Someone asked me: I feel like I can't do anything, and I'm not strong in anything. What should I do? How to find what you are good at and succeed?

On this issue, I want to tell a story of my own.

I am a liberal arts student, and I don't have those awesome skills. I majored in journalism at the university. From college to my first job, I once felt that I was nothing, and even extended to the level of futility of going to college. When I was in college, I used to feel inferior. The classmates around me are either schoolmasters or activists. I'm in between. Four years later, how many people are like me?

"I feel that I can't do anything and my ability is not strong. How can I succeed? How to find what you are good at? " I have realized these problems.

Of course, I didn't deny that universities need to study hard and participate in practice because of confusion. I just hate that I understand these things so early. I even feel remorse, even extreme pain, because I thought I didn't want to do anything just to be lazy.

Until today, I began to let go. If you can't find a comfortable state or something that can ignite your motivation, then what you do is meaningless. Of course, some people say that studying hard and being admitted to graduate school can earn a lot of money. This is the motivation. Taking part in social practice and finding a good job to earn money is the driving force. Working hard and paying more is the motivation. If you mean to materialize the return as your own motivation, then I won't comment.

What I emphasize is that I can find my favorite state. What I say is big, which extends to the sense of mission.

Back to reality, most of us are ordinary people. What we need to do is to find our favorite state in our life.

02

I did two things in college: reading books and keeping a diary. Every night after the lights are turned off, I use a flashlight to record my troubles a little bit, because I didn't have the endurance to resolve my sadness.

Even for a while, I felt depressed and world-weary and didn't want to do anything, but I still went to the library to keep a diary, or I didn't need to keep a diary. I write a few sheets of paper before going to bed every night.

After graduation, I worked and found a job in a media company that was a little close to my major. When I went in, I found that what I did had nothing to do with college. In fact, I learned later that everyone is the same, but I didn't know it at that time.

In this way, I have been in a trance for two years, and my works are neither salty nor light, without feeling or passion.

I began to feel that something was wrong, and began to ask those tangled ultimate questions: what am I suitable for? I won't live like this all my life. What if I can't find my favorite lifestyle?

I started to panic.

I can only save myself.

03

Let me list in detail the people who are very humble in my life.

At work, what I do now is to write copywriting and organize forms, but my special recommendations and soft articles are good, because I love watching interesting advertising copywriting and interesting current affairs hotspots until I switch to planning.

I think those ideas and copywriting that blurt out are beyond anyone's imagination. I said that if you read more billboards on the roadside, brush more news and listen to other people's stories, your colleagues will think that you can't. Suddenly I feel that I have my own strengths. That's true. It is usually very useful for me to observe and apply the character I have learned.

As far as the relationship between colleagues is concerned, I am a person with clear love and hate. When I meet excellent colleagues, I will stay away from them. When you meet good colleagues, you will share more, eat, drink and have fun together, and get along well with everyone. That statement doesn't suit me.

I was struggling at first, but later I found that it is the easiest when you concentrate on being yourself.

Later, the department held a reunion dinner, and the activity was arranged by me. I am also willing to accept all this, because I am good at putting forward ideas and putting them into practice. I like to manage eating and drinking Lazar, and I like to deal with it in an orderly way.

As a result, everyone appreciated me. As for those colleagues who took advantage of you and didn't get any feedback or even complaints in the end, this time should be a lesson. Next time you come to attend, I refuse to prepare for this activity, and he will leave unconsciously.

In life, I am a foodie and a chef. I will try all kinds of dishes, including assorted dishes and baked desserts. I didn't think it was anything before, until now I gradually found that someone would praise me for it.

Impressive? Before, I could only laugh. I thought it was just a way of life. Until now, I have discovered that it is this kind of thing called "a realm of life" that is the panacea for a person to gain inner peace!

For example, some people like to climb mountains, dive and run, some people like to think alone, some people like to get together with friends, do research experiments and type codes, and there are a lot of post-90 s children who start businesses to sell juice, meat buns and cakes. I used to see reporters interview them and say, why did you choose this? They replied that it was for fun, which I never understood. Now I understand that "being true to your heart" is one of them.

How many people imprison themselves in a programmed world, people come and go to work, get off the bus and subway, see others shouting that there are many lifestyles in this world, and then think about it?

04

I am also an ordinary office worker, and I don't have much capital to shout about travel adventures and see the outside world. What have I done?

Because my first job was a state-owned enterprise, a comfortable life could not make me feel at ease, so I changed to an Internet company and made plans every day. These job demands make me brush Weibo, visit Zhihu, brush news websites and even open Taobao and JD.COM Tmall every day, which has become a way to find creative points. While working, absorb the knowledge gained from the internet, a little every day, and have enough patience.

I run an official WeChat account called "She Drift in the Jianghu". At first, the purpose was simple, because I couldn't find my favorite high-quality WeChat reading number. Those title parties kidnapped my bedtime purely for smoking powder, and finally got nothing, which made my stomach ache, so I set up this official WeChat account myself, paying attention to girls who are as confused as me and looking for a way out.

At the beginning, choose your favorite articles to recommend, and write your own feelings when you are in a good mood. A lot of naked spicy chicken soup makes me feel very comfortable and happy. Later, I decided to write something myself. As a result, I found that many girls left me messages to share their difficulties. I began to think, why should I change the world? You see, I can let these girls leave me messages backstage every day, "I found the same kind of people", and this shared personality and energy has become me.

I always love to toss, and all kinds of cakes and desserts I try by myself will be taken to the office to share with you, and classmates and colleagues will come home to eat every once in a while. I know an elder sister in the company, and when I go out for dinner with her, I will discuss the practice of this dish, the arrangement of tableware, the decoration style of the restaurant, the turnover rate and the cost control of human training. I am so boring and serious. I will have a meal and think with my own ideas. These are all means to make life better.

To this day, that sister says every day that when you open a restaurant, I will definitely invest with you, not only because you are good at it, but also because you have a taste of life.

I laughed, and the restaurant could not be opened. On the other hand, I have gradually become an interesting person in the eyes of others. In fact, the premise of all this is that I have lived like this myself, rather than doing anything for the expectations or wishes of others.

05

Having said so much, but now that I think about it, what I did seems to have nothing to do with the university, but it has a lot to do with it.

When I encounter a problem now, I will look through my college diaries and reading notes, and feel that I was really naive and absurd at that time, thinking about such a bad problem. But if it weren't for the struggle at that time, I wouldn't know how to use these qualities to make today's life better.

For example, writing, sharing, becoming a trash can for all kinds of girlfriends' emotional problems, encountering delicious home experiments in restaurants, clothes matching consultants for colleagues and friends, talking about life philosophy with older people, talking about food and movies with extroverts, running and fitness, talking about energy rules with introverts, and talking about the comfort of being alone.

Just because a person has struggled with many problems, what should he do when he realizes that he can't do anything and is not strong in anything? How can we succeed? How to find what you are good at? "In this state, I learned to sort out my emotions, then analyze myself a little, save myself, or click on these words.

Maybe I didn't answer the right question. I can't subtly tell you to read more books, attend more parties, find more awesome people to study and invest more in yourself, because once you answer from this angle, you will have the next question. What books are you reading? How can we find the party circle? How to know great people? How to invest in yourself is better? You may even ask, is it better to take a management skill class or enroll in a PPT training class at the same price and under the same conditions?

Our life is accompanied by problems, and I am beginning to understand this. At the same time, I also know that my realm is too low, but this does not prevent me from continuing on this road of finding my favorite lifestyle. I also need milk and bread. I need to find the meaning of life.

Many people ask me what my favorite movie is. I would never say "three stupid men make Bollywood". It's not a blockbuster, but it's the movie that touched me the most.

Ironically, many years ago, when I watched this musical Indian film in the university dormitory, I laughed my head off and told my roommates all kinds of things. Now when I took it out last month, I cried in the middle of the night. The rancher's phrase "pursue Excellence, success will come naturally" kept me awake all night. How many people turned this sentence upside down, complaining that they could not find the meaning of life. As we all know, we want excellence.

Maybe you already know what you like and are good at, but you just don't want to let it go, because not everyone has the courage to leave the comfort zone to make changes, and not everyone can realize that even if there is no materialized transition, they have begun to dig slowly and accumulate silently.

Before leaving the comfort zone, Ma Yun worked as an English teacher silently for six years, but is this silent process really just a pure class?

Time can be seen, I wish you and me * * *.