Of course, you may not fully understand and agree with what I say now, but when you really grow up, grow up and mature after many years, you will know that it is difficult for you now. You just need to understand as much as possible and then do it.
You need to know some basic core concepts first, which are very important for men. If you don't have such patience, then I think you can just give up, because it is difficult for you to honestly get a woman's true love, including her.
Think, think seriously, and understand the following questions (write the answers carefully):
Why do women like you? What is the charm of men to attract girls? How to make women like you? Soul torture: does a woman lick a dog to increase your attraction? Do you want to win women's love? Or are you praying for a woman's love? How to save her? Well, I believe you have your own answer, so now use Noci to analyze and sort it out (recovery is not a simple routine, because if you rely on routines to temporarily recover, this recovery is also false, and recovery is the growth and change of thinking! )。
1. Why do women like you? To understand this problem, it is actually very simple. Think of a simple question:? Why do you like women? . Yes, that's right. I believe there must be something in your answer: because she has? Feminization? .
Yes, Noci is also a man. Why do I like some women? Because they are all feminine in my eyes, including curvy figure, waist-length hair, fair skin, gentle personality, virtuous and considerate, right?
I believe that few boys will like being very long. Men? Girls.
In fact, let's look back at our question: Why do women like men?
Very easy to understand. Do women like men because of them? Masculine? . Of course, some friends will ask: What is it? Masculine? ?
It's simple. What do you mean? Masculine? A simple understanding is the unique "gender charm" that distinguishes men from women.
For example, women generally have less body muscles and more fat. What is the gender charm that distinguishes men from women? Muscle, less fat.
For another example, women are generally feminine, indecisive, indecisive, timid, fragile and anxious, so it is very simple. The "gender charm" that distinguishes them from women is men. They are not sissy, independent, brave, strong, independent and calm.
For example, it is convenient to understand what is? Masculine? ：
For example, women may frown when they encounter difficulties in life, so the masculinity at this time is, do you have an atmosphere? It's nothing, okay? A positive attitude gives her a sense of security. For another example, if there is an argument, women will be more hysterical. Are you tolerant? She's joking. Are you laughing? This feeling. For another example, after being broken up, women will be desperate and may come to pray for boys. At this time, men should be strong, even if I am in pain, I will let you see! So, do you understand? Why do women like men? Because men have a kind of masculinity that attracts them.
Now, look back at yourself and list some of your masculine and feminine behaviors.
Second, what is the charm of men attracting girls? Appearance is also very important for boys, and girls also look at their faces and bodies, so don't believe anyone who tells you that men don't need to care about appearance!
You may not be handsome or tall by nature, but you can try to be clean, tidy and sunny, pay attention to your standing posture and walking posture, and keep your face and hair fresh, and basically you are half the battle.
Then, apart from the appearance, other things that are equally important, or more important, I will start with 1 1 points and aspects (in fact, there are still many points, so I will supplement and update them), and try my best to give concrete examples and suggestions that can be operated and understood, so that everyone can better understand and practice:
Share of social resources. Potential stocks have good economic prospects. Good figure, love sports. Humor. Self-confidence, sunshine, strong inner appeal, bold decision-making, good social skills, good circle of friends, good father potential, loyalty and sincerity, and sharing social resources. As a boy or a man, you need to possess social resources. To put it bluntly, you should have economic strength and social status. This is very important. This is not to say that girls are realistic, but from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, girls need survival value and security. They need their partners to provide a safe and stable living environment for themselves and future generations. Liu Shuai? Why does milk tea like Liu?
There is also an interesting sentence. Do you like crying in a BMW or laughing in the back seat of a bicycle? The clever answer is:? I like to ride in a Rolls-Royce and get unkempt by X? This is a joke, but it also has the meaning of existence, which shows that girls really value men's social resources and wealth.
Noxi's suggestion: it's very simple. As a boy, should I work harder to make money and work hard for my career? Don't blame the girl's reality. As a man, you let a girl who could have a better life choose to suffer with you, which is actually a selfish performance.
Potential stocks have good economic prospects.
As a boy, you can be temporarily poor. Many girls don't mind, but you should at least let the other person see your potential. You have the opportunity and potential to give her a bright future and living conditions. Girls can accept that you are poor for a while, but they can't accept that their men are worthless all their lives.
Noci suggested: As a boy, you can have no money, but at least show your self-motivation and hard work, and give your woman hope and expectation for the future.
Good figure, love sports %20 As a boy, you may not be handsome, but at least you can control your figure and work hard. Girls prefer boys who look healthy and sunny. You don't have to be handsome, but you have to be stylish.
You may not be very handsome, but doing more exercise and fitness will always increase your attraction, Noci suggested.
Humor is very important. In reality, we always find that some boys are not handsome, maybe they are not tall or fashionable, but many girls like them, or their feelings are very smooth. If you study it frequently, you will find that such boys have some similarities. They are humorous, good at chatting and have high emotional intelligence.
Note that humor is not smart, mean and malicious ridicule, but a sign of self-confidence and maturity, and it is a kind of composure that keeps calm in times of crisis and keeps calm. For example, for example, girls are dressed beautifully today. What did you say?/Sorry? You look like a professional woman today. , or? Today is so beautiful, are you trying to seduce me? None of these are suitable, cheap and low-end.
For example, if you are sick and have a fever and girls care about you, you can say, do you want to touch your hair and burn it? Don't touch it, or you'll burn yourself, okay? This is a humorous point of view, especially when you are in trouble.
Noci's suggestion: improve your sense of humor, and pay attention to collecting some good words at ordinary times (I will sort this out and send it to you), but be careful not to go astray and become a lying trough and a mean mouth.
Self-confidence, sunshine and inner strength %20 We will always find some boys. When a girl comes into contact with him, she always seems to bring her own light. I believe that if you are a girl, you will agree with me. The confidence and sunshine of boys will fully increase their charm and add value to their attraction.
In particular, most girls are emotionally sensitive and insecure. If you can show self-confidence and strength, and all the problems are not a problem for you, then it is easy for girls to have a sense of worship and closeness to you, and they will unconsciously approach you, just like approaching the sun.
Especially when she is troubled by negative emotions (research shows that most girls are actually troubled by negative emotions. . . ), she will want to rely on you more.
Noxi suggested: %20 Maybe you have your own problems, maybe you are not so satisfied, but at least you should make yourself look stronger and more confident so that your woman can have a tree to rely on. No, I grind my teeth every day. You are always emotional first, out of the chart, and the girls who are in trouble are not so good. You can't be anxious first.
Leadership charm %20 Maybe you are not handsome or tall, but you must have charm. %20 Ma Yunshuai? Tall? No, but I believe many women appreciate Ma Yun, which is not only related to his wealth, but also related to his personality charm as a leader.
A leadership temperament that can lead women out of the predicament is the trait of the strong. In primitive times, what kind of males had mating rights? The leader of %20 tribe. So in modern times, the leaders in those groups are equally attractive to girls.
Noci suggested: You may be ordinary now, but you need to work hard to build your leadership personality. For example, you dare to express your opinions, take responsibility and act in groups. For example, you can do a survey first, and then make bold suggestions to lead everyone to make a decision. For example, you can make up your mind to go out with girls. Don't hide yourself all the time, be unknown in the crowd and become that kind of follower.
Be brave in decision-making
One of the most important things about male charm is determination and courage.
When confronted with choices, hesitating, dawdling and struggling repeatedly, this is not an attractive man's behavior, which embodies the image of being afraid to bear the consequences and responsibilities of choices and having no courage. It will only hate and despise girls, and of course it is not conducive to the career development of boys themselves.
Advice: Cultivate your determination and courage. For example, if a girl goes shopping with you and asks you which dress looks better, don't answer. Whatever. ,? Is everything all right? It's that you have to bravely help her decide: The red one suits you better. Do you look more elegant in plaid? .
Social skills
Knowing social animals, one of the most direct manifestations of a man's strength is whether he can adapt to this group. Therefore, those men who can be welcomed and recognized by others in the group often show better adaptability and stronger communication skills. Of course, it will also make girls feel that such a man is very powerful and worth choosing.
Noci suggested: consciously cultivate your social skills, improve your lifestyle and make yourself more mature. If you attend activities with your girlfriend, or meet her parents and friends, if you can show strong social skills, she will like it very much, and she will have great face and naturally love you more. On the contrary, if every time you go out with her or meet friends together, you are shy and introverted and can't talk, she will think you are incompetent and will naturally have a negative impression on you.
Good circle of friends
? What about men? To see his circle of friends. ?
This sentence is very good. If a girl comes into contact with you and finds that your friends are all low-grade, or evil friends, fair-weather friends, then she can easily classify you into this category and have a bad impression. But if your friend is excellent and full of positive energy, she will recognize you more.
No regrets suggestion: manage your circle of friends and avoid ineffective socialization, which is meaningful to your love and career.
The potential of a good father
Girls choose men, especially for long-term relationships such as marriage. Many people will think about the next generation, such as whether this person will be a good father? If the answer is yes, she will naturally be more satisfied with you.
Noci's suggestion: show your love as much as possible, let yourself have more love and patience, and control your temper and emotions, so that you will win the favor of girls more easily.
Loyalty and sincerity
When choosing a long-term relationship, women will attach great importance to male loyalty. Therefore, if you look more reliable and practical, it is often easier to increase girls' goodwill towards you.
But pay attention, loyalty and sincerity mean that you are timid to every girl you like, and it is easy to go astray and give people a too serious impression. You can get in touch with girls when you are single, but once you have a goal, you should show that she is special and that you treat her differently from other women.
Noci advises: In a long-term relationship, pay attention to your opposite sex distance. If you like her very much, you'd better not get too close to other girls.
So in the process of recovery, you should re-examine these points, find your own weaknesses and deficiencies, and make supplements and changes.
Third, what do you rely on to make women like you? Earlier, I analyzed the masculinity of men and the main charm of men. You should think about it here. You included your redemption before. What do you want to do to make her like you and even change her mind?
Here I recommend a SWOT analysis method to analyze your strengths and weaknesses in recovery, which is also the first and often used method in recovery consultation. Of course, I believe other so-called consultants will copy soon.
Specifically, you can list the advantages and disadvantages of saving her, and think about what you rely on to save her.
Fourth, soul torture: can licking a woman's dog increase her attractiveness? First of all, you have to understand that being nice to a woman may move her, but
Moved by %20? Yes, maybe your kindness can win a woman's touch and even be with you, but being touched and being kind to a woman, which is particularly pleasing, can't be exchanged for liking.
Don't take sincerity as the main capital to make the other person fall in love with you, because once a man tries to win the favor of a girl, it is actually quite incompetent to impress the other person by his sincerity.
We must first make it clear that the strategy of impressing/moving is mainly based on "impressing" the other party, while making the object like it is based on "attracting" the other party.
Touching is a social strategy to cater to and please each other. "Touching characteristics" include: obedience, low status, ingratiation and low self-confidence.
But the "masculinity" that attracts girls is often the opposite of pandering and pleasing, including self-confidence, decisiveness, chic and high status (women always like men they can appreciate).
Comparing "touching characteristics" with "charming man characteristics", we clearly find that touching women and attracting women are actually contradictory and run counter to each other. In other words, when a man tries to contact a girl, his attraction is actually decreasing.
So, many times, you think you are being nice to women and chasing love. In fact, your behavior not only doesn't give you extra points, but makes you look less manly, because a confident, brave and decisive man won't cry, and he is a mother-in-law, constantly pleasing and catering to women.
5. Do you want to please women? Or are you praying for a woman's love? What women want is conquest, not kneeling. You can only conquer the woman you love like a knight, instead of begging the goddess for love like a humble beggar.
Imagine a man who can't even protect himself and make himself so embarrassed. What can he prove, that he can bring a woman security and give her a safe haven?
It is right to be kind to a woman, but it is wrong to be kind to her unconditionally, without a bottom line, and without considering what the other person needs at all.
There is a kind of moral kidnapping that people are best at. I'm so good to you that you fall in love with me? . In fact, think carefully about his kindness to you. Is it really selfless or based on this? Love you? Or is it the purpose? Possess you? ? In a very simple way, if you think you are happier without him, will he really bless you or will he keep you in various ways? The former is that he loves you for your happiness, and the latter is for himself. Whether we love each other or the other loves us, most of them are the latter.
So the question now is. Can this kind of routine that is good for women keep women? The answer is no, trying to make her fall in love with you by being nice to her is a big mistake.
Women want to conquer, not be moved.
what's up Touched? Lots of girls, really? Conquer? Very few. Trying to rely on the right woman? Okay？ Keeping women is a typical example? I want apples, and you give me a car full of pears? .
What's more, I have always felt that it is not good for a person to be caring and attentive, to do laundry and cooking, and to be careful everywhere, but to give the other person an ideal lover, and most girls need not a follower, but a knight.
The prerequisite for a woman to love you is to respect you, plus a little worship or look up is enough to maintain a long-term relationship.
When a man is constantly afraid of losing his girlfriend and starts to put down his self-esteem and make unprincipled compromises and apologies, it is time to force girls to love him less. Respect is the foundation of love, and as a boy, you constantly compromise and please without principle, but admit that everything is wrong or right. Do you expect the people you love to respect you? No
What do women need? Men? , not a macho boy.
How can a blind compromise and unprincipled doting woman be a man? In the eyes of women, he is at most like a child who needs to be cared for, even a sissy. What I said is more direct, but I hope you will forgive me. Only in the world of boys, women are the only ones. You are around her all day, and nothing can be separated from her, so you can't make her feel that you are manly. Masculinity means being assertive, decisive, knowing what you want, knowing that you don't need to be meticulous with women, but she needs you, and you are the first person to appear in front of her. You can rely on her instead of you relying on her. On the surface, your boyfriend is kind to you, but in fact, he is the one who needs to rely on you.
Six: How? If you can't finish talking about routines and details here for a few days, let's talk about a key core element. This is well understood, and it is not difficult to save her.
This element is %20%20. You want to be real? Men? !
As mentioned earlier, one of the main reasons why boys are dumped by girls is that men have lost their male charm, but some boys still think it is because girls have made him poor. Actually, it is not. Most girls are not so realistic. Even if you let her love you, she can accompany you no matter how hard it is, but only if you let her love you. What else would other girls want?
Therefore, one of the most basic and critical elements of recovery is that you should do it again as I said above and think about whether you still have male charm when you get along with him:
Are you decisive? Are you motivated? Are you strong and full of positive energy? Don't you care about the atmosphere? Are you independent and confident? etc ...
If you look back and find that after being with her, you become a mother-in-law, arguing with your girlfriend about every little thing, losing your temper when nothing happens, or looking vulnerable to all kinds of negative emotions, not independent or even echoing opinions, it is useless for you to take care of her when she needs you. . . After breaking up, I was so miserable that I had to kneel down and lick it.
So, look at what you and I mentioned above now. Masculine? Like a man? If not, you need to know why she doesn't love you, what you want to do and what kind of man you want to be.
If a man wants to get back, the first step is to stand up and be himself? Men? Be brave, strong, decisive, confident, calm and positive, and find your masculinity, because you have been kneeling for a long time.
For example, the girlfriend of the topic is rude, so I suggest you be more rude than her? Despair? And free and easy! (Of course, there is a need to specifically analyze the reasons for breaking up. If it's because you were not nice to other girls before, that's another matter), you should make him feel that you are a man, even if you are in pain, you have your principles and your heart is strong, so that you can quickly adjust your state and start a new life, and she will look up to you! Love you again!
Avoid:
Send gifts; Learn to cook for her; Write an apology letter; Pick her up from work; Send a useless feeling; . . . Because of these, all of them will make you look less manly and unattractive, and she will dislike you even more, and think it is right to break up with a cowardly boy like you!
Breaking up is a blow to men, but it is also an opportunity for Jedi to get to know you again. Let him see your strength and your inner strength by breaking up, and conquer her again! Make her love you!
PS: Feelings are complicated, and there is no one-size-fits-all formula. Specific problems must be analyzed in detail.
I'm yannuoxi. If you cherish each other, it comes from poetry. When the flowers bloom, they cherish each other. Flowers are full of clothes, and flowers are sad. Drunk words mean something, don't be like flowers A gentleman should understand flowers and spend them under the frost and snow.
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