A few days ago, my friend Lin Fei and I chatted on WeChat. She sent a photo of a salary check, especially excitedly said:
"Can you imagine my salary now? I am shaking with anger. "
I carefully enlarged the photo and saw the column of paid salary, which impressively read: 2530.5 yuan.
Lin Fei resigned from Shanghai and returned to her hometown. She graduated from college in 985 with a monthly salary of 1 10,000.
Even in the eyes of outsiders, this job is glamorous, but in the eyes of parents in their hometown, it is useless.
They always call Lin Fei: "It's too hard for girls to work outside alone, so it's better to come back early and find a stable job."
She also said that some elders in the family have arranged a position for her in state-owned enterprises.
Lin Fei wavered. After all, she is fed up with the crowded subway, high-intensity work and wandering life. So, she resigned and returned to her hometown, and now she has a stable salary of 2500 yuan.
She said regretfully, as if she saw her future life:
Doing nothing in the unit every day, eating and waiting for death;
Marry an honest man about the same age and have a child about the same age;
The belly is gradually filled with fat, and the face is gradually covered with wrinkles.
Lin Fei's experience made me cry:
It turns out that all the easy roads are downhill. If a person always lowers his own standards and pursues comfort, life can only go beyond low matching.
And low matching is making young people in China more and more mediocre.
2
On the subway, I heard two couples who looked like college students chatting with each other.
"What time did you go to bed last night?"
"At two o' clock. Lying in bed and brushing Tik Tok, I didn't pay attention and brushed for 3 hours. "
"I didn't sleep until almost 2 o'clock. Team up with roommates to eat chicken. "
The boy yawned, and the obvious bags under his eyes and dark circles exposed the fact that he stayed up late. Girls also lazily leaned against the armrest and stared at the screen of the mobile phone.
Contemporary young people may have long been accustomed to the low life:
Brush the sense of existence in the WeChat movement, find love in online novels, and achieve the glory of the king in the game;
Looking at the sallow and cold mobile phone and computer screen, I wasted day after day in Tik Tok;
There was an opening in the online section. The names of online celebrities are numerous, but he forgets how long it has been since he saw classic movies and paper books.
For the status quo, I refuse to take a step and have no courage to change myself;
Everything is hot for three minutes, all day, and go with the flow;
Always set limits for yourself and stifle your potential.
This kind of you is beautiful in the virtual world, but you are a chicken feather in real life.
Writer Li Shanglong said: "Just like a person who sleeps at home every day, he never knows that people on the treadmill have another kind of happiness."
People who indulge in virtual pleasure every day and live in a daze will never know how happy it is to do their best in study and work.
three
How cool is it to try to live a well-matched life?
Cristiano Ronaldo, 34, recently posted a lovely video on ins.
Wearing a white T-shirt and sweatpants, he danced while running and showed off his fitness routine.
Time seems to have left no trace on him. His physical age is more like 24 years old, and his body fat rate does not exceed 7%.
In order to maintain a high level for a long time, Ronaldo in life is extremely self-disciplined.
He maintains high-intensity training for four hours three days a week, and training always comes early and leaves at the latest;
Go to bed before 1 1 every night, ensure at least 10 hours of sleep at night, and refuse to stay up late and go to nightclubs;
The diet is strictly controlled and the food intake is low in sugar and fat. I eat boiled chicken all the year round and hardly drink.
Control of desire, determination and perseverance helped him become a top player.
On the other hand, just look at the younger generation of football players, and you will know how accustomed young people in China are to low matching.
Some media ridiculed that the national football team is like a cooked chicken, and its belly is full of fat, with no training traces.
There was a lot of controversy on the internet before: after the national football team trained overseas, the diet at dinner was exposed.
Not only high-calorie hot pot, but also beer, cola and red wine.
These drinks are called the killers of athletes, and our players like them very much.
The lack of self-discipline in diet and lax training make it impossible for them to have strong muscles and super physical strength like C Ronaldo.
As a professional player, it is not only a professional day, but also a professional competition.
Players who are used to low matching smoke, drink and get tattoos without controlling their diet. They have sky-high salaries, but they don't have considerable skills and achievements.
The habit of low matching will only make the road of life narrower and darker, and ultimately useless.
four
There is a question in Zhihu: What happened to the earliest people in each dormitory?
Zheng Lin answered the roommate's example.
"University roommates insist on getting up early, running, reading and eating breakfast for four years, and give the rest of our dormitory a front row seat.
Super self-control, our whole professional people sincerely admire, even the counselor knows that she gets up early.
Later, the postgraduate entrance examination entered the top three 985 from two schools. Because of his outstanding performance, he went directly to graduate school for postgraduate study.
During the doctoral period, I fell in love and got married. My husband is a doctor's brother. After graduation, they went to the same key university to teach and educate people and continue their research.
Housing has also been settled, and even future children can jump out of the pressure of the college entrance examination.
As can be seen from the circle of friends, both of them appreciate each other, and rely on their own diligence and progress at school to step out of their own way.
Both families belong to the most ordinary countryside, and both parties and parents in the engagement wedding photos smile simply and happily.
It should be regarded as the most real and reliable person I have ever seen to change my destiny. "
The way up is actually not crowded. Crowded because most people choose comfort.
If a person always prevaricates himself with a makeshift attitude, he will only cross the line in the end.
On the contrary, if a person always strives for perfection, his life hangs by a thread, and he will eventually rewrite his own destiny.
Read this passage:
When you recite the words, Alaska cod is jumping out of the water.
When you are doing math, seagulls on the other side of the Pacific are flapping their wings over the city.
When studying at night, the night sky on the polar circle is colorful.
But don't worry, boy, when you work hard for your future:
The scenery you think you will never see and the people you think you will never meet are coming to you step by step.
I can't imagine that many wonderful things will happen on this planet, so I work hard.
The entry says: getting used to low matching will only make you continue to live a life you don't want. And do your best, you can see a different world.
? ? Positive Energy Inspirational Story 2: From Ma Yun to Li Jiaqi: The best way to abolish a person is to let him work hard? ? Taking a step in the right direction can get to the finish line faster than running aimlessly. ? Yesterday, several friends forwarded an article, starting with young people with an annual salary of one million, giving a shot of chicken blood to all those who are working hard: "If you want to succeed, you must work hard." ? Among them, Li Jiaqi, the "first brother of lipstick", was mentioned: this year is the hottest year among online celebrities. In two months, Tik Tok rose by140,000, with a monthly income of 6 figures and a live broadcast of 3.5 million. ? I have seen his videos, and I respect this hardworking young man. ? But I know that he used to be an ordinary cosmetics shopping guide with a salary of several thousand yuan. After work, he played mahjong, sang songs and ate supper. ? So what I appreciate more is his vision: look at the live broadcast industry and choose the road that suits you, and people will work harder and better. ? Yes, hard work is really important. No one can succeed without hard work. ? But I'm worried that blindly advocating "hard work" will paralyze many young people, thinking that hard work will definitely pay off. ? There are too many people working hard in this world, but there won't be too many "Li Jiaqi". ? Desperate "efforts" without thinking about the meaning and value of efforts will destroy a person. ? Direction is more important than speed, and choice is more important than effort; ? Because of the right choice, efforts become meaningful. ? 1 ? In the wrong direction, the harder you work, the sadder you get? The carcass of a whale was found on the English grassland 800 meters from the coastline. ? After an in-depth investigation by animal protection organizations, the truth is that whales want to roll back to the sea after being washed ashore and stranded. ? Unfortunately, it went in the wrong direction and ran in the opposite direction until it died. ? We are really afraid of being "abandoned" by our peers, just like this whale. ? I didn't know the direction, so I took a few steps first. I always thought hard work was enough. In fact, I am getting farther and farther away from my goal. ? Ma Yun wanted to take the police exam after graduation, but his physical fitness was not up to standard. I went to KFC to interview the clerk, but I was not accepted. ? Later, the establishment of translation agency was not smooth, and it was cheated to the United States, almost "never coming back". ? If all the previous failures were to bide our time and bide our time, it was not until he stepped into the internet industry and founded Alibaba that Ma Yun finally began to emerge. ? "Garbage is misplaced wealth, and mediocrity is a talent who stands in the wrong position." ? Bo Huang sang songs for many years, was unknown, and made a movie by mistake, which became an instant hit; ? Shen Teng, a male god in the performance department, was unknown at the peak of her beauty. Unexpectedly, he entered middle age and played a sketch. ? Life is not a sprint, but a marathon. ? You can't sprint at the beginning without thinking about where you really want to go. ? 2 ? Can you work hard to do what you love? There was a boy who didn't know what he should do after graduating from college. ? I listened to my parents' arrangement and worked as an accountant for two years, a carpenter for two years and a truck driver for eight years. ? But they all feel boring and don't want to do it well at all. ? Later, he was lucky enough to see the movie Star Wars. He was so excited that he finally found the direction of his life. ? So I quit my job and focused on my favorite movie in 32 years. ? This boy is Cameron, the director of Titanic and Avatar. ? Someone asked me about the 996 working system before, and I replied: only love. It's hard to love something you don't love for one minute. ? I know that hard work is very important, but we can't just work hard and live in pain for a long time. ? The road to success is full of hardships. The test is who is firm enough. ? If you don't know whether you love what you are doing, you can judge this way: which do you think is more worthwhile than the effort and the harvest? ? 3 ? When there is no credit, what efforts can we talk about? "Tactical efforts can never make up for strategic laziness." ? Cutting firewood with a blunt axe 10 hour is better than grinding axe 10 minute; ? There's a hole in the sheepfold, so it's better to spend two hours mending it if you keep an eye on the wolf for 24 hours. ? In the history of Huawei's development, Ren has maintained a 10% employee elimination rate, even at the expense of "blood washing" the company twice. ? Many people lost the election in the new round of competition and said helplessly, "We have no credit and hard work." ? Ren was very angry: "What are you complaining about? It is ineffective labor and waste. " ? Bosses are often moved by hard-working employees, but they don't pay for them. ? Grandpa Beihai warned me when I started my business. There is a kind of laziness called "just trying without thinking". You only know how to run, don't look up at the road, and finally go astray. ? "It's easy to deceive yourself. ? But it is difficult to deceive the cause and effect of this world. " ? Hard work is an important means of success, but it is not the only purpose. ? Trying to "look hard" is actually consuming yourself. ? 4 ? When there is no goal, remember to follow the right person? 1997, Ma Yun, who failed to start a business, said to his colleagues: "If you come home with me to start a second business, the salary is only 500 yuan, and the office is in my home. ? Don't know what to do. All I know is that I want to be the largest merchant website in the world. How to choose, I will give you three days to consider. " ? In less than three days, all these people stayed behind and became the "eighteen arhats" of Alibaba, creating a legend with Ma Yun. ? They can't predict the achievements of Alibaba for decades, but they all did the right thing: follow the right person. ? Cai Chongxin, in particular, was the Asian president of the largest listed holding company in Northern Europe before joining Alibaba. ? But he took a fancy to Ma Yun's vision and his potential, resolutely gave up the generous treatment and joined Ma Yun's team with a monthly salary of 500 yuan. ? "There is Bole in the world, and then there is a swift horse." ? If you haven't found the direction of your efforts yet, then my advice to you is: follow the right person. ? Just like walking on the road in the footsteps of predecessors, my heart will always be steadfast and I will not fall into the ditch. ? I started my business for nearly 20 times and never returned empty-handed, which made my partners make money. ? Many partners are more capable than me, but they are willing to follow me, because I can always find new hope and a longer-term development direction. ? The meaning of hard work is not only to run hard, but also to improve one's vision and judgment. ? If you are a new sailor and know nothing about the sea, it is much more effective to get on the right boat and follow the captain than to row by yourself. ? 5 ? Do the right thing with half the effort? Chen Danian, once the richest man in China and the founder of Shanda Network, once praised the 996 working system. ? At that time, he worked 15 hours a day, took his employees to work overtime, and often organized meetings in the early hours of the morning, which was particularly hard. ? Later, he fainted while working overtime and was taken to the hospital. His father asked him several questions: "Are you the cleverest? Is it the hardest? " ? He answered honestly: No? The father asked again, "Then why do you earn so much money?" ? Chen Danian suddenly froze. He always thought he was trying to get him to where he is today. Looking back on my own entrepreneurial process, I found that success lies in three key points: I decided to act as the agent of mir Legend and started the independent research and development of Legendary World, which became the starting point. ? When he came out of the hospital, he said with emotion: it is the right decision, not the most desperate part, that determines the victory of a company. ? There is a classic multiple-choice question:? Scheme A is: give you 6,543.8+0,000 yuan at one time; ? Plan B is: I will give you one dollar today, for 30 consecutive days in the future, and I will give you twice the money the day before. ? If you choose A, you will miss 500 million yuan, which is the final benefit of option B? Life is the same. It is more important than starting blindly to make a better decision. ? Most of the success is not the result of going its own way, not Ma Yun, not Wang Jianlin and not Ren. ? No winner will flaunt himself with loneliness. ? Instead of going all the way to darkness, it is better to improve yourself and explore the direction of life. ? Anyone who has played the maze knows how frustrating it will be to walk hard for a long time and find it is a dead end. ? Always attributing failure to "not working hard enough" is a great blow to a person's self-confidence and may even drag him down. ? Adults don't have much enthusiasm and opportunities to do their best for one thing. ? You don't have to make excuses for failure, but you have to find a way to succeed. ? You have accomplished 100 unimportant things, so it is better to make a good decision and get 1 important things. ? Don't touch yourself with "hard work", but prove yourself with "credit". ? Because choice is always more important than hard work. ? ? Positive energy inspirational story 3: get up at 5 am and stick to 14 years. What will life be like? ? 1 ? "A desk lamp, a computer, a water cup, the morning time is quiet and luxurious, and I get up around 5 o'clock every morning. This year is 14 years. " ? I received a lot of praise after posting this Weibo. ? When I started to get up early, I didn't realize that it was a kind of self-discipline and that getting up early would change my trajectory. ? Getting up early is not worth mentioning, but even I admire myself for sticking to 14. ? 14 years, I have a deeper understanding and dependence on getting up early. I want to commemorate my "ivory marriage" with a sense of ceremony. ? 2 ? The good habit of "getting up early" was formally formed in my freshman year. ? After the results of the first semester were announced, I ranked in the bottom ten. Almost all the girls failed me after the results of Band Four came out. ? Usually it is said that there is something wrong with the college entrance examination. If I can't stand it, I will get up at five o'clock in the morning with the dormitory seniors. ? Since then, although the arrangement of day and night is similar to that of freshman year, I have watched every episode of funny variety shows because of the decline of favorite American dramas. ? But from professional scholarships to national scholarships, all kinds of certificates have been tested. ? Since graduation, no matter how many jobs I have changed, my friends have changed several times, moving from the south to the north, from being single to being married, and starting to write and publish books in my spare time. The only thing that accompanies me is getting up early. ? I used to cram for the Buddha's feet, and I was in the late stage of procrastination. I have gradually become a person who works in a planned way, always delivers in advance and has the right work hobby. ? Thank you. Since 14, who got up two hours earlier? ? 3 ? Psychologists say that self-discipline is divided into three stages, the early stage is exciting, the middle stage is painful, and the later stage is enjoyable. ? I think there are three stages in getting up early. ? Early morning, exciting. ? When I first got up early, I thought the morning was really good. Birds are singing and flowers are fragrant in spring, but it is rare to be cool in summer, cool in autumn and quiet and dark in winter. ? In the morning, I was pleasantly surprised to find that the brain configuration was extremely high. After a night's sleep, the flash memory in my brain is very low and my memory is obviously improved. I start the ultra-clear mode by analyzing the problem. You can use 1. Thinking at five times the speed, without external interference, it is easy to enter the flow state. ? I am as excited as a nouveau riche who picked up a large sum of money for nothing. ? It is painful to get up early in the middle. ? I can't get up in the first winter. In winter, it's very late and it's very cold. I can't get out of bed. ? But let me think about it. It's almost 700 minutes in Band 4, and I still get up early rain or shine. Why should I spoil myself? ? So I got up with my back teeth, braved the biting cold wind with my roommate and found a classroom to study along the dark road. My body is warm and my fingers are stiff with cold. Of course, with central heating now, we can get up early in winter. ? There is also a pain of getting up early. I was kidnapped by the "life of getting up at 5 o'clock every day", and occasionally I got up early when I was tired or uncomfortable after work. ? Later I learned that I got up early for the goal, not for getting up early. ? If you are unwell, tired from work and don't sleep well on the first day, it is very important to regain your energy. Don't force yourself to get up early. ? In the late morning, you enjoy it. ? The word "persistence" is no longer needed after the middle period of getting up early. ? I have skillfully adjusted my biological clock. I used to need an alarm clock and perseverance, but then I woke up naturally. If you sleep at 9 o'clock in the evening, you will wake up at 4 o'clock the next morning; Sleep at night 10, and wake up at 5 am the next day. ? Getting up early at every stage has helped me a lot. ? In college, I mainly read English in the morning and once recited the new concept 3. Go for a run in the nearby park in the morning, or practice yoga and meditation at home. ? When I first started working, I mainly read professional books or workplace books in the morning to get started as soon as possible; When I got familiar with my work, I began to read all kinds of favorite books, and then slowly embarked on the road of writing. ? I used to value the feeling of getting up early, making scented tea, watching the sunrise, sitting still and reading a good book. ? In the past two years, I woke up in the morning, seldom touched my mobile phone, drank water to moisten my throat, and entered the writing state without saying a word. ? I like getting up early. This period is full of inspiration and efficiency, which makes me do what I want with half the effort. ? I get up early and get sleepy at night. You will feel sleepy at 9 pm or 10, so go to bed early to avoid daydreaming at night. ? I found that my biological clock and career have improved for a long time, and even my personality has become better. ? 4 ? Getting up early for a long time can also bring you inner security. ? Jack, commander of the US Navy SEALs who gets up at 4: 45 every day? Weilingke always felt that there was an enemy waiting to confront him in the world. ? When I wake up every day, I ask myself, what can I do now to prepare for that moment? ? Then get up at once. ? Getting up early gives me a feeling of defeating the enemy psychologically? His spirit has infected many Americans, which is also the origin of the "4: 45 get up club" on Twitter. ? If you want to balance work and hobbies, getting up early for a long time can help you. ? Famous comic writer Scott? Adams, his cartoons have been reprinted in 25 languages in 65 countries. He writes blogs, draws cartoons and publishes books, which is incredibly productive. ? He used to be an office white-collar worker. When he first started drawing cartoons, he got up at 4 o'clock every morning. ? After he got up early, the process was completely fixed, and even the breakfast did not change. After clearing his mind, he began to look for materials and inspiration, and then began to paint or write. ? If you want to improve your health, getting up early for a long time can help you. ? Kobe Bryant, a basketball superstar who watches 4 a.m. in Los Angeles every day, said, "After more than ten years, the street darkness at 4 a.m. in Los Angeles has not changed, but I have become an athlete with strong muscles, abundant physical strength, great strength and high shooting percentage." ? Jennifer, a famous actress who opens at 4: 30 or 5: 00 every morning? Aniston, do five things in the same order every morning: drink a slice of lemon hot water, wash your face, meditate, have breakfast and go to the gym. ? At the age of 50, she still maintains a compact figure and a beautiful face. ? Getting up early for a long time will make you meet a beautiful self that you never dared to think of. ? 5 ? If you have a secret crush, I suggest you unlock the early-rising lifestyle step by step with 15 minutes as the scale. ? The research report found that some people are not suitable for getting up early, even in the morning, there is no need to get up at 5 o'clock. ? Do you want to get up early? What time does the morning start? How to optimize time allocation and efficiency? ? You have to try it yourself to know, and then get up early in the way you like. ? Getting up early is not achieved overnight, let alone generalizing. ? Qiu Chen, a well-known debater of The Story of Seven Pars, said: "18 years ago, when I played a game that only five people watched, I also worked hard, so I got here today. The value of debate is meaningless today, but it is meaningful because I have been working hard in the past. " ? So I didn't think of its value when I got up early, and this long-term persistence itself became a kind of value. ? Famous investor Charlie? Munger said: "Studying can make you smarter before going to bed every night than when you wake up that morning." ? For me, every morning when I wake up, I am a little better than myself the day before! ?