Method 1: Take the initiative to contact and initiate a dialogue.
1. Make eye contact before approaching each other. Eye contact can show interest and connection. If the other person responds to your eyes, it is probably a good start. You can smile warmly and walk towards each other. If they look away or don't look interested, try to make eye contact with others. Look into each other's eyes, but don't look away too quickly and don't stare at each other. Eye contact time should be kept within 2 seconds.
2. Observe each other's body language. If the other person's hands or legs are crossed and distracted by other things or other people, then don't go near the other person. After starting a conversation, pay attention to whether the other person leans towards you and take the initiative to talk to you. Pay attention to the other person's body language when you speak. You may be too focused on your feelings and ignore the feelings of the other person. You should change this situation and pay attention to the external performance of the other party and whether they feel comfortable.
If you want to start a conversation, you can start by chatting. Asking some very personal or in-depth questions at the beginning of the chat will make the atmosphere more embarrassing. You should say some unimportant topics first, and then step by step. For example, you can talk about the weather, ask each other how they spent the weekend, or what they plan to do next weekend, and then show great interest in their answers. You can comment on the simplest things and start a chat on this basis. For example, you can say, "I can't believe it's raining so hard! If this continues, I may have to buy an industrial umbrella! "
4. Ask some open-ended questions to get to know each other better. Whether you are talking to a stranger in the hospital, a cashier in the grocery store, or a handsome guy or a beautiful woman you meet at the airport, one of the best ways to start a conversation is to ask some open-ended questions. You want to get to know each other, but don't ask personal questions at the beginning. Please keep a relaxed and casual atmosphere. For example, if you are talking to a clerk in a grocery store, you can ask him, "Have you ever eaten this kind of food before? Do you think it is delicious? "
If you like some aspects of another person, praise him. Most people like to accept compliments, so this is a good way to strike up a conversation. Pay attention to the qualities you like in the other person and praise them. Praise will make people feel good and make them more willing to talk to you. You can say, "I like your wallet. It goes well with your clothes. "
If you want to tease the other person, you can evaluate his or her eyes, smile or hair. You can say "You smile beautifully" or "I like the color of your hair".
6. If you want to make the other person feel comfortable, you can reveal a little information about yourself. Don't talk at length about your predecessor or boring workday. On the contrary, you only need to reveal a little information about yourself to keep the conversation going. Talking about yourself can show an open attitude and encourage the other person to hold the same attitude. For example, you can say, "I got a dog today, which makes me very excited." Do you have a pet? "
7. Look for similarities between you. If you want to meet new people, finding similarities is one of the quickest ways. You may notice something immediately, for example, the hat the other person is wearing comes from your university, or you see the other person wearing a pair of boxing gloves or carrying a fitness bag. You can ask them about their hobbies. Then, start a dialogue according to the similarities between you. For example, you can say, "I like your bike! I have the same one. What year was yours made? "
You can also say, "How old is your dog? I also have a puppy at home, so full of energy! "
8. Respect physical boundaries. Don't touch people you just met unless the situation requires it. For example, if you have just been introduced and know each other, you can shake hands in a friendly way, but hugging is often inappropriate. If you stand too close or crowd together, they will feel uncomfortable. Even if you want to provide physical help to the other party, you should ask their consent before contacting. For example, if you see someone tripping, you can ask, "Do you need me to help you up? Can you reach out? "
9. Give up the failed attempt. Some strangers will be happy to chat with you, but some people may want to be alone. If the other person is obviously not interested in you, walks away from you, or says something precious to you, then you should probably end this conversation. Please try to talk to someone else. You can thank the other person for taking the time to chat with you and then leave them.
Method 2: Talk in social activities.
1. Try to get in touch with others and find the person you want to make the most. Most people take part in social activities for entertainment. In this activity, you will have many opportunities to strike up a conversation, because most people are willing to talk to others. Try to get in touch with others and find someone you want to talk to one-on-one. In social activities, you may get some chances to strike up a conversation easily. You can talk to someone who is attractive to you and makes you feel comfortable.
2. Ask the organizer of the event or your friends to introduce you to each other. Having a friend can make a party or social activity more smooth. If you know someone at the event, you can ask them to introduce you to each other and tell you a little about each other. This will help break the deadlock and give you a chance to get close to another party participant. You can also ask each other how they know your friends, or how they know your friends. For example, your friend might say, "Aya, this is Angie. You all like mountain biking, and I think you should get to know each other. "
3. Ask questions related to the activity. Social activities themselves can provide a good starting point for conversation. Ask each other how they know about this activity, or who else they know. You can also ask some questions about the organization of the event, such as "Do you know when the event will start?" When will the speaker take the stage? It's my first time to participate in this activity. Ask the other person "How did you know about this party" or "It's hard to get an invitation to this party". Who else do you know? "
4. Gather around food or drink. People meet at dinner for a reason, and food will naturally bring people together. If you want to talk to a stranger when attending social activities, you can chat with them at the dinner table or ask to sit next to them when eating together. You can naturally evaluate food and have a conversation around it. Ask the other person if they want a drink, then pour them a drink, or stand next to them while they are taking food, and then start a conversation about food. For example, you can say, "I really like this drink. What do you think? "
You can also say, "Wow, have you tried this kind of bread? I suggest you have a try. What seasoning did you say they added? "
5. Join other people's activities. If you see some people playing games or doing activities, you can ask to join them. When a group of people are divided into several smaller groups, you will feel more comfortable and it is easier to strike up a conversation with others. For example, if you want to watch TV programs or video clips together, join them. Then, ask the person you want to know: "What other programs do you watch?" , find some * * * have a topic to discuss.
Method 3: Speak in public places.
1, provide some help. If someone looks lost and you are familiar with this area, take the initiative to show them the way. Helping others is not only doing good deeds, but also bringing opportunities to strike up a conversation. Maybe you and the other person's destination are in the same direction, so you can go together. Whether the other person looks lost or needs help moving things, you can help. You may make new friends because of this.
2. Ask them where they are from. If you are in a big city or a place where there are frequent tourists, it will be a particularly good opening topic to ask where the other person is from. Almost all the reasons why a person comes here to live or spend a holiday can lead to a series of interesting stories. You can start a dialogue based on this topic. For example, if you are listening to a concert, you can ask yourself where the person next to you is from. Maybe they came to the concert after a long journey, or maybe they just happened to be there.
3. Make them laugh with humor. Humor is the best way to contact people, especially between strangers. People will open their hearts more easily and feel more comfortable when they laugh. Point out some interesting things happening around you and share your experiences with strangers. Tell a joke, spit it out, or point out something interesting that you notice.
4. Take part in an activity. If you are in a crowded public place, you can participate in activities or parties that everyone participates in. For example, if someone is playing group drum music, you can join in and sing and dance. If you see a busker, you can stop and watch the show with others. Doing so will not only bring interesting experiences, but also allow you to participate in activities with other people who stop. Then, you can start a conversation about this experience. Attend free concerts and food festivals. Look at the activities in your community and attend with the purpose of understanding others.
Method 4: Get close to each other in the workplace environment.
1, comment on work-related matters. When you meet someone in the workplace, first try to make the conversation work-related and say something professional. Don't act familiar at first, because doing so will give people a very unprofessional feeling, especially in the workplace environment. You should talk about the similarities between work and you. For example, you can say, "We are on the same project team. Hi, my name is Chen Lei. "
2. Give each other positive feedback. If you find someone doing a good job, don't hesitate to praise them. If you agree with someone, say it out loud. If you are in a meeting, you should talk to each other after the meeting, agree with them or have further discussion. For example, you can say, "I like your speech. Other demonstrations usually bore me. But yours is interesting, informative and practical. Where did you find your video? "
3. Ask for advice. If you know that the other person is an expert in a certain field and you want to deepen your understanding of this field, you can ask them to give you some information or practical tips. Most people like to share their knowledge with others. When someone is interested in what they are doing, they will be very happy. For example, you can say, "Wow, you are really good at editing photos. Can you recommend some good software to novices? "
4. Don't talk about amateur topics that may bore each other. Some topics are rude or unpleasant and are not suitable for strangers, especially in the workplace environment. For example, don't walk up to women and talk about their pregnancy. Avoid topics such as political affiliation, religious belief, appearance including weight, and don't disclose too much personal information, such as not mentioning your divorce or your uncle's recent death. Keep the dialogue neutral and don't talk about controversial content. Please choose interesting neutral topics, such as work-related activities, meetings and friends with you.