Let me use my own experience to answer this question.

First: Don't divorce impulsively, but if you think clearly, there is nothing to regret. Life is a kind of choice, you have to gain and lose. And I have always felt that people who can make a woman divorce categorically must have suffered a lot. Rational decision must have her reasons.

Second: At the beginning of the divorce, the children were not ready, because one of the old people in the family died and the other was selfish and just wanted to live a happy life. No one helps and takes care of them. At that time, I didn't think it was necessarily good for children, but later, once I entered the painful entanglement of Chinese divorce, people's thoughts would change little by little.

The child wanted to be with me, and I realized the loneliness of living alone, so I resolutely chose a person to take care of the child without hesitation.

Third: This is the most important point. If you want to bring up children by yourself, you must have a certain economic foundation. Once divorced, garbage men often only give you basic living expenses (ignored). You should be prepared to bear more expenses yourself. Moreover, if it is not easy for a person to take care of children and have to work, he must exchange the economy for some good life.

For example, I hired a chef to clean my aunt, bought a dishwasher and took my children to travel abroad. I have to make up for them financially. Today's children are very realistic, and it is essential to give them material things. Then I can spare some energy to read books and plant flowers. Although I don't have time to go to the gym or take dance lessons, it's important for children to have company, but I think it's worth it.

But there is a premise here that if your child is too young, at least an old man should help you at home. Otherwise, even if you are determined to be big, it will be too hard to take care of it by yourself. If you are overwhelmed, you will complain that you will feel uncomfortable and have a bad temper, and children will inevitably become the object of your venting. This is not good.

Fourth: Do you want to find another one after the divorce? My suggestion is that boyfriends can be cautious when getting married, because it will be more complicated for women with children to remarry, and of course they will meet good men, but I am only talking about high probability events. Unless a man really treats your child as his treasure, there will definitely be problems after marriage.

If you choose to remarry, find a good material for yourself as a whole (but not too bad), and don't be too demanding. But in my opinion, divorced women, if they have good economic conditions, don't want to get married since they don't have excellent ones.

Why don't girls say they are happy after divorce? I feel happy. In fact, being happy or unhappy is a state of mind. If you choose happiness, you will be happy.