I lived in endless darkness 19 years ago. From an ignorant teenager to a middle-aged father now, it seems like a lifetime ago. How many 20 years of life can be wasted like this? I have lost so much in these 20 years. At first, I became autistic, full of guilt and afraid to associate with people. Later, I found that my academic performance has been declining. Even the senior high school entrance examination was only a few points short, and I repeated it for a year. For three years in high school, I was relatively closed. I stayed in the house all day and didn't want to go out. The college entrance examination failed again. I didn't find a job for three years after graduating from college, but I was fired after working for two months at most. After graduation, I worked 10 years, and my monthly income was less than 2,000. After three or four times of love, the marriage was about to collapse before quitting. In the darkest moment of my life, I was lucky enough to come into contact with the forum on quitting smoking. Seeing so many people who have been doing sy for more than ten or twenty years like me successfully quit sy has given me great confidence. I began to explore the secret of their success in quitting color, and almost read all the experience stickers of successful abstainers, and implemented them step by step. Gradually, while thanking the predecessors for their experience, I also hope that more young people can turn back quickly and stop sinking. This is the twenty years I have gone through. I really don't want everyone to waste their good time on my old road.
I remember that I didn't understand until I read Dr. Peng Xin's lecture "The Root of Injury to Life-Damage to Morality": Chinese medicine says that "the kidney dominates the bone to produce marrow, and the palm of the hand dominates the brain". If a person's kidney qi is insufficient, then his brain has two manifestations: 1. Memory loss; 2. Thinking ability is declining. Therefore, if a person is deficient in kidney qi, his brain power will be insufficient, his memory and understanding will decline, and his academic performance will naturally plummet. Not only that, sy's brain is empty, her ambition is gone, she doesn't want to do anything, and her mobility is at a minimum. With such brain power, physical strength and ambition, how can fate not be bleak and miserable?
After realizing this, I learned from countless successful experiences of abstinence from color, and realized that abstinence from color is not simply not sy, but the reconstruction of life, which is to bid farewell to the past life mode and live a brand-new life. Only in this way can we bid farewell to sy completely and live a brand-new life. We must grasp two cores: one is continuous self-growth, continuous learning and implementation of the methods summarized by these successful people, and continuous reflection on our own shortcomings; The second is to know how to be grateful, filial to parents and serve others wholeheartedly, so as to bid farewell to the past completely.
The past does not represent the future. It doesn't matter where you come from. What matters is where you are going. It doesn't matter how you lived in the past, the most important thing is your future development direction and trend, understand? No matter how long the history of sy is, no matter how many times abstinence has failed, it only represents the past, not the future. As long as you make up your mind to change your destiny and don't give up, you can completely change your situation and the outside world in this world. Because your external world is the result of your internal world, only by self-reflection and changing the internal world can you change your life.
I made up my mind not to break the rules after every sy in the past 19, but I couldn't stand the temptation of impulse every time, especially when I was bored, empty and stressed and couldn't sleep, which seemed to be my safety. Go to sleep. Generally speaking, medicine is also Du Like, and I can't quit (I am no different from everyone in the past). It was not until I came into contact with our forum at the age of 33 that I really started to quit color successfully. Since July 26th last year, I haven't had sy for 300 days. Don't think how strong and determined I am. In fact, I am no different from everyone in the forum. Because from another perspective, I have a history of abstinence failure of 19 years. In the previous 19 years, I insisted that the number of times I didn't go to sy for two weeks was definitely less than 10. Most of my friends in the forum are younger than me. You don't fail like me, do you? If anything, it's actually a little-serious, that's all. As long as you can learn the methods of abstinence winners in the forum like me and then implement them yourself, you will succeed. Don't try to do it in a self-exploring and self-righteous way, as I did before contacting our forum. There is only one way to quit color successfully: learn from successful people and learn from me the proven methods.
Because only someone who has walked out of the maze will tell you the real way out of the maze (he didn't walk out of the maze himself, so it's strange that you can walk out after listening to him! ), you can only get out of the maze if you do what the winner does, and you can't get out of the maze just knowing that the winner didn't do it. Can the winner tell you to turn left at the third fork, but you can't resist the temptation to turn right, so you can get out of the maze? Finally, he said that his method was useless and he couldn't get out. Who the hell do you blame? It's no use just knowing the method, only doing it honestly! ), the reason is as simple as that.
I said before that because your external world is the result of your internal world, you can change your external situation as long as you change your internal spiritual world. Therefore, as long as you make up your mind to repent and turn over a new leaf, you can also enjoy a wonderful life, a splendid life and live a new self.
So, what should I do after I make up my mind to repent and believe that the past does not represent the future? Cut all the colors. Clear information, read more books and exercise more, go to bed early and get up early, don't drink or eat meat, be filial to parents, care for others, give help and tolerance, do your best to share and contribute, let yourself live a new life and bid farewell to sy completely.
This is the secret of success in abstaining from color. This is the method of hundreds of successful abstainers (experienced people) that I have summarized, and it is a treasure trove of successful people. Remember: you can't get out of the maze only by knowing the methods of successful people and not doing them.
(It is recommended to exercise Baduanjin, or stand on piles, sit still, take a walk, squat down on the wall and strengthen your arms. These are aerobic exercises, which can restore your vitality and strengthen your kidneys; Much better than push-ups, sit-ups and barbells.
Furthermore, how to change your inner spiritual world, so as to change your external situation? One of the shortcuts is to study Mr. Cai's lecture on a happy life in depth and read the Lust, Caution and Oath three times every morning after getting up, after lunch and before going to bed at night. A lecture and an oath of lust, caution are enough. Stick to it every day, it will unconsciously affect your subconscious, gradually clean up your inner garbage, and let you live a confident, happy and better new life.
Because he contains the profound teachings of China sages, will he tell us how to be a man? How to reflect and correct? How to distinguish right from wrong? How to be filial to parents? How to educate children to get along with others? How can friends have faith and brothers live in harmony? How to achieve your career? How to transform fate? How to live a new life? I have been abstaining from color for nearly 300 days. I read the oath of abstinence every day and studied Mr. Cai's lecture for one hour. At present, the lecture has been repeated 1 1 times, and the gains are really great, beyond words. Only when you really listen patiently and persist in studying this lecture can you feel the feeling of being bathed in the spring breeze. He is like the little sun in your heart, which contains endless light and warmth and can achieve your success. What you need to do is very simple _—read the Oath in the morning and evening, and listen to an episode of the lecture "Happy Life" continuously every day. Within three months, you will definitely change a lot!
Allow me to repeat: absolutely amazing. Clear information, read more books and exercise more, be filial to parents and do more good deeds, go to bed early and get up early, and don't stay up late and drink. I have repeatedly emphasized these points because the simplest method is also the most effective. As a person who has walked out of the maze, I have selflessly told everyone the secret of my hard work out of the maze. The key is whether you are willing to follow these methods.
Act now, do it now, start with me, don't wait, don't hesitate. Always remind yourself to do something valuable, Qing, and don't fool around again!
Act now! Do it now! Remember this sentence, you should download the e-book "Happy Life Lecture" and the mp3 version of the lecture now, and study hard. At the same time, make a feasible fitness plan and study plan that suits you, bid farewell to the past and start a new life, pay more and hone more, and walk out of a bright road.
I hope everyone can get rid of their inescapable desires, live freely and easily, and be a person worthy of parents and conscience!