How to chat with girls at first: Why do girls talk about girls when chatting? From the perspective of human nature, everyone really cares about themselves, and everyone wants others to pay attention to their own advantages. Therefore, at the beginning, it is easier to get a reply when you start chatting with girls. The correct way is to find topics from a girl's circle of friends, such as her living conditions, selfies, eating, playing and so on. These States that she posted are what girls want to be seen by others. If we start from here, the chat will be much smoother. The correct way to chat should be, "The skirt in your photo is the same as my sister's", "You also like to eat that hot pot" and "Look at your circle of friends, you should be a kindergarten teacher." Each of these interactive ways is related to girls, and naturally she will give you a good response attitude. How to chat with girls from the beginning Idea 2: Talking about yourself Many boys have learned the chat ideas mentioned in the last article and are not very enthusiastic about chatting with girls. Then you will find that the more you talk, the harder it is for you to pursue her. In the end, you can either be a friend to chat with or an emotional trash can for girls to complain about. The reason is that your chat topic always revolves around girls. Maybe she won't talk to you because she has feelings for you. A large part of the reason is that girls think they have someone who can pay attention to her from the details and find an outlet to complain. Talking about girls at first is just to attract her attention and interest, so that your subsequent chat skills can be used. The correct way is to introduce the topic of chat to yourself. For example, if you ask a girl "What are you doing", the topic will be transferred to you seamlessly after the girl answers. For example, when a girl replies "I just got home from work", you can say "I really envy those children who don't have to work overtime. I still have a lot of paperwork to write" and "I'm waiting for the traffic lights, so I'll take this opportunity to reply to you". Once the topic leads to you, girls will probably reply to the discussion according to what you said. In this way, the direction of chatting will be led by you, and girls will know you better and like you. How to chat with girls The initial idea 3: Talking about emotions If you only talk about girls' related topics and then talk about yourself, after a long time, you will find that your relationship with girls can't develop further, because you only talk about objective facts without emotional feelings. Chatting at the table level does not prevent you from becoming good friends, but when chasing girls, the focus of chatting is emotional interaction. For example, you ask a girl, "What are you doing?" The girl tells you, "I'm eating hot pot, so spicy." You can say, "You like spicy food, you are envious, and you always insist on fitness. As for the hot pot, I will endure it. " After the girl responds, you can also say, "I know a hot pot, which is super spicy and hotter than what you eat." "I'll take you to eat as an exception." Inadvertently, your chat atmosphere has sublimated from dull to cheerful, and both of you have brought emotions into it. In the process of chatting with girls, three ideas are indispensable and complement each other. In short, you can't always chat by feeling, talk about the details related to her, and then talk about your own value. The process brings in emotional fluctuations, and girls will be talked about by you until they like you. How to chat with girls from the beginning 2 1 First of all, don't talk in a hurry. Think about strategy before you act. Girls like to know this person by looking at their circle of friends, so you need to build a good profile and a good circle of friends, so as to show your elegant temperament. At least you need to convey this message in your circle of friends: what kind of person you are and what kind of life you live. Instead of blindly reprinting some boring articles and pictures, girls will not have a good impression on you. It was really hard for me to pick up girls before. I have been a boy for 28 years. At that time, I had a shadow in my heart and was afraid of contacting girls. I came across a book about picking up girls-The Manipulation of Love, which taught many methods of chasing girls, all of which can directly determine the relationship and win without confession. Since then, peach blossoms have continued, and one sister after another has settled down. Now I understand that picking up girls is a technical job, and the result of knowing and not knowing is completely different. I think all the brothers who have taken off the order can have a look. If you check online, there are e-books. It's amazing that you can see the key effect without spending money. I wish all brothers an early cancellation. 2. Say hello. It doesn't take much skill to say hello. Just say hello. Don't be too gaudy, it seems that you are a playboy, and the chat time should not be too long. You can do some simple information exchange at first, or you can omit this part. Don't stay at this stage for a long time, it will make the chat drag on and boring, and don't let your sister feel that you are over-expressing yourself or auditing the accounts. To give your sister some room for expression, you must keep a conservation law: what you say is similar to what she says, so that she will not feel superior, and you will get along more harmoniously. Ask less questions and answer more questions in the early stage, and talk more about each other's lives. Exchange ideas with each other, so that two people have the feeling of chatting with each other. You have to have the ability to open a topic. Take the initiative in chatting. If you let girls take the initiative, you won't have a chance. You need to find a topic that girls like, and try to add a little humor to the conversation to make girls laugh. You should be able to see whether she is interested in this topic. If the girl's reaction is short and there are no waves on her face, it means something. You should stop this topic at once and change the topic. Try not to talk about Taiyuan's principle, which is easy to produce differences. Talk about some interesting things with girls and exchange your feelings. 4. If you can always make girls laugh again and again in the early stage of chatting, then girls will definitely like chatting with you, because girls like humorous men. Remember that girls are emotional. Don't always explain your big talk. How can girls be interested? How am I supposed to talk to you? Study hard, brother. I wish you an early success and shine on you! 5, there is also the need to properly express their feelings in chat, don't blindly evaluate each other, you know that girls don't like to be commented on the most! Unless you praise her for her beauty, you must have superb storytelling skills, but you can't just make one up. Girls are not stupid. How can people not know that you are perfunctory? Also, you can't ask girls questions continuously. What if people are impatient? That's too bad! How to chat with girls from the beginning 3 1 Where did the initial attraction come from? Imagine what would happen if a worthless girl came to talk to you. Polite response, right? But what if you are tired of talking to her or she touches something unpleasant on you? Even if you don't scold me many times in your heart, it's too much to refuse directly. The same is true when we chat with girls. You don't show her any attraction. Why should she chat with you? Don't say you have a heart, you have a connotation, because no one will walk into a stranger's heart at the early stage of communication, and neither will you. So! Look in the mirror before chatting. In order to find a better man, girls will dress themselves up and show themselves. So, will you flatter yourself in order to give her a good impression? Even if you are not handsome, you should give people a thin face. After you have a good presentation, it really doesn't matter how amazing the opening remarks are. To make girls curious, add some interesting ingredients, such as nicknames, avatars, jokes and so on. There is so much to say, even one expression is enough to attract her attention to you. 2. Upgrade trust and narrow the distance. If someone suddenly stops you in the street and wants to borrow money from you, I don't think anyone will. If you ask some information about you, will you tell him? I don't think so, because being a stranger, not only has no sense of trust, but also has a strong sense of prevention. Chatting with girls is the same, why not chat with you? Because the way you talk about auditing makes her alert, in the early stage of understanding, if you want to gain trust, you must first have a clear attitude: I am not thirsty and will not pester her like a dog skin plaster. Everything you say should reveal a message: I'm just free at the moment, and you're just bored, so let's chat to kill time. Disarming the guard is the first step to build trust. If you can't, provide some topics that can arouse interest and buzz, and the effect will be the same. Talk about hobbies, leisure, emotions, etc. Are ways to seek * * * to gain trust. Remember that chatting has a purpose, just for chatting, and it will only become an emotional trash can in the end. Want to further develop the relationship? It is even harder! 3. Interesting understanding of basic information What should I talk about after I have some trust? If you want to have a passionate time with her, the basic information can't be bypassed, but please don't be an information investigator, which will make all your previous efforts go up in smoke. Whether playing dice or creating an atmosphere, a relaxed environment is the major premise, and the information you want to know must be controlled step by step. Don't expect to ask all the questions at once, because the atmosphere will follow.