let the elderly have a rest. I once read an article that when children are 0-6 years old, they will throw them to the elderly to save trouble, and eventually you will take them away. This summer vacation, as a full-time mother, I take my baby to the library to read to my child every morning. I found that the child brought by an old man next door couldn't sit still. Grandpa said that the child just watches TV and plays games at home and doesn't like reading at all. The fundamental reason is that there is no good guide for children to read since childhood, and taking care of children is lazy and relaxed. Finally, it's the parents who pay the bill.
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These days, I'm taking notes while taking classes with my baby. I thought the Internet industry was a big change for me, but I found it was no stranger after class, because I learned to use QQ from high school, learned to use computers, and used computers for more than working hours, so there was no cross-industry problem.
Shengji said that the market is so big, don't worry about no customers. Shengji said that we have more than 300 technical teams and the support of Chongqing base camp. With such strong technical support, what is there to worry about when we go out to talk about a list? So at present, I am full of confidence, not worried or afraid, because I can clearly see my future, the balance between career and family, the controllable income in the future, and the quality of life I can pursue. So I will work hard, speed up my study and see a brand-new myself in the near future. Only by deeply cultivating yourself and making achievements can we get rid of the middle-aged crisis and not be a middle-aged greasy housewife.
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