One day, a friend excitedly came to share his good mood with me: "Meiya, I started running."
"How long have you been running?"
"Not long after, I got an annual card in a fitness center."
"How many times have you run?"
After listening to my question, my friend suddenly felt a little embarrassed and scratched his head and said, "I only went once every three months."
My turtle hair has a bad temper and likes to preach: "In fact, there is really no need to apply for a fitness card. It's really useless to apply for that kind of thing. It is said that a fitness center has made a survey and statistics, and 70% of people who apply for annual cards only go to the gym once or twice a year. Well, you said it was a waste of money! Alas, people just like the beginning, but they can't finish it ... "Speaking of which, I suddenly stopped. On the one hand, I found that my friend's face became very smelly, just like an anime character with three black lines on his forehead. On the other hand, there is a voice in my heart: "How dare you say that others love to start, but you can't finish it yourself. Think about your own experience of learning English. "
A year ago, I made up my mind to learn English well and improve my spoken English, but now my English level is still stagnant. In English study, I usually spend two days fishing and three days surfing the Internet. When I want to study, I will read an English essay and listen to BBC or VOA news. If you don't remember, you won't meet English for several days. I always have many plans. Today, I plan to watch a season of American TV series Friends and learn some slang words from it. Tomorrow, I plan to listen carefully to 30 news articles of BBews in a certain month, practice listening and accumulate vocabulary; The day after tomorrow, I plan to finish reading the book "Fashion English" given to me by my friend, recite a few fashionable and authentic spoken English, and recite a graduate English vocabulary at the same time ... so I have been planning. A year later, I watched not only Friends but also Desperate Housewives, but only a few episodes. I can't remember the plot, let alone some real conversations between the protagonists. Listening is the same fate. I not only listened to BBC and VOA, but also listened to Crazy English and New Concept English, and even listened to a radio program of RCI and CRI (Radio Canada International, RCI for short; China Radio International (CRI) has too many listening materials, which I haven't listened to for a long time. I have thousands of plans, but any plan is just the beginning, so I have thousands of starts, but none of them have been completed.
In fact, there are many beginners like us, not only fitness center version, English learning version, but also yoga and dance version, as well as filial piety version, long-term travel version and diet slimming version. Because these study plans have not been adhered to, you have gained nothing and made no progress; All slimming plans are ineffective because they are not adhered to. You are still a fat man who breathes after running for two steps. ...
Everyone should know that starting a plan will make people feel happy and their lives will change from now on. Everything is full of strength and hope, which is exciting and exciting. But the implementation and execution of the plan is painful, so many people can't stick to it, give up the previous plan, choose another start, and continue to enjoy the happiness of the previous few days. Some people even entered a vicious circle that started and never ended.
Although it is one of human nature to be unable to persist, it does not mean that there is no way to overcome it. How to resist the temptation of a thousand things and insist on completing it at once? In the face of the failed English study plan, I learned from a bitter experience and made some summaries. These summaries are actually platitudes, hoping to help a "beginner" like me.
1. Cooling treatment. When you have an impulse to start, you should restrain your burning heart and let it cool for a while before you plan a long-term goal. In the meantime, you don't make any plans or take any actions. A week is appropriate for this time. This week's time can help you get rid of those impulses and reduce the waste of energy. If this week has passed and you still have the enthusiasm to start, then start again, which at least shows that you really want to do it. This kind of "longing" enthusiasm will push you to have a good start.
2. grow up. After making a long-term plan (goal), break it down into countless small goals. Because long-term plans will make people feel distant, vague and uncertain. If I ask, where will you be in three years? I believe many people can't answer it. But where will you be in three days? I believe many people can give an answer right away. (Life perception Sun) Break down a big goal into specific sub-goals that can be objectively judged and completed within a specified time. For example, if you plan to listen to English for one year, it can be broken down into 265,438+00 minutes a week, 30 minutes a day, and only 30 minutes to listen to BBEWS. The more specific the goal, the better. Every time you break down a small goal, you have to have a mandatory deadline, which not only respects your own plan, but also helps to launch and realize the follow-up plan.
3. Reward your small progress in time. I have mentioned this point many times, and it has been used frequently in the past 20 years, and it has been tried and tested. When you make progress in making a step-by-step plan, you should reward yourself in time, regardless of size or form, but you must have it. I found that when a child abides by a good little code of conduct, if he is praised by adults in time, he will produce more and better codes of conduct. In psychology and management, this kind of behavior is called "positive reinforcement", "any result that increases the possibility of our future behavior. It is to reward those behaviors that meet the organizational goals, so that these behaviors can be further strengthened, which is conducive to the realization of organizational goals. " Each of us has a child in our heart that needs to be affirmed. Giving small rewards in time after the completion of small goals will promote you to achieve greater goals. After the completion of the big goal, you should reward yourself well, such as traveling abroad and buying a SLR camera that you have always wanted to buy but can't bear to buy (in fact, I just gave myself a gift in another way! )
4. Tell others about your plan. Many friends don't tell others about their plans for fear of pressure. Maybe it's because I am vain. Every time I tell my friends my plan, I will be more motivated to do it. Because I was afraid that my friends would ask me how the plan was going, I couldn't answer, because I didn't do it, and I felt ashamed and embarrassed, in order to avoid losing face. I will let everyone know the plan I am implementing and use it as my motivation, which is also an invisible supervision.
5. Imagine every day. Think about the good things that will happen after you finish the plan. If you achieve your goal, how happy you will be, how you will grow and how you will live a different life. Draw a beautiful vision for yourself, it has a powerful force to push you forward. The realization of my various travel plans depends on this beautiful imagination. In English learning, every time I imagine that I can learn English well, I will learn English cheerfully for a while, although it is better to learn English for a while (I am comforting myself and paralyzing myself).
6. Record the progress of the target. Spend a little time keeping a diary, making tables or charts every day. These records clearly show every step of your growth, and children's shoes that have done project management must be handy for this. Managing one's own plan as a project is conducive to pushing the plan forward well, and will strengthen confidence when seeing the existing achievements, and it is not easy to give up. Suppose you make a 20-week weight loss plan, record your weight once a week and make a chart. When you see that the weight curve in the first three weeks shows a downward trend, you will be more confident and motivated to implement your weight loss plan. (If it is an upward trend curve, what should I do if it is swollen? Then you can't see it! )
7. Go to bed early and get up early, and establish a good schedule. This seems to have nothing to do with achieving the goal, but it has a lot to do with it. This is one of the important experiences I have gained since I insisted on running in the morning for more than a year. What I often tell myself in my mind is: "All your big plans can't be realized. There are only two small problems: I can't get up in the morning and I can't get off the line at night." A good schedule is conducive to ensuring the implementation of the plan.