"Marriage is sacred in my opinion. Many people have advised me to make do with it, but I don't want to. I don't think there is anything wrong with my life now. After being single for so many years, I used to be very anxious, but now my heart is gradually calm. I am also eager for marriage and looking forward to love, but I know that I may die alone. "

This passage is a monologue of an "older woman".

Lv Jing (a pseudonym), a Jiangnan woman, has the gentleness of a Jiangnan little woman and looks very beautiful. Lv Jing is my sister's friend and the boss of her last job. She works in a first-tier city, has a car and a house, and lives a chic life.

Lv Jing doesn't feel like an "old woman". She thinks there is something wrong with this identification with women. At what age are women not married? How do people spend their whole lives? Not just marriage.

"How are people doing? You can't simply judge by not getting married. Many married people have a bad life, and now there are many divorced women living alone. I don't feel like a monster until I get married. It's too common for me. How about getting married? What if you don't get married? Life is your own, as long as you live comfortably. Marriage is not a necessity in our lives. "

Lv Jing's words inspired me a lot.

Seriously, I thought about getting married when I was single before, and I thought it was scary not to get married all my life. But after I got married, I suddenly understood why so many people choose to be single. In the matter of marriage, if you make yourself unhappy after marriage, you might as well not get married.

I also had the idea that "if my marriage is unreliable, I may divorce someone too late according to my personality", which is nothing more than a way of life. Some "leftover women" choose not to get married. In the final analysis, it is also "taking marriage seriously and respecting yourself".

Because I want to know the psychological state of "leftover women", Lv Jing and I talked about this topic.

Lv Jing's current attitude towards life can be summed up in one sentence: I long for marriage, but I am also ready to die alone!

02.

Not married, forced marriage is a daily life, and parents are most worried about your marriage.

Lv Jing said that over the years, her parents have been worried about her marriage. Even now she is 42 years old, her parents are still worried. Lv Jing will be rebellious in her early years, but now she will seriously say to her parents:

"Mom and Dad, don't worry, I've given myself enough pension money, and I'll take good care of your parents. If one day I really can't move, I'll go to a nursing home. Nothing, life is only a few years. "

When Lu Jing was so frank with her parents, her parents also cried sadly. What parents don't want their children to have a happy marriage? But it is not so easy to have a good marriage, it is too difficult.

Now parents don't rush Lv Jing. From the age of 30 to 40, they gradually got used to their daughter's single state, and never understood to choose respect.

There are "seven aunts and eight aunts" urging Lv Jing. Every time I go back to my hometown, many relatives talk about her marriage and anxiously arrange a series of blind dates for her. But Lu Jing said: "I will not develop in my hometown, so it is impossible to have a blind date in my hometown." No one introduced her later.

I am most afraid of the Spring Festival, and now most of them take their parents out to travel during the Spring Festival.

"You know, single people are most afraid of Chinese New Year", Lv Jing sighed. Chinese New Year seems to belong to family reunion. At her age, she should be a grandmother soon. As for her, she has no children of her own, and no one even sleeps next to her. Are you lonely? There are also some. So more often, I will take my parents out to travel during the Spring Festival.

"As long as I go back to my hometown, I will dress myself up beautifully." Lv Jing said that single women should be elegant. She will drive her beautiful car when she goes back to her hometown, and no one is allowed to laugh at her.

"What's wrong with being single? I am doing very well. " It is a very comprehensive thing for a woman to get everything by her own ability.

To tell the truth, I can't imagine becoming a "yellow-faced woman" after marriage. Comparatively speaking, I prefer myself now. I know that many women talk about me on the surface, but in fact they are envious of my living conditions.

03.

I will arrange my own time, be self-disciplined and enrich my life.

Lv Jing is a very self-disciplined woman, which can be seen from her figure and appearance. Even at the age of 42, Lv Jing looks only 30 years old, very young and in good shape. In addition, she has never given birth to a child and often exercises, so she has a good figure.

Women with good mental outlook, good skin and good figure look young.

"I am afraid of decadence. I know that once you are decadent, you will lose hope in life. Such a person is terrible. " So Lv Jing arranged her life very richly. After work, she will let herself exercise, read more books and go out for a walk. Lv Jing goes abroad at least five times a year, and enjoys exploring the unknown and enjoying the feeling of being alone in a foreign country.

I have been studying and will take good care of myself, which is the capital of the revolution.

What was Lv Jing doing when he was single? She is studying hard to improve herself. For her, this is her own confidence. She may seem a little unsociable to others, but she knows what she wants to do.

For a single girls who lives alone, health is the capital of the revolution. As he grows older, Lv Jing knows that it is very important to have a healthy body.

She also has friends, who get together once a week, because she is single and knows a lot about single girls. It may be different from the onlookers' understanding of being single. These people are high-quality singles, living a life of self-discipline instead of decadence.

04.

I am eager for marriage, but I am also ready to die alone!

Lv Jing says she doesn't reject marriage now. If she really meets a person who is in harmony with all aspects in the future, and the man wants to marry her, she will get married, but she may not have children. If I hadn't met this, I would have died alone.

"I'm going to die alone. I have been trying to save money for the elderly and make investments, which is necessary in my opinion. "

Be prepared, if necessary, so as not to feel insecure.

Lv Jing said that she still enjoys her present freedom and feels quite good. The only regret is that I have no children and have never experienced the feeling of being a mother. Lv Jing keeps cats and dogs, and she treats them like her own children.

I love reading, traveling, fitness, studying and dating like-minded friends. Lv Jing likes that she can arrange her life so completely when she is 42 years old, and her heart has gradually calmed down.

I can send a word to single girls: Whether you are married or not, please have a good attitude towards life, live a good life and live up to your life.

Today's topic: You are not married at the age of 30. What do you think of marriage? Do you still expect love? Welcome to leave a message

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Author: Ipoh; ; The original author of sensibility wrote about his warm feelings about the world.