So how can a woman who is 50 years old and still has the idea of cheating find a lover? Three experienced people told their truest experiences. Let's see what they say.
52-year-old Ms. Zhang: I found my lover through online dating.
I never thought I was 50. I still have a strong idea of cheating, but I am afraid that others will find out, and I am even more afraid that my husband will find out. After thinking for a long time, I finally decided not to find someone familiar. Later, I played on WeChat for a few days and received many greetings.
Once, a man greeted me and said, I don't lack anything. I lack a woman in my heart. Then I answered him and had a good chat. Later, I chatted with him. It turns out that he is married like me, but the relationship between husband and wife is not good and he doesn't want to divorce, so I want to find an affair. This is in line with my idea that we agree not to interfere in each other's married life.
It feels better to meet in a month than online. He was together that day. He is three years younger than me and more than 300 kilometers away from my city. So there is not much time to meet, most of them are spiritual sustenance, but after a long time, I feel tired. I don't know how long I can stay with him, and I don't think about it. I can walk as long as I can.
Ms. Tian, 5 1 year old: colleagues work together.
I am 5 1 year old and work as a cleaner in a real estate company. My husband and I are only husband and wife in name. We have been making money and spending money since we were 40 years old. He is an expert in decoration and has made great achievements in recent years. But he never gave me a penny. Before children go to school, they basically pay money. But other than that, I won't give you any money.
Later, when my son 18 years old, he didn't study or go out to work, and he never gave a penny to his family. So he and I are only husband and wife in name. I heard there was a woman outside him. He works outside every day. I don't want to follow him. Find evidence and let her go. I put up with him 10 years. When I was 50, I suddenly thought, why should I be so stupid, alone?
I had the idea of cheating at that time. Later, a security guard of our property management company, Lao Liu, happened to be very kind to me. I was with him.
Lao Liu's wife died, four years older than me, and married a daughter. His salary is not high, but he has no burden. He said that if one day my husband didn't want me, he would marry me. No matter what happens in the future, Lao Liu and I are fine now.
52-year-old Ms. Zhou: member of health club.
My husband is a famous playboy. I just gave birth to a baby, and I'm still in labor. There is a scandal between him and his female colleague. This is the first time I found him cheating. He swore to me that it would never happen again. He also said that because I was pregnant and gave birth to a child, in order to take care of my health, he could not go out with others.
At that time, I was very young and trusted him, so I forgave him, but after so long, I had a new liar. I fought with him many times, quarreled many times, and it was useless. But I don't want a divorce.
Why would a 50-year-old woman cheat? Although he is naughty, he gives me 20 thousand yuan every month. We started our own company. When we think about the company and children, I don't want him to take advantage of other women. So I won't divorce him. As long as I don't divorce, he is willing to maintain such a marriage relationship.
But my heart is too unbalanced. When I was 50 years old, I had a strong idea to find a lover. Not long ago, I went to a fitness club and met a member who is five years older than me.
Later, we often exercise together in the gym. After that, we went out to register for an hour. For two years, my husband never doubted it. If I don't go to the health club one day, he will urge me to go to the gym.
No matter what my husband thinks, I am more balanced now. I don't care about my husband, so I get along well.
A 50-year-old woman also has the idea of cheating. They look for lovers outside through different channels. Most of them are unhappy married women. They hope to find a lover outside marriage, make up for the shortcomings in marriage and balance their hearts.
But can extramarital affairs really make up for the vacancy in marriage? In fact, it's just because the time is not long enough, which is different from what you want. Everything good about extramarital affairs is basically at the beginning of all marriages.
Why would a 50-year-old woman cheat? It's just that with the passage of time and the pressure of trivial matters in life, marriage has changed beyond recognition. In that case, why not have less expectations and requirements for marriage and more tolerance and communication?