Sun Li published an Weibo on her ninth wedding anniversary, talking about her life with Deng Chao. Although the copy is unpretentious, it is true and touching. Their way of life has changed from the beginning to the present. From her article, we can see that Deng Chao has made changes for her family, and Deng Chao is constantly changing and adjusting her eating and living habits, which is commendable. After reading Sun Li's article Weibo, many people say that this is the best appearance of marriage. Regarding marriage, many people will think of what Mr. Qian Zhongshu said. Marriage is a wall? People outside want to go in, and people inside the wall want to go out. In addition to this sentence, there is another sentence on the internet that describes marriage like this? Marriage is the grave of love? . The above views on marriage can basically be judged as pessimism, which reveals nothing but helplessness in marriage. As a person in marriage, it is obvious that running-in in marriage life is inevitable. Two people come from different family backgrounds and have received different education since childhood, and the three views will be more or less different. Different opinions and living habits will naturally lead to disputes between two people in the process of getting along. What's more, after they get married, they will face interference from parents, children, relatives and friends, and the relationship between family members will also affect the marriage process. Faced with family problems, both husband and wife have different views and living habits. A good marriage means that husband and wife can face problems correctly and deal with them with mutual tolerance, mutual tolerance, mutual respect and understanding. For example, the man loves smoking and has given up smoking many times without success. This woman hates the smell of smoke. In this case, it is unreasonable to ask one party to give in completely and accept it. The man should try not to smoke at home, which is better. If he really can't help it, he can go to the balcony or a special smoking place. The woman needs to understand each other's difficulties, persuade the man to smoke less or not with a gentle attitude, and help the man quit smoking from the source. In fact, the best way of marriage is not to ask which party to compromise, but to deal with family conflicts effectively and reasonably on the basis of respect and tolerance. Let marriage be the driving force and harbor to push each other forward, not the fence and grave of love.