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A 30-year-old like me will occasionally get "relief" from my parents.

Taking my parents' money is not the key. The key is that when I take the money, my face is not red and my heart is not beating. I take it for granted and have no sense of shame.

At this point, someone may stand up and educate me. And this kind of education must be carried out from the moral level.

Why should I criticize and educate from the moral level? The main reason is that I took my family's money, and I didn't steal or rob it. It doesn't constitute a crime, and I can only attack it from the moral level.

By the way, moral weapons are really useful. When you hate a person, you can stand on the height of a saint and fire at the other person from the moral level. You will be invincible. This method has been tried and tested repeatedly.

For example, someone bought a Japanese car and you are still riding a bike. You are envious and jealous, and you want to find an excuse to vent. Then you can call him unpatriotic, a traitor, forgetting the national humiliation and the sufferings of 40 million compatriots until he feels like a traitor when driving.

That's a little far. Go around.

The moral weapon that fired at me was nothing more than: after I was eighteen, I became an adult. As an adult, I was shameless and asked for money from my family. I am scum, scum and garbage.

What's more, it will bring gender discrimination: as a man, a 30-year-old man, he is still gnawing at the old. Such a person is a waste, has hands and feet, does not work, and is like a moth to the fire. He should not live in the world.

After scolding, if you feel avenged, just have a glass of water and listen to me.

China people love face very much, even to the point where they have to face up to and bear it.

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My cousin, a freshman, borrowed money from me.

I know my cousin's family situation very well, not to mention providing him with a college student, even four or five more. As an only child, how could he be reduced to borrowing money for a living? I feel very puzzled. I thought he had done something bad at school and didn't dare to talk to me before asking for money at home.

Finally, it turned out that he applied for a physical education class, paid tuition for one year, and his living expenses were not enough. He was embarrassed to ask for money from his family, so he came to me for help.

The reason why he borrowed money is: I am eighteen years old, and I am embarrassed to ask for money.

I criticized and educated him: "You are exercising, have a good figure, and hook up with a girl. Your aunt is still not happy. What is the value of this money? Why are you embarrassed to ask for money from home? "

My cousin said, "I just feel embarrassed to speak." As an adult, it is very embarrassing. "

I can't bear it: "you are the only child in the family, and all the money in the family will be yours in the future." Don't pretend to be ashamed. "

My cousin's so-called face was torn to pieces by me, and then he asked for money from home.

Some people just can't bear it, they are shameless when they should be proud, and they should be proud when they shouldn't be proud.

When I was at school, I didn't have any income. It's normal to sign up for some classes and training courses and ask for money from my family. But many people, like my cousin, obviously can't bear it, obviously have good economic conditions at home, but they are trapped by some brain-dead dogmas. I really thought it was not a man who asked for money from his family and would be humiliated. If you really want to win, study hard in college and find a good job in the future. This is the real face.

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Speaking of which, I thought of another thing.

One year, waiting for the bus at the train station, I chatted with a young man in the primary school. He said that he 18 years old came out to work. I asked him why he came out to work so early and why he didn't take the college entrance examination.

The young man said, "/kloc-I feel grown up at the age of 0/8. I have to spend my family's money to go to college. It's so unmanly. I want to work for myself to earn money. "

When I was a graduate student, I suddenly felt that this young man was so tall. All I can think about is that his family situation must be bad. In order to shoulder the burden of family, he resolutely gave up his studies and shouldered the burden of family with immature shoulders. I was immediately awed.

I said, "You are not easy. You should take care of yourself outside. Is your family okay now? "

The young man said, "I can't earn much money by working." I will go surfing in the bar. "

Finally, I learned that this young man's family is not only poor, but also well-off. His father runs a restaurant with an annual income of more than 100 thousand.

I realized that he didn't want to go to school at all, so he found an excuse not to spend money at home and dropped out. His tall image suddenly collapsed in my mind.

Some people like to fight for face, often fighting for face. In fact, the main reason is not his strong self-esteem, but because he thinks this face is easy to win and can be obtained without too much effort, so he doesn't want to miss the opportunity. For the face that needs hard work and IQ, this kind of person generally won't fight for it, because he knows that his ability is insufficient.

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In the countryside, the two families often quarrel over trifles. To put it bluntly, it is to fight for face. They often say that Buddha strives for a fragrance and man struggles for a breath.

These people are too young to have the energy to improve their self-cultivation and train the next generation. If they can cultivate an excellent talent, it is really a contest of prestige and face.

But because these people don't have the ability and don't realize it, they only argue about trivial matters, and they are so happy and stupid.

Some newly graduated college students want to buy a house, a car and social contacts. They have just started working, and their wages are inevitably stretched. However, some people just refuse to ask their families for help and their parents for money.

They will say that they are college students and ask for money from their families. They can't lose this man.

In the final analysis, it is because of face. And this meaningless face, what is the use, and who will care about this face. Ask for some money from home, get through the difficult times first, live a good life, and reassure parents, okay?

You know, a person's greatest independence is ideological independence, followed by economic independence. If your mind is not independent, no matter how much property your parents leave you, you will lose everything. Once your mind is independent, your economy will gradually become independent.

However, the reality is that many people around us are afraid to ask their parents for money because of their face.

What we should despise and spurn is the kind of person who asks his parents for money all day to live a luxurious life and does not support himself.

Don't suffer for the so-called face. What parents don't expect their children to live well? As long as you are working hard, what's the point of asking your parents for financial aid?

As long as you are working hard, struggling and seeking help from your parents at the bottom of your life, there is nothing to be ashamed of!

Postscript: I am particularly concerned and want to know your views on this topic. If you have different opinions or want to add anything, please leave a message to participate in the discussion.