However, this is not the case. Oh, haha ...
The author of this book is Jerry Lee, a doctor of military science from Shanghai University, who is devoted to the study of students' emotions and psychology. The teaching method is sharp and unique, which is deeply loved by students (it is said that there are still people who love and hate each other and hope to have the opportunity to take Mr. Li's class at the university). This book is a guide provided by Teacher Li for young people to adapt to fierce social competition.
I don't remember how I found this book. Because at that time, when I was extremely confused, as long as I caught the relevant clues, I would not let orz go. As soon as the book arrived, I grabbed it and read it eagerly. At the beginning, the book didn't clearly say how you want to find your goal, but gave many examples and even said, "Please think after reading it"! I looked puzzled, as if I had returned to school.
I'm so upset that I can't calm down and think about those problems. I just want to find the answer I want directly. Slowly seeing the back, my heart calmed down. The content behind is very rich, and the teacher quoted many examples from daily life. From this I realized my own problems and weaknesses. Well, I have two examples that are very helpful to me.
First, self-control (the original text here is more intuitive, so I will quote it directly:)
There is a question in the article: Why do the rich in America have better bodies than the poor?
"65438+in the early 1990s, an American media conducted a survey and found that the figure of the rich was generally better than that of the poor. After a lot of analysis and research, experts have come to the main reason why the rich are in good shape. Here are five answers. Please choose which one is the result of investigation and analysis.
1. Rich people can hire nutrition consultants to buy delicious but low-calorie food.
2. The rich can hire a fitness instructor to exercise more than the poor.
The rich have strong self-control, can keep exercising and control their food intake.
The rich are more worried about their health than the poor, and more afraid of diseases caused by poor health.
The rich live a regular life, which helps to keep a good figure.
Description: This exercise reveals a necessary quality for success from one side.
Reference solution: The expert's analysis result is 3. The reason why the rich are in good shape is that they have strong self-control. Are you right?
Options 1 and 2 are not valid, because American families spend only a small part of their total income on food and fitness, so there is little difference between the poor and the rich in this respect. And the price of healthy food is not expensive, such as fruits and vegetables. In addition, there are many free sports, such as running and cycling.
The fourth option is also untenable, because the survey found that the rich are actually more tolerant of diseases than the poor. On the one hand, the rich have stronger psychological endurance, on the other hand, they have better medical security.
The fifth choice is right in itself, but it is not as important as the third choice.
The survey found that self-control is the main reason for the physical difference between the rich and the poor. Self-control includes rational thinking mode, strict self-discipline consciousness and strong execution ability. That is, rich people will take the initiative to force themselves to exercise and control their diet for a long time after realizing that their body shape will affect their health. Although the poor also realize that physical fitness will affect their health, they can't or can't force themselves to exercise and control their diet for a long time. The study further found that self-control is not only the main reason why the rich are in good shape and the poor are in poor shape, but also the main reason why a person becomes rich or poor. That is to say, people with strong self-control are much more likely to become rich than those with poor self-control. Because people with strong self-control are more rational, they will make choices and judgments based on economic interests rather than personal hobbies and interests; Self-discipline, standardized words and deeds, is conducive to cooperation with others; Strong execution and high efficiency. "(quoted from" The Way of the World ")
How can you control your life if you can't control your weight! I lost myself in thought after I failed to lose weight n times ...
Second, people should have a skill.
There is a passage in the book about having a sense of "making a living", that is, having a skill. I have always been a lazy person, known as Buddha, not competing with the world, let nature take its course. Actually, I'm lazy orz. Until I found that there was really nothing to argue with others, my life began to have problems, and then I wanted to find a support point, looked around and found myself at a loss. I realized why the consciousness of "making a living" is so important, as written in the book:
First, because this kind of consciousness can improve the reality, pertinence and effectiveness of people's thinking, this kind of thinking about how to survive is the most essential, important and core;
Secondly, through this concept and practice, we can realize the infinite possibility of learning, thus optimizing our thinking;
Third, "an artist is bold". With the support of craftsmanship, he will be steady in doing anything, have great courage and live his mind.
Fourth, when learning this skill, the thinking of dealing with various problems will play a great role in future work and life.
I remember reading this book by Teacher Li, and I have been using it to motivate myself. But it is my fault that my willpower is not firm, and my self-control has little effect (it has gradually improved, so the change is not overnight); I also want to have a skill, but what should I learn? I'm lost again ...
Write it at the beginning-the reason for confusion, what should I do if I am confused?