What did that girl mean when she told me on WeChat that she was bored to death? She should really have nothing to do.
What does it mean for a girl to chat with me and say "help me save my lucky money"? I think you are naive.
A girl used my photo as a wallpaper for WeChat chat. What does she mean? And said it was cute. I think there are the following situations:
1 may be just kidding you; (To be honest, this probability is quite large. )
2. I have a little affection for you, testing you; (Very likely)
I like you very much, which means that the girl is waiting for your confession (probably).
4. Help a friend test; (possible, but unlikely)
5. Malicious trap (the probability is very small, depending on the sister's personality)
Chatting on qq, what does it mean that girls send three issues to boys? It is that she doesn't know how to answer the man's question, but she just doesn't know how to answer it anyway.
What do you mean by sweating while chatting? The meaning of silence
What does it mean that the opposite sex gives me lip prints when chatting on WeChat? Kiss me or have a crush on you. Anyway, good luck is a good thing.
On WeChat, when chatting with girls, you should take the initiative to say something. Previously, Tango, a well-known pick-up girl, mentioned in "Bad Boys Teach You How to Attract Girls on a First Date" that there are seven deadly sins in life, and all human nature is indelible. Only many times, these crimes push us to the abyss. So this week's seven deadly sins is a spiritual baptism process, and of course it is also a combination of many skills and nutrition about chatting and picking up girls. Learn to chat and pick up girls, learn internal skills first, and cultivate your heart first.
Today, let's continue to talk about the sixth sin-jealousy.
Today's topic, jealousy, is a thing that people love and hate, and its two sides are very obvious. So when it comes to jealousy today, I feel angry and funny.
Because jealousy, first of all, is deeply rooted in our genes in evolution, and it will happen to people from generation to generation. We will feel this way when we see excellent people. * * * Let's work together to evolve.
Some people say that jealousy is the biggest driving force for human progress, and there is some truth. Because of the things in this gene, let's push ourselves to become better.
When we envy Gao Fushuai, we will have the impulse to move bricks, keep fit, study hard and make ourselves Gao Fushuai. We envy birds flying, so we invented the plane. We envy Chang 'e, so we developed Chang 'e-1, ready to fly to the moon.
On the other hand, because there are too many books and articles about jealousy, this is a very inflammatory topic. In a sense, jealousy is as strange and interesting as a naughty ghost.
I quoted two famous works by two masters, which impressed me deeply. The first paragraph is Russell Roland's The Road to Happiness, in which there is a chapter devoted to jealousy in chatting and picking up girls.
The opening paragraph is impressive, to the effect that "jealousy may be the most unfortunate of all human nature." Because of jealousy, people don't draw happiness from what they have, but constantly draw pain from what others have ... "
Another passage comes from a famous book, Intimacy, p23 1-232.
Jealousy is a negative emotional experience, which stems from a person's cherished items or relationships being acquired by real or imaginary competitors. The three typical feelings of expressing jealousy are hurt, anger and fear.
This is the other side of jealousy.
In the emotional world, jealousy is the most likely to happen.
In 1950s and 1960s, jealousy was often witnessed by love, which was good for marriage. By the 1970s and 1980s, the public's views had changed. Jealousy was regarded as an inappropriate and unhealthy mentality, which originated from insecurity and personality defects.
2 1 century, our ambivalence still exists, and jealousy is regarded as a "double-edged sword-on the one hand, it is an expression of love, on the other hand, it is regarded as paranoia".
Everyone will experience jealousy personally, because as I said, the seeds of jealousy come from genes and nature, and no one is an exception.
Before I went to college, my academic performance was always the first in the whole school, and I not only studied best, but also played football and table tennis best in our school. I am also good at drawing and writing articles, and I have won numerous awards. Moreover, I can receive many love letters, and sometimes girls stop me on the way after school.
At that time, I was the object of jealousy. I remember I often skipped classes to play football, and sometimes I didn't do my homework. Every self-study is fun. I run away immediately after class or after school.
At that time, the monitor said that someone was better than you, and you two were really different. As long as you look at him, he always studies at his desk and doesn't even go to the toilet, while I am playing, but the gap between his exam results and mine is always about 70 points.
Over time, the man became stingy and then broke out. He wants to fight with me at the school gate.
I thought he was joking, but jealousy made him red-eyed, and he really fought with me. At that time, it was the best time for me to train, and it was also the time when I was young and energetic. When I get angry, I click twice and he breaks a bone.
Later, I rubbed it, which was very troublesome, so I didn't mention it. Anyway, at that time, I was jealous.
After arriving at the university, I found so many people who are better than myself, each with his own strengths. It's hard to get the first place.
With all kinds of blows, I can more and more understand the mentality of XXX at that time.
But I am more open-minded. I always find what I am good at, and then I strive for nothing to see how low I can be.
During my four years in college, I always skipped classes and went to the library to play various games. I did everything I wanted to do, and of course my heart was exercised.
I walked far away from other people in my class, and I began to form my own unique style. At that time, I was talking about my girlfriend and put a lot of feelings into it. MP3 was just popular at that time. I remember Samsung's classic egg-shaped MP3, 64M, sold for 2800 yuan.
At that time, local tyrants especially liked to buy girls. At that time, I gradually formed a way to deal with jealousy. I found another one with a higher height, MD, and the price is 3800 yuan.
At that time, my living expenses were around 400 per month, so I forced myself to start doing something.
I happened to see a game, which was a FLASH game. The first prize is 3000 yuan, the second prize is 1000 yuan, and the third prize is 500 yuan. I thought it was an opportunity, so I spent more than half a month learning FLASH, then did it frame by frame, and then handed it in.
On the day of the game, I went with a group of buddies and remembered the score. There were too many awesome people at that time. After all, professionals are still strong. When giving points, I was surpassed by one awesome person after another. When all the scores are finished, I have just been squeezed out of the third prize, and the third prize is only in front of me.
I was still a fragile little boy at that time, not to mention disappointment and depression.
As a result, a judge suddenly wanted to talk. He said that one of the winning works was plagiarized and he was disqualified. Then I was lucky enough to win the third prize. 500 yuan sent some course cards.
But the money is far from enough, right? I got in touch with the sponsors and organizers of these activities. One day, someone came to me and asked me if I could write a web FLASH, and the reward was about 3000 yuan. Then I went to my classmates who won the first prize and the second prize and asked them if they wanted to make money. I gave them 1 0,000 yuan.
As a result, I made enough money soon. Then I bought MD, which made my girlfriend the envy of her classmates and friends.
Later, I went to Beijing and went to a nightclub for the first time. It was a painter friend of mine, a woman, a beautiful woman pua, who took me there.
I sat on one side, very stiff, and in the middle of the theme sat a fat man, an unknown painter and artist. After a while, two sexy goblins came and began to pose in our booth. I started to get hot all over.
I didn't expect these two girls, French kissing, to be indifferent to the fat man. Also, they once parted their thighs after French kissing and sat on the fat man in the posture of Guanyin sitting on the lotus, regardless of me. ...
I can't describe my jealousy in words. There is only one sentence in my heart: "You fat bastard!" "Repeat and echo.
Later, women came one after another to continue the AV story with this fat man. The fat man said hello to me indifferently, played dice with me for a while, drank several glasses of wine, and then continued to hug several women.
At that time, I felt deeply humiliated and angry because of my incompetence I remember this sentence: "all human sufferings are essentially anger at their incompetence." -Wang Xiaobo "
This is jealousy. Jealousy set off my wolf nature, so I rushed into the dance floor. What happened later was written in my post, and everyone should have seen it. Going to a nightclub for the first time and accomplishing such a feat actually stems from jealousy.
I took the woman on the dance floor to the booth, just like * * * to the fat man. I noticed a hint of surprise on his face.
Later, as we got to know each other better, I joked with him, "I don't think there is a shortage of women around you." When we first met, I was so jealous that I was angry that you were a filthy fat man. I made up my mind that I would never let a beautiful woman fall into the hands of a filthy fat man like you. "
Who knows this fat man told me: In fact, those women are all bought with money, and he is jealous of me because I can get rid of strangers in such a short time.
This is what he longs for. Especially once, I took care of two beautiful women and ranked in the top three in the whole nightclub. This level of beauty appeared in the most striking place in the audience. At that time, he and the men in the audience were watching what kind of man I was. "
At that time, I began to understand that jealousy comes from competing with other people's strengths with their own weaknesses.
And no one can be better than everyone else in all aspects, so jealousy is inevitable. Jealous, jealous, uncomfortable.
Jealousy is not a crime, it is just an instinct, which is deep in our hearts and cannot be touched and shaken off. Since when have I been at the mercy of jealousy, but I have never faced it.
Now I have to face it correctly and always remind myself that it is innate, so that we can adjust its direction and enjoy its motivation.
Say to yourself: I can't compare with you. Can't I appreciate you?
If you say and do this, you will defeat your really important opponent-yourself. This marks that you are braver and stronger than anyone else.
If you can do this all the time, you don't have to envy anyone. Because you only compare yourself and envy yourself, it hasn't happened so far.
I have strengthened my mind: to be the most unique self. At this point, everyone stands at the highest point in the world, and there is no need to have "envy, jealousy" and other obsession, because you are irreplaceable.
So in everything, I will think about how to work hard in a different way from most people, just like when I bought MD.
It also affects the way I pick up girls. I have tried the most incredible and magical ways, including my entrepreneurial way. When people ask me what I think of giving up my million-year salary; People ask me what I do when I start a business. There is nothing wrong with these big plates at all.
I can impress people every time. I am different from the men they have met, which attracts them. At the same time, I will stand in my unique position and always be the first in my world, so I am jealous far more than others.
Of course, I still envy many people who are much better than me.
Later, I met many excellent men, some of whom were very powerful and attractive in nightclubs; Some are extremely shrewd and sophisticated in business wars; Others have made great achievements in entrepreneurship; Some men are perfect in appearance and wisdom.
I will be jealous, but I will honestly say that I admire them, then say that I am jealous of them as a man, and finally say that I must strive to surpass them in the future.
Appreciating each other in front of the strong is a compliment and encouragement to human nature-since everyone will be jealous, we need to respect it as an existence; Expressing a disgraceful emotion is a valuable ability in itself.
If you really can't tolerate others being better than you, you might as well use this method: say it!
"I envy you, I want to surpass you!"
When you say jealousy clearly, you are no longer a devil hiding in the dark, but a girl streaking in the sun.
We should not let jealousy drive us, but pursue it openly and turn it into a goal.
This in itself is a man's personality charm, which is much better than trying to destroy others with ulterior motives without saying it. Many of us men are just not used to admitting jealousy.
Many men have experienced the pain and struggle caused by this jealousy.
"Why don't you go out with XXX tonight?"
"Not good!"
"Then don't go out alone, okay?"
"no!"
"Well ... then don't go home too late, ok?"
"It depends!"
There are many men, until one day I saw the girl I like show love and courtship in front of other men, and then these men have a kind of colic in their hearts that they have never had before. ...
This kind of jealousy torments every man, which many people can't accept and leads to negativity.
Jealousy, turning left is negative, turning right is destructive, and going straight is to rise up and move forward. Men who have been tortured by jealousy have different choices at this fork in the road.
In fact, people who have experienced and precipitated can actually see that a jealous man is trapped in his own shackles. Maybe he doesn't love this woman so much, or he knows that he doesn't deserve this woman at all and there is no reason to be together.
I continued to help them analyze, and they began to speak more frankly and understand their hearts more truly. They said that they might actually just take a fancy to the beauty of this woman.
And in their own hands, it seems within reach, watching themselves being spoiled by other men, the thought of sleeping with other men, it simply blew up the popularity, simply can not stand it, completely carried away by jealousy.
I asked: If five girls with high scores are chasing you, please be nice to them and sleep with them, what would you do? Will you refuse these five peerless beauties and be jealous of that woman?
Men will say, "Of course I want to sleep with these five beautiful women. I think I don't care about that woman anymore. It doesn't matter to me who she sleeps with. "
I said, it seems that you have no other choice. For you, this woman is actually not a high score, inappropriate, and you don't like it that much. It's just that she's your only lifeline.
When a woman becomes your only lifeline, you have been seriously kidnapped by her to some extent.
You have lost your independence and integrity, and the choices you make are actually not based on your love choices. Maybe it's not love at all, and you don't love her that much, but you are still deeply jealous of her.
So the root cause is that you have no other resources to develop.
Including me, when I go to nightclubs, I will still see many fat people who are as obscene as in the past. This is a typical example I hate most, but now I have no jealousy at all.
On this basis, I made friends with many people I didn't like before and those I was jealous of. I will help them pick up girls, learn from them and communicate with them. I just smiled when they found the right girl.
Because of this, I'll do it next time, to get rid of the girl you're with.
There are people outside the world. You think you are the most special guy, but the world is so big that we are all ordinary people (it is also happy to be an ordinary person). You think you are diligent, but there are more people in the world who are more diligent than me. You think you are not diligent enough, but there are many people who are not as diligent as you.
Everyone has different study habits and methods. The important thing is to master your own rhythm and not be confused by others.
What you don't want to share with others, others will know through other channels one day. It is better to share and accept other people's information with peace of mind.
You don't want to be surpassed, but everyone has the right to pursue their dreams. When you are working hard for your dream, why do you expect others to give up your goal?
Never have a sense of superiority in your study, thinking that you will get the best grades in the exam, and don't have a sense of superiority to others. People who have a sense of superiority in blx have no future.
You need a big heart with a big world in it. The greater your tolerance for men and women you don't like, it actually proves that your heart is getting stronger and stronger.
Having such a heart will make you more calm, calm and have incomparable charm in the process of picking up girls and pursuing love.
Say two questions, many people have asked, why do many beautiful women bask in all kinds of luxury goods, tourist attractions, hotels, mobile phones in the circle of friends, for what?
More than half of women, including men, are jealous of others because of superiority and jealousy.
Especially for women, the jealousy of women is several times higher than that of men. Women spend most of their time and energy on how to improve their cups, rather than how to broaden their minds.
So what should we do?
The more you show jealousy, the more you show your own shortcomings. She does, but you don't.
If you criticize, say, "The more you show off, the more you lack."
People will reply to you mercilessly: "The more you say that what others show off is what you lack, the more jealous you are."
For women, they have the need to show off, so there is no need to openly confront her needs. The more you regard these as normal things and her normal behavior, the less she will be in front of you.
You can praise her. She has good taste, rich experience and knows how to enjoy life.
Don't think this will bring you down. This kind of praise will make her feel useful. At the same time, she will feel that truly valuable men actually have such a yardstick to praise them. On the contrary, women who have never seen the world will hate rich people.
In addition, it is the same sentence, go with the flow, follow others, and compare what you lack with what others have.
You don't have to bask in the luxury car mansion you don't have, but as I said yesterday, my circle of friends is unique, but it has stronger charm.
Everything is your own position. If you look up, you will be jealous, unbalanced, and she won't think you are valuable. The easier it is for her to accept you when you are focused. If you are better than them, they will respect you.
Also, how do men with girlfriends deal with jealousy?
1. I said I was jealous, which was a sign of lack of confidence and showed my vulnerability. Men can't be fragile. Answer this question, I am jealous. The label will be: You are a big man, why are you so melodramatic?
2. The woman in front will ask, Are you jealous? This sentence is crucial. If I say, I am jealous. It is very likely that women will say, cut, narrow-minded.
Going back to 1 is a sign of lack of confidence. What should I do next is more appropriate.
If you want to answer, you must put the facts and say, what were you doing with that xxx just now? What's with this message? A quarrel.
Girls will pick it up like this, girls will pick it up, and I'll chat with you and pick up girls. You're not my only friend. Have your own friends, your own social circle, and want your own space. Don't worry about me, you don't care. Who do you think you are? Who do you think you are?
3. I am jealous, which shows that the other party has great advantages and gives the other party great capital in this relationship.
In other words, I show jealousy, and the other person's experience is, look at me, dump you in minutes, and be honest.
In view of this situation, men should either be domineering presidents or warm-hearted little men.
The domineering presidential approach is:
A man brought his girlfriend to a party, during which his girlfriend chatted happily with another man.
The man is jealous and politely invites his girlfriend to his side. He has something private to say.
In the corner, the man suddenly hugged his girlfriend and kissed her. After kissing, I looked my girlfriend in the eyes affectionately and told her that I was jealous. Seeing my girlfriend chatting with others, I have an uncontrollable desire to kiss her.
And then casually bring your girlfriend back to the party.
This is the best response of a domineering president-type man. Include:
Dignity and etiquette
Non-aggressive possessiveness
Private expression of feelings
Gentleness and surprise
I used to do this to a woman, and then I asked her what she thought: "She said, five stars is good, great!" " "It is estimated that after a week of kissing, women will look at me with gentle eyes. Although it feels like a Korean drama ... being cornered by a gentle and overbearing kiss is simply the ultimate pursuit of a woman's life.
Jealousy, at this time, has become a catalyst for the wildness and domineering generated by men.
If you are a little man, warm man style, then say:
Baby, I'm jealous. I can't help myself. I hope you don't blame me.
Others asked how to prevent others from poaching.
There is no standard answer to the gender question. Everyone is playing with concrete analysis of specific situations, and the mentality can't always be what I should do.
First of all, spring is not called out, it is robbed by real knives and guns. We all know that if you want to do one thing and understand three steps, you are a wise man. If you want to understand the three steps, do nothing.
Secondly, if a person lives in fear and worry, then there will never be a lack of worry and fear in life, and we passers-by can do nothing.
Avoid? How could you do that? As long as your girlfriend is pursued, you may meet the kind of love rat who is good at playing tricks. The first thing to do is to know the existence of such a person as soon as possible.
At different stages of understanding, all your reactions are naturally different. Can your girlfriend say ambiguous words to others and sleep with others?
So, when you know that this has happened, you should know clearly whether you still want to maintain this relationship.
If you don't want to, it will naturally break down. How to alleviate the pain of being poached? Just think about the lesson I gave you last night, "Do things clearly".
At this time, you don't actually have the advantage, no matter how many years you have emotional foundation with her, no matter whether she still loves you or not, because she also has feelings for a third party, otherwise she will cheat.
She feels guilty about you and wants to run away from you. If you are not calm enough at this time, show anger and want to break up, this is exactly what love rat wants.
So the thing to do at this time is to find out the reason for her infidelity in the shortest time and show it to them as soon as possible at this time, because what she wants is tenderness, consideration, maturity and care.
Understand her grievance, admit your neglect of her, take responsibility and tell her that you don't mind it. You can understand her. What you have to do is to maintain this relationship no matter what.
Never say, "Your relationship with me for so long has been destroyed by a third party, and you dare to hesitate between me and him."
As mentioned above, your position is not dominant at this time. You should treat the third party as an equal competitor and act like a suitor in front of your girlfriend.
If the situation is not good, it is very likely that my girlfriend can't make a decision to break with the third party immediately, so the more difficult battle behind is not something I can answer.
As for how to deal with love rat, which is preparing for a protracted war, it is actually very simple. Because it's definitely not the first time that love rat has played tricks, it's normal for their rich experience to put you at a disadvantage in this relationship.
But this can be turned into an advantage, that is, I want my girlfriend to believe that these * * * are irresponsible in treating feelings, let her know their tricks, and let her know that they are a group of love rat.
Tango, a well-known pick-up girl, mentioned in "Bad Boys Teach You How to Attract Girls on the First Date" that if you are good enough and really love her, it is very manly to bravely pry the corner.
A girl said to me, "honey, what does this mean?" Interested in you.
Hello everyone! Ding Why did a girl talk to me several times on WeChat? I don't know what this means. It means kissing.
I can't explain anything. Even a strange girl will say something to strangers. It belongs to being polite to you when the other person is happy. If she says what it is, it means she likes you.