I saw that many brothers on the Internet are worried about what gifts to give their girlfriends, especially those who deal with computers all day. They have been dealing with machines for a long time. . . Look at this, it really makes those seniors who face the machine all day very anxious. When I think of that year, I really want to feel pointed at by others, so I think I should do something for my brothers and not let laymen treat us as computers! The following essay is my research achievement, brother! The times are developing, and one's vision is limited. I hope the brothers will continue to add and modify and build their own collections.
To give a girlfriend a gift, we must first understand the needs of women. However, unmarried women and married women will have different needs and tendencies, but the nature of femininity will not change. First, there is no woman who does not pursue romance when she is young. Secondly, the kind of pride (or vanity, here is not a derogatory term) envied by the same kind is the inevitable need of its external competition. For many female friends, this is even the meaning of her life. Third, as a woman, being able to prove her attraction to the opposite sex is a nature given to women by nature (so she needs you to prove that you love her). Whether you love property or beauty is just a manifestation of these essential needs. Therefore, to give a girlfriend a gift, we should first consider whether or how to meet her essential needs.
Some people say that "as long as people are concerned, they like others to give gifts". I'm afraid only high school boys believe in the good wish that "love doesn't need an economic foundation". I remember seeing an American movie many years ago, but I can't remember the specific name. Anyway, it's rich dad and poor son (in America, dad's money is not necessarily equal to his son's money). One day, the son found his girlfriend and his father in bed. He is almost crazy and wants to chop his father to death. Just as he raised his hand, his father turned around and said, "People who have no money are like Yang." After listening to this sentence, my son suddenly relented and couldn't remember the following story. I only remember thinking, "Oh, this is the civilized world in America!" . But many years later, look at our motherland today, and you can think about it yourself. . . Haha, get to the point. . .
Do you need a reason to give your girlfriend a gift? (Relationship between gifts and occasions)
Generally speaking, gifts should be given on occasions (birthdays, anniversaries, dates, Valentine's Day, March 8th, Christmas and other festivals) or for a reason. Of course, different days have different meanings, but for lovers, including giving gifts to their girlfriends, the reason is not important. Gifts without a specific date and reason may surprise the other party. Didn't you tell her that you've been thinking about her? So, isn't it natural to give her gifts at any time? ! In addition to paying attention to gifts on individual occasions, there are not so many restrictions on different gifts in general gift-giving occasions, which means that gifts are more common. However, we still need to talk about the meaning of the gift, not only to talk about it, but also to impress her. Let's analyze the art of giving gifts in detail.
The art of giving a girlfriend a gift;
Many friends may be thinking about what to give their girlfriends when they give them gifts. What does the other person like? In fact, other important gift-giving principles (that is, the art of giving gifts) are often ignored, such as how to give them? Gifts are just props. Gifts are given to express one's mind. With props, who is the actor and how to perform this "play" are equally important. Generally speaking, the following gift-giving art is worth exploring:
"No rules" principle:
Surprise is the general rule of giving gifts, but giving gifts to girlfriends is more important. Women are very emotional and will do anything for you as soon as they are moved:) Always remember that romance and sameness are antonyms. I remember Huo Yuanjia's previous fist method of "no teaching, no door breaking", and I liked it very much. Because there are rules, it will definitely make people "tired" after a long time. Haven't you ever heard of being tired of aesthetics? The man who annoys women the most is doing the same thing, posture and procedure at the same time. So "no rules" is the general principle of giving gifts to women, which is the first chapter of the Constitution:) The following principles are related to this principle to some extent.
The principle of "combining light with heavy":
People often ask me, is it better to give my girlfriend a gift more expensive or lighter? On the Internet, people often say that "courtesy is more important than affection, and girls value your heart". I said it was an excuse for myself. Never believe the Millennium lie that "courtesy is not expensive", it is just people's good wishes. Try it yourself if you don't believe me. Can the same actor and the same occasion have the same effect as a million-dollar BMW and a ten-dollar headdress? There must be a difference in the severity of the ceremony! Of course, a stolen BMW doesn't count:) However, heavy gifts may not always have a good effect. If she takes it for granted that you gave her a BMW, it will be a disaster. If you want to have good results often, you must master the principle of "light when heavy", that is, you must not let her suffer from "ritual fatigue". Occasionally sticking "heavy medicine" according to your own strength will receive very good results. In this way, when sending a "light gift", it is more emboldened to say that "the gift is light, but it represents my heart"! But "light" is tasteful "light".
"Romantic when practical; The principle of "fashion and elegance":
I once heard an expert say, "No matter how elegant a woman is, she is also a layman." In fact, not only women, but also men. What is vulgarity? "Vulgar" is human nature! So, everyone is common! Besides, isn't "elegance" more "vulgar" Some people say that my girlfriend is pure and romantic, but no one lives in a vacuum. Little dragon girl doesn't eat fireworks, but also drinks jade phoenix pulp! I think your girlfriend must also "eat, drink and sleep" like us mortals? At the same time, no matter how secular and practical a woman is, she also has the nature of pursuing romance. Therefore, no matter what kind of girlfriend you belong to, the vulgar should be vulgar and the elegant should be elegant; Gifts should be romantic, romantic, practical and practical. Send practical ones today and romantic ones next time.
Sometimes delivered in person, sometimes delivered by a third party:
It's not always good to do everything yourself. If you always give your girlfriend a gift yourself, then you should have a third party to try it. There are many online gift-giving services now. You can find an opportunity to travel by yourself or when you are busy, which can solve the problem of being too busy and get better results. Why not try it? There are many benefits of third-party gifts, and surprise is one of them. And some things that you can't express yourself are easily expressed by a third party. Some ideas expressed by third parties may be more humorous and innovative. Generally, the third-party gift-giving service will come with a gift card for free, and you can express your thoughts on it.
Timing:
Everything in the world pays attention to timing, so it is very important to give gifts at the right time. For example, at midnight, you are the first person to wish her a happy birthday. Of course, it will have more special significance. Giving gifts after meeting or doing something you like together also represents different atmosphere and different meanings. Of course, a surprise in the morning and the last touch before going to bed have different meanings. For a strong professional woman, having lunch at noon may give her a gift, which may make her feel that she is also an attractive woman. Therefore, giving gifts at different time points can also bring surprises to gifts that were not originally surprising. Timing is especially important when the gift is light. Do you want to make a foreshadowing before giving gifts? Maybe you need to think about it.
Often published in public, occasionally published privately:
Women have a very important need, that is, to make their peers envy themselves! Many men can't understand this demand of women, so they call it women's vanity. In fact, men who really understand women will be happy with their "vanity" instead of blaming them. There is a simple reason. Today's society is still biased towards a society dominated by men (however, it is changing. Didn't Wang Shuo say that women were going to take power? :) Therefore, women's competition can only be conducted indirectly through men. Why are men allowed to compare cars with houses, but women are not allowed to compare men? ! There is no such thing. Therefore, you should cooperate with her to meet this demand. Didn't you see that the courtship style of the post-80 s is becoming more and more exaggerated and open? As the saying goes, the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead, and men are smarter every generation:)
So, send flowers to the office, propose in public, and ask her female friend's best friend to be "entrusted" (don't ask a man to be entrusted). . . More and more fashionable. Don't think this is vulgar, it is the essential demand of women!
If it is not convenient to disclose your relationship for various reasons, then you can send it anonymously by a third party, or send some gifts that she can bring or use.
Of course, men always have the need not to let others be "light bulbs", so some gifts should be given privately and some things should be done privately:). Because that belongs only to you two. For example, it's always bad to send underwear in public, right? You can't get drunk with a third party when you taste red wine by candlelight, can you? . . .
The principle of "focusing on participation":
This last principle is the most important if you want to gain something. A man who gives a gift and everything will be fine is as annoying and boring as a man who falls asleep after sex! Haha, if you are a sister who has read this, and your boyfriend happens to be a man who just gave you something, then I advise you to dump him as soon as possible, because I have said in the previous sentence:) Some people think that the task is over when the gift is sent. If so, she will think that you are "selling" her with a "gift". Don't you want to enjoy the time of love with her? As I said at the beginning, gifts are just props. Where are the actors? What play (script) is on? No one can be left behind. So remember, participation is the most important thing! Give her underwear, be sure to try it on with her and enjoy it. Praise her is also praise yourself (sincerely, of course, or spend money and time, you can only be an idiot); By candlelight, sweet red wine must be tasted together. Wine and beautiful women should be enjoyed together, so only when they enjoy it can a harmonious society be realized:); If you send jewelry, be sure to help her put it on and kiss the necklace she just hung on her chest. . . . This must make her unforgettable; If you give her a swimming club membership card, don't let her go alone. . . Birthdays must be spent together, not to mention.
Is it a single gift or a combination gift?
I personally advocate the combination of gifts. My reasons: first, the meaning expressed by a single gift is often relatively simple, and the gift combination can better express your complete love; Second, the gift combination shows a state of mind, not just finding something from the supermarket to send her away; Third, the combination is easy to be novel and innovative, and there are many choices; Fourth, the combination has a good chance to touch her heart. She may not like one very much, but she may like the other. Give her a right reason to praise you. What's wrong with having more chances to win? ! This is called "comprehensive strength":) But the matching of gifts is exquisite and takes a lot of thought, so don't mix them casually. Gift combinations also pay attention to the collocation of main materials and ingredients, and must not be reversed. For example, many netizens suggested that their girlfriends send several boxes of condoms for their birthdays. . . Haha, of course condoms can be sent. If it is an ingredient, it may make her think that you are either humorous, considerate or novel (what she thinks depends on her relationship with you). But if condoms are the main ingredient, I'm afraid the effect will not be good (maybe she will think you are too sexy, you are too selfish, and you treat her like. . . )。
Generally, the main ingredients should take care of her hobbies and personality characteristics, focusing on practicality and commemoration; Ingredients should be combined with the occasion and purpose of the gift (such as the first date or birthday). . . ) to create a romantic atmosphere or strengthen the representative significance of the main ingredients. The following are some common "main ingredients" for sending girlfriends:
"Face" high-end brand products: a brand can make a woman be envied by her peers, with the aim of making her face longer. If the economy permits, it can't be less. If you have no money, you can buy some small things with brands. LV bag, Coach bag and Tiffany jewelry. . . As for the brand, of course, it is a brand recognized by her circle. McDonald's is a low-grade "junk food" shop in the United States, where construction workers eat three hamburgers at a time to fill their stomachs. But in China, it is fashionable to take girls to McDonald's because it is a high-end brand in China. If you don't know what a brand is, just ask her female friends and colleagues. Anyway, all the women in her life and work circle can. Such products are suitable for public delivery and must be delivered in the presence of her female friends and colleagues.
Couple series products: these products mainly represent your feelings with her, just like no woman doesn't like the man she loves to say "I love you", and the symbol of love is like "fried potato chips":) You can choose practical products, such as couple watches, couple shirts and couple bags; It can also be romantic, such as a couple pendant and a couple ring. Of course, if it can be personalized and engraved with your name or the other person's name, it is of course the best.
Romantic decorations in the bedroom (girlfriend is not a wife, so we should avoid too practical household items), such as her stuffed animals in the zodiac can be put on the bed, or some exquisite crystal decorations that girls like.
Jewelry and fashion accessories: necklaces, bracelets, jade bracelets, earrings, pendants, scarves, scarves, belts. . . I don't need to give examples one by one. Now couples have fewer and fewer gold ornaments, and more and more silver ornaments, crystals and stones. In fact, gold is not impossible to send. It depends on how you express it. For example, if you send a 24K gold jewelry, you can say, "Do you know why I choose the gold jewelry that many people think is the most tacky? Because it is vulgar and noble. Because it is the purest in the world, just like you, there is only one purity in the world! " However, if you have the financial strength to buy gold and diamonds, I certainly prefer diamonds, because the "expensive and elegant" of diamonds can be described as the peak of natural romance.
Personal articles for girls: underwear, pajamas, underwear, bras, etc. You can think about it. This gift mainly shows your intimate relationship. It is your expectation to remind her of your intimacy or guide her to intimacy:) This kind of products must be made of good materials and comfortable, and some should pay attention to the size. If you don't know the size, choose pajamas with loose and tight sizes.
Daily necessities for girls: this kind of gift mainly reflects your carefulness and practicality, and is more suitable for girls with poor self-care ability. These articles are divided into two categories: one is used outside and everyone can see it. Such as clothes, hats, bags, boots/shoes, watches, belts, etc. This category is either to send famous brands, such as brand-name bags. Unless your eyes are consistent with hers, and they are both good, and you know her size by heart, I don't recommend giving it easily. Otherwise, don't say that I didn't remind you of the embarrassment when trying on/putting it on; The other kind is for her own use, such as sanitary napkins. If you give this gift occasionally, it will have a good effect and show your thoughtfulness. However, it is best to combine several items and carefully package them.
Emotional management product category: that is to say, it is conducive to communication between you. If you often chat online, then, a camera, a fashionable mouse, a fashionable notebook computer suitable for young women (such as IMAC); If you often send text messages and make phone calls, you can send fashionable mobile phones, and if you have no money, you can send fashionable mobile phone cases and other accessories.
Body cosmetics (preferably "upgraded" for her. For example, the cosmetics she is using now have no brand, so you can give her a set with a brand. If she uses domestic breast enhancement products now, you can give her a set of foreign ones; She uses synthetic skin care products, and you give her a set of natural essential oils; Or she looks for weight loss products everywhere, and you help her find the safest natural one. It is safest to "upgrade" her existing products. Don't make something out of nothing. She doesn't feel fat. If you insist on giving her a diet, she will definitely wonder if you dislike her. Gifts such as collagen and pearl powder from yin beauty can also be considered. There are also some fitness club membership cards, super fitness cards, beauty cards and so on. These are also very good choices. However, be sure to praise her in cards or words. If she is above average, she must be praised for her beauty; If she looks ordinary, look for some characteristics of her, such as good figure and good temperament ... Well, she must have something good, otherwise, how can you like her? Praise should not be hypocritical.
Knowledge-based gift: If your girlfriend is career-oriented, independent or loves learning. Then, giving a knowledge-based gift can show your support for her and the generosity of a man (don't show in front of such a girl that you are afraid that she is better than you). This type of girl needs your inner voice. If she has encountered some difficulties recently, you can send some "inspirational" books or DVD；; If her relationship with you is undergoing a test, you can send some "love" books; If she is taking a postgraduate exam or something, you can send some "exam" books or tools; If she is teaching herself a foreign language or a professional skill, you can send relevant books or learning AIDS. However, be sure to write "Don't be tired, otherwise, I will feel distressed" on the card.
Leisure and romantic gifts: perfume, stress-relieving bath products, essential oils, etc. Of course, you have to tell her that this is your favorite smell or "this goes best with your body odor." If she is busy and tired at work recently, it is also good to send some bath products to show your concern. It can also be a package ticket to Lijiang or her favorite place. Still, don't let her go alone.
Commemoration: It is best to personalize this kind and keep it for a long time. Non-practical can be all kinds of decorations engraved with your design or name, or commemorative things such as photo frames, cups and T-shirts. Especially when traveling on business, it is also good to bring some small commemorative gifts by the way. Practical can also be those sweet red wine and ice wine used by women, which can be engraved and treasured for many years, representing the meaning of "the longer the wine", which is also very good. She also agreed to open it on a certain day in a certain year. However, you should choose some more romantic shapes.
Choose gifts according to personality and hobbies: for example, if she likes to travel or travels frequently, you can prepare a convenient travel bag for her, which contains all the necessary items for travel; If she likes climbing mountains, she can prepare a set of climbing equipment for her; If she likes music, iPod/MP3 is also good. . . . It depends on how well you know her.
Doll toys: Many married girls are still childlike, just make her happy. Mainly for some naive girls. Dolls can be fluffy, and dolls like baby and Hello Kitty are also good. Some pottery and glass products are also acceptable. Toys are novel, and what makes her happy is the best. At the same time, don't forget to send her a gift and say, "I like your innocence best!" "
Flowers: I don't need to say much about this, but I personally prefer flowers as ingredients rather than main ingredients, except for some special occasions.
Ingredients generally play a role in increasing romantic sentiment. If the ingredients are used well, you can change "vulgar" into "elegant" and add "romance" to "practical" things. If used properly, it will have a "finishing touch" effect. The well-known ingredients are:
Flowers: The richness endowed by nature is incomparable to human beings. Isn't it said that the wild flowers in the valley are better than Princess Solomon's gorgeous clothes? ! Ross, Lily. . . Choose flowers according to different occasions and purposes. The knowledge of choosing flowers is too great. Let me do another research and write another paper when I have time.
Candle: The dimness of candlelight itself is an irresistible temptation. It is better to choose some special shapes, such as long leg cups, heart-shaped roses, high heels, etc., which are more creative.
Chocolate: there are too many people talking, so I don't need to be in the Olympics.
Ribbon: It matches the gift.
Heart-shaped decoration: it can be used as an outer package or a card.
Balloon: birthday scene or outdoor activity.
Cake: mainly used for birthdays or anniversaries.
Red wine/ice wine, champagne, etc. Why do I list red wine/ice wine? If you have financial strength, a bottle of romantic liqueur designed by yourself can be the best "catalyst", just like a legal "drug", which can create countless excuses and opportunities for you and stimulate your endless reverie. (However, this article is not responsible for not really tasting drugs. ) You can also make some cocktails with red wine or vodka and match them with elegant wine glasses. But don't use beer, Maotai Erguotou, unless she is an alcoholic:)
Western food: However, you'd better know western food, or find a master to learn it first. Don't make the mistake of ordering well-done steak (however, if you are a person with great personality, can go your own way, and are confident, you can order well-done steak according to your hobbies, maybe she will like you, who knows).
Movie: this ingredient is too old-fashioned, so I won't say it.
DIY Handmade Products: Making ingredients can better show your energy and mind. Personally, unless you are very professional and want to show your skills and talents, you are not encouraged to use the main ingredients.
Different ingredients can be used in different occasions. Dude, it takes a lot of effort to find a girlfriend, but you can't have a girlfriend all at once like the boss. Girlfriends are much smarter than bosses:) Be sure to use your head. Never turn "finishing touch" into "gilding the lily".
Finally, just like giving gifts to others, the packaging of gifts must be very important. If your hands are clumsy, use some professional gift shops or gift networks, which generally provide professional packaging and design.