This is the second one.
Then try to burn it happily. Do you know anything about waste utilization?
What is a loser? Literally, firewood is a useless piece of rotten wood. In fact, even if it is waste, it can still be used as firewood. Therefore, the word "waste wood", first self-denial and then self-affirmation, obviously doesn't make sense.
It can be seen that calling yourself a loser is the result of inner entanglement. As the saying goes, a key opens a lock. So, how can we untie that little knot in my heart? It seems that it can only be used as waste.
The so-called waste is to put resources in the wrong place. You may remember that I was born to be useful. The wise Zhuangzi is willing to be a "loser". He always said:
Don't believe it? You see, tall and straight pine trees have been cut down as pillars; Peach trees with heavy fruits died because they were overwhelmed. That sly loser is enjoying his life happily. Can Zhuangzi's fable inspire you?
In fact, people should not be bossy, nor should they be self-deprecating. Believe me, I was born useful. As long as you face life optimistically and treat yourself rationally, who will be the real loser?
First of all, people who have this idea are unhappy in their hearts. Why are you unhappy? It was someone's inner inferiority that caused the trouble. People who feel inferior in everything will naturally feel that they are useless!
Secondly, how can a person get rid of this inferiority complex and become confident?
1; If you want to be a confident person, you must first let the sunshine enter your heart and have a good attitude. Confidence is the most important thing.
2; To be confident and change your mind, the most important thing is to forget the past and start over, improve your abilities in all aspects, and shape a new self and a new life. Set yourself a new goal in life. People without goals are terrible, and life without goals is also terrible, so life with goals has direction.
3; To be confident, you should read more positive energy books. Reading will broaden your horizons, broaden the pattern and make your life path different.
4; Confident people should walk more, see more scenery, travel, broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge and see different scenery. Didn't Mr. Lu Xun say: "There is no road on the ground, but there are many people and it becomes a road."
Confident people should learn to choose more roads for themselves, because there is not only one road in life.
5; A person who lacks self-confidence may have suffered setbacks in one aspect before: perhaps feelings; Perhaps it is a career; Maybe you are a man, but no matter where you have failed, been frustrated or discouraged, don't feel inferior because you are a loser. A confident person may not succeed. But people who feel inferior fail half the time.
In short, this mentality of thinking that you are a useless person is not desirable! People must have a good and sound mentality when they are alive, and they must be confident. Only a confident person can have the hope of success. Let's take Wuhan for example. Angels in white, Academician Zhong Nanshan, a singer charity worker who struggled in the front line, and a driver who went to rescue the delivery are all "great men" full of confidence and confidence in the future! ? Only self-confident people and self-confident China people will let the epidemic end early, let the "gloomy" moment in China pass early, and let the land of China be full of sunshine again-the happy moment of the people of the whole country will come early, and they will once again take to the streets unscrupulously to welcome the spring breeze and watch the scene of flowers all over the street! ! ! Look forward to this day with confidence! Be proud of the confident China people!
In fact, I feel like a loser, maybe-I am not confident, so I will always deny myself, give myself psychological hints, and feel that I can't do anything well, and finally it will become an infinite loop.
Want to change, very simple, build confidence.
At this time, someone asked, we are all ordinary people, with no talent and nothing outstanding.
How to build self-confidence?
Listen to me.-learn to concentrate.
Focus on one thing, not too much.
It can be anything. For example, if you like playing games, play the glory of the king to the extreme and take the first place. If you like to eat, punch in as many gourmet restaurants as possible and make yourself a gourmet blogger. ......
Contemporary young people often set themselves many goals, such as punching in for 30 minutes to learn English every day, reading 1 hour every day, and exercising 1 hour every day ..... This is not self-discipline, but self-abuse. Focus on one thing for a while, and there will be results. But with good feedback, you won't feel like a loser, and your confidence will follow.
For example, you will feel a sense of accomplishment after reading a book in a month, or you will lose 10 kg in a month. These are all changes brought about by concentration.
So, get rid of that idea quickly. It's really unnecessary. You can do many things.
Get out of the comfort zone
Dare to break through yourself. All breakthroughs are a process of breaking through oneself. You should break your original habits, original ideas, and break your inner barriers.
Find the target
What is your occupation, what is it now, what kind of goal do you want to achieve in the future, and what are you willing to sacrifice for it?
believe in oneself
Visualization is a common cognitive therapy in the field of psychological counseling. Napoleon Hill, an American writer, once left a famous saying: whatever the mind can imagine and believe, the mind can do it seriously. This means that our thoughts are very important to our ultimate success. It can even be said that the goal that the brain constructs and insists on believing is the reality that we will eventually achieve.
This means that if we immerse ourselves in the imagination of "we are poor" and persist in believing it, we may really be bound by this idea and unable to exert our full potential. But on the other hand, it also means that when we are very depressed, if we can create a successful self-image in our minds and conduct appropriate "self-deception", then this positive idea may naturally be reflected in our actions, and the result may really change as we expected.
Hey, a lot of people will have your ideas, not just you.
Dissatisfaction with oneself is precisely the performance of self-motivation. If you are content with the status quo, you won't feel like a failure. Self-motivated, when did it become the devil that confused us? It is often the lust and material desire that you can't get, which puts pressure on you with a false face.
At the age of eight, we have toys that we can't get; At the age of eighteen, we have boys (girls) that we can't get; At the age of 28, we got what we couldn't get. At the age of 38, I can't be promoted, and I can't have other people's children. ...
We remember childhood toy cars and dolls, and even the whole childhood shone with their companionship, which became the carrier of our memory. Perhaps it appears in the composition of primary school more than once, and often begins like this: I have a beautiful doll. ...
And those who can't get it have blurred their faces.
In the face of passive confusion and impetuousness, we are at a loss.
The education we received taught us to face difficulties bravely, but left the most important self-study lesson, asking us to learn to embrace the ordinary.
We are all self-motivated ordinary people, and there are no hopeless losers.
Nowadays, with great social pressure and fast pace, it is inevitable to belittle and deny yourself. It is suggested to balance your mind, watch more positive articles and videos, and constantly enrich yourself. We must firmly believe that everyone who comes to this world is unique and irreplaceable. God didn't make you a failure.
You just felt it, but you really didn't! Look on the bright side, and when you figure it out, the problem will be solved.
That's your personal opinion. Keep a correct attitude and have confidence in yourself. Life is full of sunshine.
Even if you are a waste, as long as one day, you meet a fire, you can realize your value! Don't be discouraged, get more sunshine when you have time, and the future belongs to those who are prepared! [snickering] [snickering]