The best education in childhood is to form good habits. A good habit may lead to success.
In an interview, Li Hongzeng, chief adviser of China affairs of the International Olympic Committee, said that his current achievements are due to the good habits he developed in Tsinghua.
Li Hong graduated from the Department of Civil Engineering of Tsinghua University, and then went to the United States to study and obtained an MBA degree from Harvard University. In 2003, he was employed by the International Olympic Committee as the chief representative of the International Olympic Committee in China, becoming the first China citizen to enter the top management of the International Olympic Committee.
Tsinghua has always advocated sports, and it will be broadcast on the loudspeaker at four o'clock every afternoon-after working for the health of the motherland for fifty years, every Tsinghua people will go out to exercise. Li Hong is no exception. At 4 o'clock every afternoon, she will definitely appear on the playground in Tsinghua, running round and round, and still adhere to the habit of exercising until today.
In an interview, she once said, "Physical exercise makes people have willpower. Willpower is more than just sitting there thinking. For me, when I take part in a competition, such as when my body reaches its limit, the voice in my head tells me to hold on. This voice is the most valuable power support in life. When you encounter a major blow and don't know what to do, it's still the voice in your head. Some people say that girls who are delicate in sports may be a little delicate at work. For me, when I encounter many difficulties, my first reaction is the same as my first reaction on the sports field. "
A good habit makes a girl achieve so much, and a bad habit may do more harm. The 4.28 accident that shocked the whole country in 2008 eventually killed 72 people and injured 4 16 people. The reason for the tragedy is actually very simple, that is, the railway staff lacked the habit of checking and confirming, which led to the collision of two trains.
To cultivate children's good habits, first of all, adults should improve their understanding of the meaning of good habits, stimulate children's motivation to cultivate good habits, and guide children to have interest, recognition and confidence in a habit. Without this, no amount of work is useless.
2. Clear the code of conduct, so that children can clearly understand the specific standards for developing a good habit.
We have always stressed the need to cultivate children's good habits, but children are still young and don't know what good habits are. This requires adults to explain the specific standards of a good habit to their children, or give them a good demonstration.
This is well reflected in Disciples' Rules. For example, sue when you go out, but face it. The direct meaning of this sentence is: children should at least say hello to their parents when they go out; When you come back, you should also tell your parents in person that I am back and let them know. This is a very clear standard. It is the responsibility of adults to tell children the code of conduct, and adults should do it well.
I have a friend, Sun Puyuan, who teaches at Shi Jia Primary School in Beijing. She is doing very well. A boy was naughty in class, which made the teacher very angry. After class, the whole class complained about him. The little boy was very upset, so he went to his class teacher, Mr. Sun Puyuan.
Mr. Sun has worked as a head teacher in primary schools 10 for many years, with rich experience, and is a national special-grade teacher. After listening to the little boy's words, she said, "You can admit your mistakes when you make them. You are still a good boy. Then how are you going to admit your mistake? " The little boy said, "I will apologize and bow to the teacher." Teacher Sun said, "Bowing well will let the other person know that you are sincere. But can you bow? Try me. "
The little boy nodded stiffly. Teacher Sun shook his head and said, "This is not a bow, just a nod. It is insincere to nod and apologize. " The boy froze, because he was so old that he never knew the difference between bowing and nodding.
At this time, Mr. Sun stood up and showed the little boy how to bow: hold his chest out, his hands droop naturally, and then his upper body squats 90 degrees parallel to the ground. This is a bow. Then, the boy practiced devoutly for many times, and when he went to apologize to the teacher, he was accepted by the teacher.
The cultivation of children can not be separated from meticulous guidance, and the cultivation of habits must first clarify the code of conduct.
3. Conduct example education in a timely manner, so that children can have cordial and yearning feelings for forming a good habit.
China Youth Research Center found that the power of role models reached its peak in the fifth grade of primary school, and the power of idols reached its peak in the second grade of junior high school. Therefore, parents must not laugh at their children's idols.
Our survey found that most children's first idols are stars, so parents should not belittle their children's idols without some understanding. It is best for parents to guide their idols according to some good habits and let them become role models.
A mother once wrote that her children like Jay Chou. We parents sometimes don't understand, what's good about Jay Chou? He is not mainstream and can't understand what he is singing.
But when I settled down to read the lyrics one day, when I read the beautiful lyrics, I was shocked and really began to look at Jay Chou with new eyes. His lyrics are beautiful and profound, revealing profound thinking and strength, the perseverance of "I want to climb step by step" in Snail, and the heroic youth of "I am a dragon" in Dragon Boxing. Isn't it an effective way to inspire children with their favorite idols? In my opinion, this is even one of the best methods.
4. Persevering behavior training, let children develop good habits from passive to active to automatic.
2 1 day initially forms a good habit, and 90 days can form a stable habit. Habit cultivation is a process from passive to active and then to automation, and 90 days of good habits can be completely internalized.
For example, let children wash their hands before meals. If they don't wash their hands, they won't be given food Whenever they eat, they must wash their hands. Ask the child, "Did you wash your hands?" Every time I eat. Children will get used to it. Remember to wash your hands before eating. It is also important for children to form good habits and for adults to insist.
5. Timely evaluation and rewards and punishments, so that children can develop good habits in a successful experience.
Some parents said to their children, "You should practice writing and holding a pen this holiday, and I will check it before school starts." I'm afraid that's not possible. Children often can't control themselves, and general requirements are difficult for them to work. Therefore, parents should divide the big plan into many small plans and constantly sum up and evaluate with their children.
For example, parents make an evaluation form for their children. If they behave well today, they will be rewarded with a small red flower. If they get a small red flower every day for a week, they can get 1 big red flower. If they get three big red flowers in a row, they will get a higher reward. In this way, children will know their daily progress and look forward to tomorrow's progress.
You can do the same for some bad habits. Zihao is a fifth-grade primary school student. He has a bad habit: he drags his homework. It's obviously half an hour's homework and an hour's homework. He writes for more than three hours every day. Mom is very nervous. To this end, my mother came up with various methods, from accompanying homework to accompanying books, but Zihao's problem has not improved.
Mother consulted a psychology teacher, who gave her an idea. After that, my mother and Zihao made a pact for three chapters. If Zihao can reduce the number of times he leaves his seat to less than three times an hour when doing his homework, he can watch TV. Otherwise, he is forbidden to watch cartoons at 6 o'clock (because cartoons at 6 o'clock are very attractive to Zihao and are a compulsory item for Zihao every day). As a result, it was up to standard in the first three days, and it was completely up to standard after three weeks.
When Zihao can completely reach the standard of leaving his seat no more than three times per hour, this standard will be raised to two times and one turn. In this way, three months later, Zihao finally got rid of the habit of procrastination.
6. Let family life, school environment and even social atmosphere become the supporting force for children to develop good habits.
An educator once said, "Family is a famous school to cultivate habits, and parents are teachers to cultivate habits." Children's education is to cultivate good habits.
Family style is the moral concept of a family and even a family, and it is a stable presentation. It can also be said that family style is a habit.
For example, why are there so many talents in Jiangnan? Qian Xuesen, Qian Sanqiang, Qian Weichang, Qian Mu, Qian Zhongshu ... Because the spiritual foundation of their family is Qian Jiaxun, which is priceless and the spiritual legacy left by Qian Liu, the ancestor of the Qian family in the later Tang Dynasty. The Qian family handed down the family instructions of Qian family from generation to generation, which became an inexhaustible motive force for a generation of talents. The descendants of the Qian family are great, with modern vision and mind. 1925, the family instructions of Qian nian were revised greatly. On the basis of inheriting the tradition of ancient family instruction, family instruction has been changed into four parts: individual, family, society and country. This revision not only incorporates the essence of China traditional culture, but also incorporates a distinct modern consciousness.
Beijing Normal University and China Youth Research Center propose to cultivate children's five good habits of kindness, responsibility, respect, learning and self-care. These habits are very important for the growth of children and the development and progress of society. Because these are the foundation of human development and the most basic requirement of social civilization.
Cultivating children's good habits is inseparable from a good social environment and social atmosphere. Perhaps the social environment and social atmosphere can not be fundamentally improved for a while, but every family and school can create a better environment. Family and school are important external environments for children's growth. When the school environment and school atmosphere are built, it is easier for children to establish good habits. Our parents and teachers have a long way to go!