As a psychological counselor, I often meet some visitors. They were passively consulted and were forced to come to the psychological counseling room. They have no motivation to consult, are unwilling to take the initiative to consult, are unaware of their own problems, and are more exclusive to counselors, thinking that their current situation is quite good and does not need to be changed.
In the face of such visitors, we need to put the establishment of relations in the first place, accept visitors, be close to them, and not presuppose, judge or hint. Spending more time talking with them about topics they are interested in can turn them into consumers. For the first consultation, don't expect visitors to change much, especially for students who are tired of learning. Encourage and praise more.
The following case may give us some inspiration.
Consultant: Jessica, what do you want most from this meeting?
Jessica: I don't know. To be honest, I didn't think so much.
Counselor: Now think about it. What do you expect most from this conversation?
Jessica: There is nothing to look forward to.
Consultant: If this conversation is very useful to you, what do you hope he can bring?
Jessica: I don't think he will be useful. These conversations are never useful.
Counselor: OK, so you don't think our conversation is a good idea.
Jessica: No.
Consultant: But you came anyway. Why?
Jessica: I have no choice. They made me have to come.
Counselor: It must be difficult, because I think you are a very independent person. You want to make your own decisions, right?
Jessica: Sometimes.
Consultant: Then how did you decide to cooperate with them to come here?
Jessica: I told you, I have no choice.
Consultant: I can't imagine that you always listen to their demands.
Jessica: I won't.
Consultant: Then why did you listen to their demands this time?
Jessica: If I don't listen, they will fire me.
Consultant: Hmm. So if possible, you need to find a way not to be fired, at least for a while, right?
Jessica: Yes.
Counselor: So if this conversation helps you find a way not to be expelled to some extent, it is feasible for you and the school, so the conversation is useful, right?
Jessica: I think so.
Consultant: OK, may I ask you some questions?
Jessica: OK. Ask.