Self-discipline is a life attitude, a good behavior, a persistence and a habit. In reality, self-disciplined people are more in control of their own lives.
Self-discipline looks easy, but it is not easy to do. In fact, how self-disciplined a person is, how powerful he is. Everyone knows that smoking is harmful to health, but some people try many times and still can't give up. Zhang Boling, then president of Nankai University, once saw a student's fingers smoked brown and pointed at him and said, "Look, smoking is harmful to the health of teenagers. You should give up! " But the student retorted, "Don't you smoke, too? How do you say me? " At present, Zhang Boling took out all his stored Luzon cigarettes and destroyed them in public, and said that he would never smoke again. Zhang Boling kept his promise and never smoked again.
Therefore, some people say that people's greatest enemy is often not others, but themselves; The hardest thing to beat is not others, but yourself. If you want to be a better self, you must be self-disciplined.
Self-discipline requires clear goals, resistance to temptation, and long-term persistence. It is relatively easy to set a clear goal, but the question is whether you can resist the temptation, and more importantly, whether you can stick to it. This is a test of a person's self-management ability.
People who are truly self-disciplined in life are not necessarily those with the strongest willpower, but those who still don't lose their way in the face of the conflict between behavior and will.
Bernard Shaw once said: Self-control is the instinct of the strong. Those who succeed have clear goals and self-discipline to achieve them.
Zhou, vice president of Wuhan University, insisted on long-distance running from the first year of high school. Forty years is like a day, rain or shine. Nowadays, ten kilometers a day has become the norm. Once he went to CCTV to do a program and ran 10 km in the morning. Sa Beining looked at the pedometer on his wrist. It was 14 107.
What does President Zhou do? In his own words: "Know yourself and beat yourself!" He said that he insisted on getting up at 5: 00 10 every morning, although there would be two little people fighting inside. "Can't you get up?" But in the end, I will convince myself. "I think this is to defeat yourself. When you can see clearly your shortcomings, inertia and disappointments, and try to overcome them, then you really grow up and really take your own life path. "
However, some people are weak in self-management and lazy because of bad habits. If they can't know themselves correctly and overcome themselves, it will be very difficult for them to live a good life.
For example, if you want to lose weight, you still can't control the habit of eating snacks; I agree to drink less in the future, but I still can't control the problem of drinking; I said that I wanted to take a certain qualification exam, and I was prepared to squeeze time to study, train and prepare for the exam. However, others have been studying for hours in the morning, and he is still sleeping in, and he still feels at ease. In the evening, others did something they should do now, and he was still playing games and making phone calls. ...
Life is unsatisfactory, and most of them don't know how to be self-disciplined. I didn't realize the true meaning of "young people don't work hard, but old people are sad". Always hold an indifferent attitude, muddle along, have no requirements for themselves and lack self-management ability.
Self-discipline requires great efforts, hard work and willingness to suffer; Under normal circumstances, people are afraid of hardship and fatigue, and always want to do easy things. In fact, no pains, no gains; At first, I refused to eat anything bitter. Don't want to eat, eat later. As the ancients said, you have to suffer to be a master. "What is' people here'? My understanding is that I want a relatively ideal life.
I especially appreciate Yu's sentence, which means that when you turn suffering into a habit, you are not far from success. This is nothing more than saying that we should have goals, strive and persist. In the final analysis, we should be self-disciplined.
Why are some people self-disciplined and others difficult to self-discipline? What is the real motivation of self-discipline?
The author believes that whether a person can be self-disciplined is determined by his values and cognition, and is generally driven by desire. Desire. What? Desire is the requirement to obtain something or achieve a certain purpose, and it is a desire, satisfaction and essential need from mind to body. Good or bad desires require valuable judgment. Values are people's cognition, understanding, judgment or choice of things. Different people have different values, because a person's values are influenced by many factors such as his social and historical conditions, social status, education level and so on.
Generally speaking, people who are self-disciplined have seen that self-discipline can bring benefits to themselves. Of course, some may look at short-term or even immediate interests; Some are long-term, and they choose the deeper pursuit they need.
The reason why self-discipline can make you grow and bring unexpected benefits to people is that it is constructive and positive, and it can make you a better self. There is a saying that the more self-discipline, the better, the more self-discipline and freedom.
Everyone wants to be free, but freedom is not arbitrary vulgarity, but arbitrary elegance. Only when a person is truly self-disciplined can he have greater freedom.
"Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" mentions that "people who are not self-disciplined are slaves to lust, desire and feelings." Freedom without restraint is not true freedom. This is just a runaway wild horse, facing the abyss of perdition.
In krylov's fable, there is a story about a horse and a jockey. The jockey tamed a good horse, and he didn't think it necessary to tie the reins to such a horse. One day, when he rode out, he untied the reins. The horse galloped on the Yuan Ye. When it knows that there is no bondage, it becomes bolder and bolder. It's running all the way, who threw the jockey off his horse. It went straight ahead, could not see anything, couldn't tell the direction, and finally rushed down the deep valley and smashed to pieces.
I remember that in 20 18, a 96-year-old grandfather named Shen Hua became popular on the internet. Fitness for 26 years, strong body, not like an old man who is nearly a hundred years old. Everyone calls him "Andy" and "Uncle Hua". Shen Lao's daily routine is very regular: he never sleeps more than ten o'clock at night, gets up at four o'clock in the morning to exercise, and reports to the gym on time every afternoon.
If Shen Lao can't be strictly self-disciplined, can he still be so "free"?
Let's take a look at a famous follow-up survey of the influence of goals and self-discipline on life in Harvard University. The target is a group of young people with similar intelligence, education and environment.
The results show that 27% people have no goals, 60% people have vague goals, 65,438+00% people have clear goals but are relatively short-term, and 3% people have clear goals and long-term.
The results of 25 years' follow-up research show that their living conditions and distribution are very interesting. 3% people have clear and long-term goals: they have hardly changed their life goals for 25 years; For 25 years, they have been making unremitting efforts in the same direction; After 25 years, almost all of them have become top successful people in all walks of life.
60% people with vague goals and 27% people without goals almost all live in the middle and lower classes of society, with no outstanding achievements, and some even complain about their jobs.
It can be seen that those who are extremely self-disciplined live a better life. What is the best living condition? Self-discipline is the best state of life.
Kant said: self-discipline makes us different, and self-discipline makes us live a higher life. It is also self-discipline that allows us to live a more free life.
Self-discipline can start from small things and start from things around you.
Li Ka-shing, who is over 90 years old, has maintained two habits since he started his business in his early years: First, he must read books before going to bed; Second, you must watch English TV after dinner, not only to watch it, but also to speak loudly, for fear of falling behind. This diligence and self-discipline are amazing.
Kangxi worked hard all his life and made great achievements in self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world. He is more strict with himself. Kangxi wrote in "Courtyard Motto": Eat frugally, live cautiously, and cure diseases. It means to control diet and live strictly, which is really a good way to eliminate illness.
Kangxi also said that we should "live a regular life", and we should not "sleep" or "overeat", let alone "indulge in feasting". Only "when you are alive, frugality and comfort in cold and summer will be beneficial to your health and life." In fact, the deep meaning that Kangxi wants to express is to warn future generations of the importance of self-discipline.
As a feudal emperor, he was an uncontrolled and supreme son of heaven, and he was able to exercise strict self-discipline. Citizens who enter the Daxin era have more reason to fully understand the significance and value of self-discipline for life. Because only self-disciplined people can better control their lives and work.
I remember that in 2007, on a rare and leisurely weekend afternoon, I met a friend and went to the teahouse to have tea and chat.
I went to the teahouse first and chose a seat. Later, my friend came, smiled and exchanged pleasantries and sat down. I feel my friend looking at me and smiling. I said, what's the matter? Don't I know you? He said, "Too busy! Look at your beard! " I said with a casual smile, which is so carefree and chic like you? I usually shave two or three times a week, and shaving every day is too much trouble. The friend said, "Your job is different in nature. You often have various receptions, meetings and coordination with relevant departments. Your position is also an image. You must shave ... "The friend said sincerely, after all, he is a bosom friend who talks about everything. I looked at my friend again, radiant and full of energy. My friend's words caught my attention. Besides, shaving can not only keep a clean and tidy image, but also contribute to health. After that, I began to shave after washing my face every morning. Up to now, it has become a habit. If I don't shave, I will feel uncomfortable. A clean and tidy face makes people feel refreshed.
Another example is washing your face with cold water, as well as fitness, reading and writing. The key to anything is whether you want to do it, whether you can do it, whether you have a goal, whether you have resisted the temptation, whether you have always insisted, and whether you can be self-disciplined in a word. Some people say I don't have time, just like before. Actually, as Mr. Lu Xun said, time is like a drop of water in a sponge. You can always squeeze it out if you want. The key is whether you realize its function, determination and perseverance.
In a CCTV file, "Let's talk! In the program, someone asked: Where is the biggest gap between people? President Zhou said that the smallest gap between people comes from IQ, and the biggest gap comes from persistence. I understand that his "persistence" is actually "self-discipline".
Self-discipline brings quality of life. How good a person wants to be depends on how self-disciplined he is, whether at work or in life. Self-discipline is not because of self-discipline, it should become a habit and an attitude towards life. True self-discipline is that you regard self-discipline as a habit, which has been integrated into your blood and life. Without any reminder, you will become that highly conscious person.