Some people say they are born, others say they are rich or handsome. But this can't explain that the silly boy in love finally found an enviable girlfriend, nor can it explain that he occasionally saw a fat man with no money and no handsome side with a little beauty in the street.
The reason is that you haven't found out what women like, and you haven't adjusted your strategy to explore and find out that what women like is actually a gentle ridicule, and ridicule is love in women's eyes. Teasing can make a beautiful woman who has been bored for a few days blink instantly, just like seeing water in the desert. Later, I learned from chatting with girls that they are called teasing-mood swings.
When I was in the second grade, I was in adolescence. There is a beautiful girl with short hair in our class. Only she is a beautiful woman with short hair. I don't know if it's because she is the only one who attracts me with short hair or because of her sweet smile and watery eyes. But just like it won't become a secret love, you have to act. But I am young and have no one to guide me. There must be a lot of people who have experienced this ―― they don't know how to pursue girls. When my mind is hot, I always praise her, which will make her feel my sincerity, and then we will be together like a dream. So the idea or strategy at that time was to praise her when she found the opportunity: in the first sentence, your eyes are really beautiful. If you are not caught cheating in the exam, praise her for being so smart. In fact, this is just beginning to work. After all, there is a person I like silently chatting with me. Unfortunately, it didn't take long for someone to ignore me. Knowing the reasons behind it, they know that praising a girl all the time will make her feel "tired" one day.
But after all, it is adolescence, and when you meet different girls, you will feel very excited. In the third grade, I met a tall oxygen beauty in the neighboring class through my buddies. I was impulsive and wanted to do something. It just hurts a little when I want to do something ―― I always praise a girl I like, and people ignore me as a result. This won't ignore me again, will it? What should I do? Later, I watched a program and heard a post-80 s brother talk about his pursuit of girls in that era, which was to bully her hard and attract her attention. Finally, the girl came to ask you why you are so old-fashioned, and only after 80 said that I actually like you. At that time, the TV was still snickering and said slowly, of course, we were together at last. Let me laugh after hearing it, thinking that I have a way to chase girls again, and then I will try to bully her until she asks me why I am always angry with her … and then we are together. Haha, I'm happy to think about it. Damn it, the post-80s generation only told me that bullying a girl would attract her attention, but didn't tell me that bullying her would make her cry and never talk to me again. After I seized the opportunity to say that she was stupid, grabbed her hair, and suddenly scared her when she was doing her homework, I finally yelled at her-leave me alone. I can only say that the post-80s generation is really fucking bad. Later, I learned the reason behind it, and I thought it was the same: masochists like each other because of their gentleness after being bullied all the time, and they have never been bullied, not to mention that I have been bullying an ordinary girl, and I can't stand it psychologically.
Then I went crazy myself. What should I do? I was depressed for quite a while.
When I compared the two experiences on paper, I came to the conclusion that it was wrong to praise her or bully her, which made her very angry. Suddenly I feel that everything is wrong. At that time, I stared at this conclusion for an afternoon, and suddenly felt that I could change my angle.
One praised her and the other bullied her. I don't know if this is ridicule, but I think I can give it a try. Of course, that's what I thought. Nobody said that, and I have never heard of it. Tv series or articles or word of mouth are also good for girls to get her (but I am obviously praising her and the result is to ignore me). So when trying to "praise her for bullying her", there is not much expectation and motivation. Occasionally, a buddy interrupted a few words when chatting with a female classmate. The first sentence-then you are very cute. The girl said at that time: that's the kind of thing that is necessary. Then I said the second sentence ―― just a little silly. Then the girl snorted. I thought she didn't want to talk to me. I felt as if my attempt had failed, so I left them. But then the girl's action made me feel a little hopeful-that is, the girl took the initiative to say hello to me when she saw me again. I wonder: girls are more introverted and don't take the initiative to say hello, and we are not familiar with each other. I didn't see the girl's response to me with my own eyes. Is my idea useful?
I was a little happy, but I was still not sure, so I wanted to find an opportunity to "praise and bully" a girl and see if it was ok. Once the female study committee urged a classmate to hand in his homework quickly. I laughed and teased: Isn't this the little beauty in our class? The female study committee bowed its head and smiled and urged a classmate to hand in his homework regardless of me. I took the opportunity to say: yo, you just said you were a little beauty, and you started to do bad things. You can't give people any more time. At that time, an action made by the female study Committee member-she looked up and smiled at me for 2 minutes-deepened my recognition of this method.
After that, I began to believe that this was right. Although I don't know why, the attitude of girls towards me has improved, which is very good. Slowly, I began to look for opportunities or make up something to praise and bully girls. After constantly improving my ability in this area, I summarized the following two ways of teasing. I don't explain the process of teasing from not knowing much to being excellent. Let's just say the two teasing methods I summarized. This effect is very obvious.
The first one is "A compliment or a compliment". I will take the initiative to say to the girl with slightly fat thighs: I guess your weight is no more than 90 (deliberately not talking about the unit, digging a hole to let her jump). The girl said: Super. This is what I would say: nothing, anyway, I said 90 tons. Girls usually: hum. At this time, I will praise her: I heard that you helped someone. You are a timely help. That's very kind of you. At this time, the girl will reply to me with a happy smile: that is a must.
At this time, I realized that what I really pursue is the control that can make girls laugh casually. It is my ability and control that make me feel relaxed. On the contrary, when I can't make a girl laugh when she is angry, when she doesn't know how to guide her emotions effectively when she laughs, I will feel very uncomfortable. I feel like I can't control this conversation.
Write some more of my chat records.
Me: treat you to candy.
Girl 1: ok.
Me: Please eat the candy that can gain 10 Jin of meat. (Hurt her)
Girl 1: Hum.
Me: Haha, just kidding. I'll treat you to chewing gum. (On the other hand, say something nice)
Me: You are Libra, and I'm a constellation expert. Want to hear if Libra is good or bad?
Girl 2: Listen to the bad first. Girls always say to listen to the bad first, because listening to the bad first and then listening to the good will make people feel that although she is not good in one respect, she is actually good on the other; If you listen to the good first and then the bad, it will make people feel that she should be good in some aspects, but she is so poor in these aspects. Only the order is reversed, but the result is completely different. Obviously, the first result is good)
Me: The shortcomings of other constellations are all your shortcomings. (Hurt her)
Girl 2: No way.
Me: Your real weakness is that you don't know if you have offended anyone. (It seems that everyone has it. )
Girl 2: Do you want to be so accurate?
Me: I still can't hear the advantages.
Girl 2: Mm-hmm.
Me: You have no advantages (or disadvantages).
Girl 2: You must be kidding. Come on, praise the girl.
Me: A narcissistic girl will be killed if she goes out. Ha ha laugh ... (still lost, don't praise her, it is meaningless to make a girl happy and not make her sad)
Girl 2: Break up. (obviously sad)
Me: Libra women are very kind and will dress beautifully.
Girl 2: That's more like it.
Hold the girl's hand and read her palm;
Me: Your lifeline shows that you can live a hundred years, 40 years old, at least 20 years old. (praising her)
Girl 3: Mm-hmm.
Me: Wow, your wisdom line is a miracle!
Girl 3: Do you have a high IQ?
Me: It means that your IQ is only 20 and you have been admitted to the university. Do you think this is a miracle? (Hurt her)
Girl No.3 smiled and stared at me, showing a little anger. But she likes to be teased. And I also enjoy this chat that I can control, and my relationship with her is still developing in the direction I want.
The second is-a word contains praise and criticism. As long as it is said, the girl will be very cool, and the footsteps will take the initiative to approach you to listen to you and chat with you. This is something I don't often say, because it's so classic:
1. If stupidity is a kind of beauty, then you are so beautiful that no one wants you. I only told three girls, and they all turned out well. If you smile when you see this sentence, please tell your girlfriend about it at once.
2. You have an advantage. Your work clothes are only washed once a month. (The effect is the same as above)
What is the reason? After I met an expert in picking up girls at work, he told me that this is the experience gained by chatting with girls constantly, and women are like this. It is right to praise a sentence like this, or to tease or pick up girls to make women emotional, but it is wrong not to do so. I agree with this very much, and I have been doing this all the time, and I have gained a lot of people's hearts.
Of course, this is just to make women emotional. Doing this while chatting will make women like you. But you can't keep doing this. Doing this all the time makes women feel that you have nothing to talk about, just a person who likes to play tricks on people. Usually I tease a girl twice every two hours, which means I make her mood fluctuate twice. How can we chat in other time besides teasing girls for 2 hours? Let's talk about how to chat first. Using the following chat methods and the above teasing, you can talk about a love perfectly.
You don't chat with girls because you haven't analyzed how girls chat and what the chat mode is.
When we know how to chat with women, let's first understand what the chat mode of women is.
The female friends around me chat like this:
Girl 1: I saw a skirt in David city (a place in Zhengzhou) yesterday. It was very beautiful.
Girl 2: I saw a hat on the ground floor of Erqi Square yesterday. It's very cute and interesting.
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In this way, they can chat all afternoon and look very happy. Actually, they're just talking about each other. In their words, this way of chatting is called sharing. Share and describe what happened and what it was like. This is the way they chat with each other, and only in this way can they be happy.
The way men chat is this:
Man 1: I saw a particularly handsome suit in David city yesterday.
Man 2: How much is it? What brand?
Male 1: 1 tens of thousands.
Man 2: It's a little expensive. Did you buy it?
M 1: How do you buy this? !
When chatting with men, we always ask questions first, and then ask what the result is. We men are only happy to chat in this way, otherwise chatting like a woman will feel too JB wordy. Just look at what the problem is and solve it quickly.
Now let's see what happens when a woman uses the shared chat mode, but lets a man solve the problem quickly.
W: I saw a pair of wide-leg pants in David City yesterday. They are very handsome.
M: How much is it?
As long as you have talked to a girl about something similar, you will understand what happened next: the girl doesn't want to talk about it.
At this time, the man will further express himself, and he will continue to say:
M: Do you want to buy it? I'll buy it for you if you want.
I think everyone has experienced it. In the end, girls will just say, Oh, I don't want to buy it. I don't want to talk to you anymore. At this time, the problem comes, and you may obviously feel that this girl is not interested in you. When you chat with the next girl in this way, you find that she doesn't want to talk to you either, which is the result of all girls in the future. Finally, you have a headache and find that every date in the future is not going well. But it doesn't matter. From now on, you can chat with girls in this way. However, after talking about a topic, it is necessary to lead to a new topic, and it is best to be humorous. A complete chat with a girl goes like this:
She: I saw a skirt in David City yesterday. It was very beautiful.
Me: I saw a suit on the third floor of David City the other day. I can feel that a tasteful suit can shine. Besides, in a beautiful flower season like mine, Oba Jun will find a coffee shop for a quiet drink after shopping.
She: When I am tired of shopping with my friends, I will order some snacks in the coffee shop and we can talk all afternoon.
Me: If I can go out with my friends for an afternoon, it must be playing shooting and racing games in the video game city.
She: If I go to video games with my friends, I dare not dance in front of so many people. We just catch dolls. But neither of us can catch it. This machine can't catch it twice, but the other machine still can't catch it.
(Plus teasing and chatting:)
Me: I know, it's stupid of you to laugh even if you can't catch it.
She: It's hard to catch.
Me: It doesn't matter. If stupidity is a virtue, you are so beautiful that no one wants you.
She is laughing now. Then I bring up a new topic.
Me: It's not enough just to play, but also to eat. Shrimp rice in Shanghai. That's great.
She: Yesterday, my best friend and I were eating fat fried yogurt there.
Me: Then you have more milk. Haha, just kidding. She wouldn't be angry if she had talked earlier. )
She would laugh and say, get out.
Me: Cut.
She: Hehe.
I teased her: I think girls say hehe because your IQ is at an end.
She wanted to laugh, but she felt helpless. I'm actually very happy to see her like this.
Me: Forget it, I won't tease you.
She: Yes, I can't stand it if you say it again.
Me: Oh, by the way, there is a great gym near here. Suitable for eating too much and feeling guilty before going to the gym.
She: I don't exercise, but all my girlfriends go to yoga.
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This is the result of my pursuit. It's a little ridiculous. small color, there are more and more relationships. I just need to master the chat mode between girls and talk more.
After I have said this, please recall whether this has ever happened. A girl and a boy are walking on the road. At this time, only girls are talking, or they don't look at boys' faces. The boy's expression tells you that he is not listening and he doesn't know what the girl is saying, but it is in this state that the girl is talking alone. This is because the boy didn't interrupt the girl to share what happened and what state she was in by asking questions and solving problems.
Finally: this is the key point of a good relationship. When you think of my words, for example, if stupidity is a kind of beauty, then you are too beautiful to get it. Then when you have a chance to tell your girlfriend, you should carefully observe whether her expression is smiling. If you do, give me a coffee reward when you come back, because as long as you do as I do, you will never have 60% love problems again. Imagine that you read my experience and changed your thinking mode and behavior habits. You chat with women in a feminine way, and occasionally Doby her, so that the relationship between them is getting better and better, and you can easily control the whole chat. As long as you talk like this every day, you can make your girlfriend happy, and your girlfriend won't be angry with you or say you don't understand her. In the future, you will find that after you keep flirting, women will take the initiative to tease you and flirt with you. Your love will be perfect.
Conclusion: The above is the general idea. Nothing can be written completely, just like all the characters in the movie will not perform and eat after a few days and nights, but eating is something that people must do. If it is not important, they will not perform. So, my idea above is just to write out the key things. Of course, there will be some details when using it. You have to feel for yourself to make up for it. For example, if the other person's mother is ill, you must never joke about it. Then, a skill will only change the reality if it becomes your thinking mode and behavior habit. You just watch, but if you reuse your previous thinking and behavior, you will only get sad results.