I remember watching a movie "Chinese Partner" many years ago, and there was a line to the effect that "when we were young, we all dreamed of changing the world, only to find out later that we were all changed by the world". Finally, at the end of the movie, Dongqing Chen was given a scene of turning off the lights, with a sentence to the effect that "most people are being changed by the world, but he can do it". Seeing this movie at that time was very inspiring, and people should struggle like this. I once dreamed of changing, not to mention changing the world, at least changing myself and people around me, but the result was that I didn't change myself.
I wanted to change my work arrangement some time ago. I thought I would go to the gym for running or fitness no matter how late I got off work at night. Every time I think of the scene where the fitness instructor is big and strong, my blood boils and I think that I can have strong arms and strong six-pack abdominal muscles like him. At the beginning, I did go to the gym after work at night 10, and I did a lot of blood-boiling exercises for three days in a row.
In fact, I have always felt that no matter what I do, I need methodology and strategy. Although I don't know what the academic name is, I just feel that no matter what I want to do, as long as the necessary conditions are ready, I will definitely do it.
So I've been thinking about this fitness activity and trying again. Later, I used a really effective trick. Every time I get off work, I take a piece of paper, then clean the seat of the electric car (even if it's not dirty), and then on the way through the gym after work, I deliberately throw the paper on the ground. In my mind, I want to make a moral code of caring for the environment. This is definitely not right. So I stopped to pick up the paper and throw it in the nearest trash can. As soon as I saw it, I went to the gym and fell down. Let's go and play. As a result, I made such a magical move that I can guarantee to go to the gym every night (how about the specific training? Let's talk about it Besides, I don't go to the gym much (although I really want to go, it actually only relieves my tired body after a day's work). After work, do a few squats at night, pull a few horizontal bars, lie flat, and make your body parallel to the ground. These actions, which take little time, can greatly relieve our bodies and are very refreshing. Give it a try!
Fitness has inspired me a lot, that is, to associate a long-term thing, or a difficult thing, with a small thing or an easy thing. Then when this small or easy thing happens, it will lead to what will be done later, and everything will be so logical. But why not do this, or make a plan, like I did before, and be hard on myself, and the result will not change?
Let's review the history and go back to the moment when I wanted to change my mind. Card, ok, I found this point. I turned on the computer and saw the news. So-and-so programmer died suddenly, so-and-so college student suddenly stopped playing. . . After I read it, I was very scared. The world is so good that I must not die suddenly. What should I do? I should work less overtime and exercise more, drink less coke and drink more boiled water. Well, my brain makes up for my figure. Ok, turn on the computer, press the button to make a plan, exercise five times a week, drink less coke and more boiled water, run for 30 minutes every day, turn off the computer and make up the picture, and go home from work.
Then we have a closed loop of tomorrow, so many tomorrow. Studies show that plans like this are basically ineffective. Even I am sure that most of these plans will not lead to action results, let alone changes, because it will not help us achieve our goals. However, most people think this is a stopgap measure. In fact, it just summarizes the action and ignores all the extremely important details and chapters.
So the core method of change is
1. Make a definite plan first.
For example, if you exercise, when and what to exercise, where to exercise, how much coke to drink less, and whether to drink only three bottles a day, an effective plan should clearly define the details, place and method of action.
Planning is really a science, and its scientific name is motivation. As the saying goes, if you want to do a good job, you must sharpen your tools first. Making a plan with a clear time and place is of great help to the follow-up. When planning, we can adopt two ways of thinking: "What" and "Why". I don't know if you feel this way. When you make a plan that will happen a long time from now, such as 20005, then the "motivation" you think at this time is the mode of thinking, because Daocheng is beautiful, Daocheng is romantic, Daocheng is the pure land of love, and all you think is these big and comprehensive, which is the so-called value. However, if you want to make a plan for the work report of 14:00 pm, then what you think will not be so great and comprehensive, but some specific details, such as how to prepare ppt, whether the paragraphs written in the manuscript are rigorous and whether the data are accurate. Knowing these will be of great help to our planning, and our planning will not be so hard. We can switch between the two at any time like a rubber band.
2. Decide on specific actions
First of all, we must decide the concrete steps needed to achieve our goal. The clearer the better. Don't be afraid of triviality. Even if there are many steps, write them down one by one. If you also have a plan to lose weight and fat, then the specific actions will be running, swimming, squatting, sit-ups and pull-ups (reverse).
Decide the time and place
Next, decide when and where to do each step, which will help your brain to detect the opportunity for action. Even when you work late, the meeting is very tired and your brain has no time to take care of it, it will help you start the "autopilot" mode to act.
Attention disorder
Believe me, any wonderful plan will not come to fruition unless you do it, or you can get millions of investments by writing a bp casually. Of course, there will be many obstacles on the way to practice. Think carefully about the obstacles and temptations you will encounter when you accomplish your goals and how to deal with them. Here, you can use a statement template. I try every time. . . Just ... . . In this way, you will feel that you are a person living in the future, and turn all the obstacles you can think of into such predicative sentences, such as I go to the gym to do 50 pull-ups after work late; If my buddy asks me to have a barbecue at night, tell them we have an appointment at noon on weekends, so that you can make the best plan in advance and ensure that no matter what happens, you will not deviate from the track goal.
Although you have been exposed to all kinds of magical planning methods, whether you have done it or not, if you have finished reading it, try to make a clear plan for yourself in this way and practice it yourself. You will find that you are already on the road to change, and it is only a matter of time before you get the result.
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