First, trust each other. The most important thing between men and women is trust. Trust is the basis for two people to get along for a long time. You broke up with your girlfriend because you were too suspicious. You can try to change this situation. It doesn't have to be done in one step. For example, you can send yourself a few messages every day to ask how she is, ask who she is with only once a day, and visit her once a month or a week to make the other person feel safe and feel safe. Second, let girls see your changes. In addition to trusting her and giving her a sense of security, you can also let girls see your change. The changes here are external and internal changes. If you go to the gym and travel during this time, you can post it in a circle of friends to let her know what you have been doing recently, what new changes have been made recently, or what you have done for your promise. These things can be directly or indirectly let her know. Let her know that you are really changing. If a girl still has feelings for you, she will always pay attention to you. Third, find the right time to make all preparations, find the right time to make up with your girlfriend. You can judge for yourself at this time. If I don't know, I have made so many girlfriends, but I still don't mean to make up. Please ask Taoist Qingyun to help me get back together. Harmony is the secret of Taoism to help men and women recover, and you are invited to be in charge of the perfect harmony between two immortals. I have a friend who is 28 years old and his wife is 30 years old. They have a two-year-old daughter. It seems that life must be very happy, but my friend is away from home for more than 20 days a month because of his frequent business trips. I don't know when he began to be suspicious and began to distrust his wife. They divorced in March. Once on a business trip, I began to ask my wife to tell him every day when she went out. She doesn't have to video with herself for an hour. If there is no video, then he will keep calling. More importantly, this is too much. He often calls his wife in the middle of the night to see what she is doing. In the end, she couldn't stand it and wanted to divorce him. No matter how hard he tried, he came to me to help him and give him advice. I told him: different places, different personalities, disharmony in sexual life ... and the coping style can't satisfy both sides, which have become the reefs of your marriage. Treating the symptoms is to overcome objective external factors; The fundamental solution is to enhance mutual trust. Long-term separation between the two places is the chief culprit leading to many emotional problems. In the family, the relationship between husband and wife is the first. This not only means that the relationship between husband and wife is higher than that between parents, siblings and children, but also means that it is higher than that between you and work, money, hobbies, friends and so on. However, many people, especially men, will choose to work in other places on the grounds of "making more money to give their families a better life and security" and "having better development opportunities abroad". It should be noted that no amount of money can make up for the indifference caused by lack of company. Therefore, unless absolutely necessary, try to avoid long-term separation between husband and wife. If it is a necessity, how can we minimize the negative impact? First, the two sides agreed on a time to keep in touch frequently, communicate the events and ideas in their respective lives in time, and express more care and love; Second, we should restrain ourselves, go out to do things and socialize more, and increase mutual trust by shooting small videos, videos or voice chats; The third is to find time to go home as much as possible, and behave more when you get home, so that the other party feels that you are considerate of him. Personality differences should be based on the principle of "seeking common ground while reserving differences", put yourself in other's shoes and respect differences. There are no two identical leaves and no two identical people in the world. On the one hand, we try to get close to the other half who is different from us; If you can't get close, you should respect more. Since we want to enjoy the benefits of each other's personality, we should accept what makes us uncomfortable. If the sexual life is not harmonious, we can improve the satisfaction of our lover by increasing physical contact, enriching sexual skills and using sex toys. The above three aspects are about solving the external causes of hypochondria, and the internal causes are improving self-confidence and trust in others. You will suspect that your wife is cheating. A very important reason is that you are not confident enough, and feel that you are not good enough and are easily replaced by others. "My ability is average and I can't find a good job in the local area." "I am in poor health and can't meet her sexual needs." "I am introverted and can't call friends like her" ... all these are gnawing at your confidence. Behind such self-evaluation is a standard higher than your actual ability. When you are so critical and belittle yourself, you can't love yourself frankly and love others freely.