For me, as long as I can make my parents live a better life. My family is a traditional farmer. When I was a child, my parents were farmers. Later, they provided me with schooling. They are always diligent. Now I'd better work by myself. I used to be reluctant to buy this and that.

People who have bigger ideals probably want to set up their own business. They have brains, ideas and want to succeed.

Most people should aim for wealth and freedom.

For what? I'm afraid we don't know! You dare to say that in order to earn more money to buy a house, after a few years, you found that the deposit was only enough to pay the down payment! Some people say it's for children, but do you spend half of your income on children? They all live in a daze, perhaps for the sake of practicality. My own two suites have been renovated, with a car and hundreds of thousands of deposits. A child is in second grade. But I still get up early and get greedy for money. I don't know why, but I'm really tired. I only have four hours' rest every day. Maybe I just want to be happier when I earn some money every day. I really can't find any other motivation.

1 I don't know why I torture myself, because I go with the flow, because everyone agrees that only by studying hard can we live a good life and get better, but I find that life is getting more and more tired.

2. Tired of life, tired of interpersonal relationships, and afraid of standing in society in the future. I can't solve my problems at all, and I can't solve my own problems. After more than ten years, I feel very tired and want to give up. But at the thought of the kindness behind me, I became strong again and continued to study. Although this clumsy way makes me really dull, depressed, painful and hard-working, I find it hard to imagine that people in the world always have a harder life than themselves.

3. If you are good to yourself, you must be serious and be hard on yourself. Then you should manage your mentality, don't feel bored, don't feel difficult. Our beautiful country can move from the difficult period to the era of peace and prosperity. Shouldn't we be proud, strong and unique, because others have already done it, and only we have no one to do it, and be brave to be ourselves?

I always feel that when I see others being themselves, someone will always stand up and tell me what others should be like, and I feel very angry and annoyed. Later, this anger has become more and more powerful, and I feel that I am no longer wronged and hurt by a little gossip from the outside world.

When people are young, they always want to study, struggle and live a personal life in the future through their own efforts. But life is very realistic, and people don't buy it by personal efforts, which contains many external factors.

Later, friends became less and less, and they all got married, so get married yourself. After marriage, I will work hard to support my family for my family and future children. After the baby is born, he is afraid of freezing in winter and heat in summer.

And suddenly one day, I thought that my parents took care of me like this when I was a child. I quickly bought supplements for my parents at home, but when I heard that I had a granddaughter, I had to move in together, saying it was convenient to take care of. Finally, the two old people do this and that happily every day.

After the woman's parents heard about it, they also asked her to move to their city. The two old people were busy all day. Pour all your love into the granddaughter generation. This is the happiness in real efforts.

Through these things, whenever I think back, I feel like a grandfather, right? And so are families from ancient times to the present?

It is not difficult to see that there are thousands of such ordinary families in China and Qian Qian, and it is these thousands of ordinary families in Qian Qian that bear the continuous inheritance of the blood of the Chinese nation!

In order to live a carefree life for myself and my family.

I didn't want to live hard until I got married. I didn't even think about it before I got married I play everywhere every day Surfing the internet, going out with friends if you have nothing to do, you can't save money at all. I didn't think it necessary to save money at that time. My parents are both at work, so I don't need to raise them. I just take care of myself. Now that I'm married, it's very different. I always feel that making money is a man's business, so I have to work hard. Parents get old day by day, and they have to bear the burden themselves in the future. Children's annual expenses vary from age to age. Think about how you can not work hard, no matter how hard and tired you are. You are a man. It's hard.

These things can only be slowly realized when you are old, and you are very annoyed that you have done nothing before. But I don't regret taking medicine. I'm trying myself. I hope everyone can live a little easier. Let's go

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Generally speaking, in the first few years at Peking University, I was quite ignorant. Although it seems that seniors and seniors are caught in the torrent, and everyone is preparing to go abroad, enter the Big Four and go to investment banks, I still take the road that most people think is "good". In my senior year, I had the opportunity to go to Cambridge to study the MBA program of risk management in cultural and creative industries. The other party saw that I had entrepreneurial experience in school, opened a physical store, and was interested in cultural and creative industries, so I offered. I went to England after graduation. But after studying for a month or two, I felt that this kind of life was not what I wanted, so I dropped out of school and came back.

There were two opportunities. First, Dragon TV has a documentary program called Experience China. That year, three college students were selected, and they traveled all the prefecture-level cities in China in one year, only by train and bus, constantly interviewing people, writing columns and making films. When I went to Britain in July, the final result of online voting had not yet come out, but in September, they called me to inform me that I was selected. They know I'm already in Cambridge, and they think I won't come back. I didn't expect that I blurted out at that time and said, help me buy a plane ticket. I want to come back.

This decision is related to the second chance, that is, in late June of that year, a very good friend of mine committed suicide by jumping off a building in Singapore because of depression. Before that, I will go to England soon. I went to Singapore to play in May. The last thing she said to me was, have you decided to go abroad? I said, I haven't decided yet She said, don't go abroad without thinking it over.

Her life looks good to outsiders, but she went to Singapore only because her parents, classmates and colleagues felt good. Her family's economic conditions are not very good. This job is going out through Singapore's talent introduction plan, and she can get her identity and earn a good income. Everyone thinks that she should go, but she doesn't like it herself.

She persisted there for more than a year, and then committed suicide. No one there handled her funeral. Her parents didn't know English, and my visa didn't expire, so I went to help her with the funeral, and did the body identification, autopsy and antiseptic treatment. The body was first transported to South Korea (because only Korean Air undertakes the service of transporting the body), and then transported back to Beijing and Xi 'an. The whole process took more than two months. I was very tired during that time and I was a little depressed myself.

I didn't expect that going with the flow would have such serious consequences. A person will end his life in this way because he lives a life that others look glamorous but he doesn't like.

I flew back from Singapore in July and returned to Beijing at 6 am, which happened to be the graduation ceremony of Peking University. I got my diploma and flew to England ten days later. At that time, my family and friends were congratulating me, but after I went to England, my condition was not good. What I learned from MBA is not my favorite. In that small town in Cambridge, there is no one on the street at 4 pm, and the bed in the dormitory is very narrow. Looking at the rain or lawn outside every day makes people feel sad everywhere.

So when the opportunity of Oriental TV appeared, I made a choice without hesitation.

In fact, I was not sure what I wanted at that time, so I just wanted to take a walk. As it turns out, I participated in that project, GAP, in the second year, and I slowly found my own life path.

One of my feelings is that GAP provided me with a stall so that I could think seriously. Many people don't give themselves this stall or enough time. For example, they always feel that they should cherish time, ride a donkey to find a horse, jump from one identity to another, and jump from one job to another. Life is always seamless.

But I think it's better for you to stop and look when you're not sure. When you are too afraid to miss the opportunity, you may miss a bigger opportunity.

Moreover, people's consciousness is fluid, and if they enter a certain job or environment, they will be unconsciously changed and influenced. For example, you wanted to do another thing, but you have been in what you are doing for several months, and it is difficult for you to jump out again.

In fact, for today's young people, life is not difficult, as long as they do not pursue high living conditions. Even if you have worked hard for a year, but gradually found your own direction and determined your career and development path for the next ten years, then you can work hard, have a stable income and continuous satisfaction, then I think this year is still cost-effective. You must try to give yourself a chance, a gear, and try to experience it.

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I remember when I just graduated, many people went with the flow without thinking clearly, stayed in Beishangguang, followed the trend abroad or were brainwashed by big companies, but did they really think clearly? Is this really your own need?

This is not necessarily the case for most people. Maybe it's just listening to mom and dad chanting, and friends around me chanting. Many people keep changing jobs, making Excel forms and printing documents in the Big Four, and living in that bubble. What is even more frightening is that if it is not adjusted in time, it will become a path dependence, slowly grinding away the edges and corners, and it will become more and more difficult to bear the risk of change, and so on.

If you don't want to be an academic, why do you want to study for a doctorate? If you don't need interpersonal relationships, why do you want to go to MBA? Life is too short to work hard in one place. Looking back now, people who were not involved in the torrent at that time will develop better now.

In fact, it was not that I didn't measure various factors at that time. I also made an analysis, but my analysis started with myself. For example, when I give up Cambridge, I will ask myself, what can Cambridge bring me? First of all, this year's study is of little use to me Just give me the name of a school and the opportunity to enter the top 500 consulting companies. But at that time, I was sure that I didn't want to find a job, but wanted to start my own business, so this diploma and its added value were worthless to me. It takes hundreds of thousands to study for a master's degree in Britain, which is enough for me to start a business in China. So, I made this decision naturally.

Every time I choose, it seems that I gave up what others think is better: I gave up Cambridge and didn't stay in Beishangguang, but returned to Ningxia, where I did a job that seemed to have a low threshold (and everyone thought that tea was made by middle-aged and elderly people), and now I went to Laos. But in fact, every time I make a choice, I choose what I am best at.

Now that the Internet is so developed, it is easy to get information. Many people always want others to give you reference or guidance, which is actually a kind of laziness and escape.

When faced with such problems as how to start a business and how to do a good job, people often think too much and do too little. For example, some people say that I don't like fitness before I start it, and I don't want to be that big. In fact, you may not be able to practice for three years. Some people want to be a director, saying that I want to be a director, but the entertainment circle is too messy. Think so much, you might as well give it a try.

GAP that year, I interviewed a famous Pu 'er tea boss in Yunnan. He told me that if you are interested, you can be a distribution agent in the northwest. My mother likes tea very much, and I like traditional culture, so I am also interested in tea. When I came home from GAP, Oriental TV offered me a job, but I decided to start selling tea, although I still knew nothing about it.

From the beginning, I was confused. The first batch of goods is about 600,000 pieces. I was shocked when unloading, and both houses were piled up to the brim. Fu Gang, the logistics engineer, unloaded the goods and just moved them from downstairs to upstairs, which took me two whole days.

How much is it? I have never been in sales before. I first drank every sip of tea carefully and felt the taste of tea, and then slowly began to rent the store and decorate it. But everything went smoothly after I started selling, and I found that my cultural knowledge was also very useful for tea sales.

From selling tea, I gradually made clear the source of my interest. In one sentence, I like the process of "from scratch". So I prefer to accept new things. I prefer "creation" to "maintenance".

My present work and life also revolve around this theme. From the beginning of selling tea, I opened the whole northwest market, initiated the development of tea brands in China, the United States and Laos, set up a company in Laos, and built a tea factory there from a barren mountain. The same is true of my amateur investment in cultural and creative industries. I am responsible for establishing projects, that is, discovering and supporting new projects.

All these efforts are actually centered around my original force. Having made this clear, I can easily choose. Because doing business is in line with my sense of accomplishment of "starting from scratch" and the cost performance is relatively high. If you are an employee, you have to spend a lot of time on interpersonal relationships or other things. If you have to adapt to this and that, your efficiency will be very poor.

Many times I feel that the so-called rules and regulations in life are actually carried by myself. I used to think what my parents wanted me to be. Although they were shocked when I went back to Ningxia to sell tea, I started my own business soon and later found that it didn't affect them. In fact, they also have their own lives.

As for those farther away, such as relatives and friends, when I return to Ningxia, I will say, how did you go to Peking University, Britain, and then back to Yinchuan? Many people will feel uncomfortable and looked down upon at this time. But people don't really care about you that much. Your life has no influence on them. They met just to chat with you. But many people, because of this, have a heavy burden on their backs and feel that they will lose face when they come back. In the eyes of others, he is a loser, and he doesn't get along well in Beishangguang.

Some people obviously live well in Beishangguang, but their parents or relatives will say, are you living hard outside and renting a house? They will also put chains on themselves. People who care too much about others' comments will really feel unhappy when others say they are unhappy. But in fact, only you know whether you are happy or not.

Only through your own efforts, whether you stop to think and experience life, or try hard, find motivation, and do everything well around the source power, will you know the choice of life you want and get this choice.

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The original text was published in "I have never been swept away by the torrent on the road of choosing life" | KY Interview: 20 16, the person who inspired me the most.

Life must be full of pain, but it is not always painful.

Human suffering, in essence, comes from their own incompetence, not from the silence of the universe, low social efficiency and other broad and empty problems, because this is not true.

What is truth? The truth is that you love someone deeply but are broken up, but you work hard but are unlucky, so it is difficult to get promoted. The truth is, when you wake up, your lover is still sleeping beside you. When you come home from work, you see your children laughing and playing. Life is real, and it is closely connected with you. Pain comes from life, and you can really feel it.

People will think a lot of questions when they encounter choices, most of which will involve specific life, what kind of girlfriend to find, where to work and so on. These questions are very real and direct.

When people encounter difficulties, they will also think about many problems, including the cycle of life and death and the disillusionment of the universe. These problems are often heavy, but if you can't figure it out, you can't figure it out, and it won't be painful in essence.

At present, the subject must have encountered some problems that are difficult to solve in a short time in life, which makes you feel painful. You may think about the true meaning of the universe and the meaning of life, and you may ask who I am. If the subject can further realize the truth of life, congratulations. When you recognize the truth of life and understand and accept the invisible trading rules in real life, you will naturally work hard.

When you find yourself in trouble, you may get some comfort from books. But if we want to get out of the predicament as soon as possible, we must analyze the root of the problem clearly, so as to help solve the problem. For example, if you can't find a girlfriend, you should strive to improve yourself, dress up, figure, manners and so on. If the work doesn't go well, just figure out where the difficulties are, work a little harder and stick to it.

If you know the problem and the solution to it, but don't work hard, then you are lazy and continue to feel sorry for yourself.

Oh, by the way, those people with high IQ, such as those who study physics, will suffer from the fact that I can't work out this equation, and then I can't publish my paper and graduate. It doesn't come from the fact that humans don't want to disappear when the sun is destroyed. Everyone is busy solving specific problems and working hard for their lives, and those problems that are too big, we just talk about them and won't feel pain.

Why do people live so hard? Yes, for what, I think: I should honestly recognize myself as a person! Not a dog.

If you want to be a man, you must handle personnel well. Always think about loving your family, patriotism, and loving others, and living is meaningful!

Selfish, immoral, inexperienced, without a country, homeless, treating him like dirt and thinking about harmful scum, such people are meaningless, unhappy and uninterested in life! I don't know why I want to live!

This problem can be analyzed and understood from the following two aspects.

First, live for yourself, burn yourself for the people you love, do your best to release your light and heat, and hope to shine on your relatives or friends in your small circle with warmth and light.

Second, for the sake of others, the public, and the national justice of the country, I will forget my life and do my best to die.

Every one of us, since we came into this world, has lived to live: this is also the basis for animals to live. But we humans, known as advanced animals and super-intelligent creatures, are certainly not so easy to satisfy this basic lifestyle.

Therefore, from ancient times to the present, sages have jumped out to teach people how to do it: it is meaningful to live like this, and it is valuable to live like that. Then make rules and regulations, which shall not be violated! And set a good example of behavior, so that future generations can follow the patriarchal clan system and pursue fame and fortune under the guise of benefiting the country and the people: it is also euphemistically called'' glow and heat, human civilization and progress''.

No wonder Laozi said bitterly in the Tao Te Ching:' saints never die, but thieves never stop. And call on people to abandon wisdom and return to simplicity. This kind of wisdom is not the wisdom of truth, but the wisdom of originality, which is actually known to the private world. If everyone goes against his conscience and ignores justice for his own self-interest: even if he earns a lot of money and jewels, how can he be happy!

Therefore, people should get rid of their own selfishness, their own small circle, and enter the bright realm of self-dedication, burning themselves, benefiting others and benefiting the public, so as to make the brilliance of life colorful. Life is like a lotus, and death is safe!

Just like sand, stone and cement, give up your life, abandon your glory, integrate into the concrete life of a larger self, accumulate small and grow big, gather big light with dim light, and try your best to enter the realm of no self.

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Why should we try to live? Thousands of answers!

I think living is to continue civilization! When we are struggling for life, don't complain, because without suffering, how can civilization be brilliant and how can life be happy without suffering! We should not pursue the value concept of getting something for nothing, which goes against the correct outlook on life and values. "Glorious China blooms in the sky and suffering". On the big side, we should strive to live for the more splendid Chinese civilization. On the small side, we should strive to live for the happiness of our family and find our own life goals and value orientation.

Live hard, carry forward the fine family style and inherit the Chinese civilization! Life will be more meaningful!