A few days ago, # Zhang Xinyi responded to the criticism that her figure was out of shape # and the topic was on the hot search.

The reason is that some well-paid businessmen accuse postpartum Zhang Xinyi of not paying attention to postpartum body management at all, and letting birth lead to out-of-shape body.

As a mother, Zhang Xinyi felt a little angry, so she personally took off the shelf in Weibo and returned to the bar:

The official WeChat account should be more tolerant and respectful to a lactating mother. Why make fun of such a woman to get traffic?

Husband Justin supports his wife in the comments: Don't pay attention, you are paying for the "role" of your mother, and you are the best mother.

How could Zhang Can not know the importance of Xinyi's good figure? It's just that the most important thing for her now is to learn to be a good mother before she becomes a high-profile female star.

The reason why her figure has not recovered to the peak of beauty like other female stars is because she insists on breastfeeding and can't go on a diet to lose weight. Besides, without a complete sleep, she needs food to replenish her vitality.

For the sudden malice on the Internet, Zhang Xinyi wondered: "Is it so important that I am out of shape?" ? Can the official WeChat account not talk about this? "

Facing the unborn baby, is it really wrong for Zhang Xinyi to focus on being a good mother at this stage and not to manage her own body?

She is right, but she is wrong to criticize the onlookers of "mom" from the perspective of God.

Not to mention that women need to face the problems of excrement and fart when giving birth, but also bear the physiological changes brought about by pregnancy and childbirth. The psychological pressure caused by various unfriendly attitudes in society alone is enough for mothers.

Nowadays, women are afraid of getting married and having children, which may be forced by society.

02.

Who forced a woman into a superwoman with delicate facial features?

In Weibo's comments, netizens left a message: The world is so unfair to women.

Zhang Xinyi replied: No minimum respect.

On second thought, today is indeed a fact.

In most cases, society always has high demands on women. As soon as they reach marriageable age, they are urged to return to their families, get married early and have children early, otherwise the words "leftover women" and "nobody wants them" will be stuck in their heads.

A woman gives birth to a child after marriage. I hope that while nursing the baby and taking care of the whole family, she'd better achieve something in her career and not drag down the family financially. Women's hard work during pregnancy in October is completely out of the question, and men's money expenditure during this period is also easy to be gossiped.

If the balance between career, family and children is not properly handled, it will be labeled as evidence of the dereliction of duty of the wife and mother.

The above statement is really not an exaggeration. About eight out of every ten women around me have had the above unpleasant experiences, even female stars are no exception.

For example, Chen Qiaoen, 40 years old and unmarried, was ridiculed by netizens everywhere. Although she is still looking forward to love, she is also very satisfied with her single life now. She is rich and free, but no one believes that she lives well, and even says that she hates marriage.

Zhang Xinyi, for example, publicly laughed at her body shape, but at the same time repeatedly promised to slim back to her original body as soon as possible after the baby was weaned, so as to take care of the baby.

In order to get back on track quickly, she is pumping milk to save milk, saying that she will be weaned when the baby is one year old.

From the words, it is not difficult to see her desire for fitness and dieting.

For girls who are born to love beauty, who doesn't want their figure to be as graceful and beautiful as before, is just the mother's sense of responsibility, so that they would rather let go of their once persistent beauty for the safe and healthy growth of their babies.

In fact, Zhang Xinyi's reproductive period is very smooth. She avoided morning sickness, stretch marks, mastitis and postpartum depression, and passed all the way. Now she is praying to avoid postpartum hair loss.

Even though she escaped all the physical fitness tests, she could not escape the trial comments of others in the end. Compared with physical discomfort, mental sadness is probably more violent.

03.

It is too superficial for women to say whether they love or not.

I wrote before that it is not easy to be a "mother". At that time, many men left messages under the article, saying that they were giving money to love. What do women want?

Don't take money too seriously The money is not for women, but for the normal operation of the whole family. Both men and women have the responsibility and obligation to raise children.

Besides money, what did you give each other? Oath?

Compared with love in words, it is better to have more real care and understanding in practical actions.

In the face of his out of shape, postpartum temper and depression. It is far more reliable and useful to be more tolerant and try to accompany you than to pledge eternal love.

Not long ago, I saw a news that "a beautiful woman gained 80 pounds after marriage and was dumped".

The girl named Liu Yajuan is not only good-looking, but also capable. Before getting married, she studied at Manchester University in England. When she was a sophomore, she started a business with her friends to make money. After graduation, she held the capital and became an executive of a company.

Later, she met her current husband and launched a fierce pursuit offensive against her. She even vowed, "I really want to fatten you up, because you won't run away if you fatten up."

Under the onslaught of her husband's love words, their feelings became sweeter and sweeter, and they successfully entered the wedding hall. Because she didn't deliberately control her diet, and her figure was out of shape due to pregnancy and childbirth, Liu Yajuan gained a full 80 kilograms after giving birth, and her weight soared to 180 kilograms.

Who knows? Facing the fat wife, men's attitude took a 180 degree turn.

The man who said he would never change his love for her now dislikes her chubby figure and can't bear to divorce: "You can do whatever you want if you lose weight, and I can't stand you now."

Liu Yajuan couldn't figure out how this man's heart changed.

In fact, it's not that he is fickle, but that girls can't see each other clearly at all. No matter how sweet the love words are, listen to them as a flavor enhancer in love. But if you easily agree to stay for a lifetime just because of the other party's oath, you will always regret it.

Note: Chatting records of netizens with similar experiences.

I have to say that it is an adventure for women to decide to get married nowadays.

When a woman marries, she gives up her career and free enjoyment in order to have children, which may be exchanged for the ruthless abandonment and dislike of the other party.

In fact, they don't want much, but men are more loving in action, but it's a pity that the other party is stingy in paying.

Madonna said:

"In today's society, no one dares to attack blacks and homosexuals casually, but it seems that anyone can publicly ridicule older women.

Especially for older single women, this is really unfair. "

What's more, even married mothers are now the object of ridicule.

04.

Fertility and reproduction should be the perfect transformation of women.

Think of a hot post in Zhihu at three o'clock in the morning.

The man asked the netizen: "The woman is pregnant for 8 months, can she get a divorce?"

The "woman" in his mouth is his girlfriend who has lived together for 8 years. She got married after the other person got pregnant unexpectedly.

Obviously, she is a woman who has made a serious vow to life. The name he gave each other was not a wife, but a woman. The reasons for wanting a divorce are trivial contradictions.

To sum up, women who are pregnant in August are not filial to their mothers, sensible and obedient, and work hard enough.

In fact, the truth is that I don't want to take care of my pregnant wife's husband and leave her to my mother. I just want to be quiet. Then because of physiological changes, it is difficult for pregnant girls to control their temper and don't want to look at their mother-in-law's face. Naturally, they will have conflicts.

When this husband saw it, he didn't want to take care of it. He blamed his wife with his mother-in-law. After several quarrels, he had the idea of divorce.

In the post, he cried: "I am really desperate. My parents spent about 1.7 million on getting married, which is basically all the savings of the old couple. Will it be the same for a wife in the future? "

It's sad to marry such a man.

I just want to ask, are you going home with your wife or a free nanny who will have a baby?

I'm only eight months pregnant, and I hate this virtue. I'm afraid it will get worse after giving birth.

Speaking of which, I really don't think I deserve girls.

You know, when a woman decides to have a baby for a man, she will also have tangled thoughts in her mind. After all, it's hard to conceive in October, not to mention the changes in physiology and appearance, as well as the eyes around her.

Who knows that the result of making up your mind is the undisguised disgust of the bedside people. I was the first to express my dislike for women of childbearing age, and I felt sorry for her when I thought about it.

It used to be said that childbirth is a woman's door, which refers to all kinds of dangers in the process of childbirth.

I want to add that this Rashomon is not only the process of birth, but also the whole process of education. The former is a threat to life, and the latter is a pressure to survive.

Having children, I don't know when it started, has gradually become an imperfect change in a woman's life. It will become ugly, old and relaxed, so onlookers always strongly order mothers to recover quickly.

With what?

Giving birth to a mother is obviously a new journey of life for women, a beautiful transformation, which has nothing to do with appearance.

However, in today's society, the requirements for mothers who have given birth to children are really harsh. I hope that they will be beautiful alone and reproduce, and I hope that they will work hard to make a difference.

Please, mom is not a superman, she is a woman, a living person, and a child is the crystallization of love, a bond between two people, not her responsibility alone.

Mo Yan said: "Fertility is so solemn and secular, so serious and so absurd."

What is solemn and sacred is the birth of new life. Ironically, its existence has gradually become a symbol of women's imperfection.

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