Both sides should communicate their problems well, and you need to adjust your mentality. Maybe in your previous love, you gave your heart but met scum. He cheated you with your sincerity and trust, so in this love, you feel that controlling your ex will not be betrayed. You often say to him when you are in love, "Why don't you listen to me?" Or, "Didn't I do it for you? What do you take me for? " You think he can obey, but in fact you bring him nothing but oppression.
After breaking up, you felt that things were out of your control, and you began to miss him. You can use cognitive behavioral therapy, so-called cognitive behavioral therapy, even to change your attitude towards people and things to reduce your desire for control. For example, you can recall your previous control behavior, record everything with paper and notes, and then write down what you think in detail on paper, circle what you want to correct and find new solutions.
Make certain changes from the heart and appearance. For example, you can attend some work-related seminars and lectures to improve your work ability, set short-term and long-term goals for yourself, and enhance your confidence through the realization of the goals. Externally, we can attract him by keeping fit, changing the style of dress and making him shine. For example, if you were in poor shape before, you can strengthen your physique and become more self-disciplined through fitness. Then try a new style of dress, for example, you used to wear casual sportswear, so you can try the business elite when you change.