How to arrange the first date? Many boys are nervous about catching up with girls on their first date. They are afraid that the first date will be screwed up, which will have an impact on their future development. Want to know how to arrange the first date? Come and have a look with me.

How to arrange the first date 1 how to arrange the first date?

The first date is a very subtle and interesting thing. Girls are naturally cautious, and some exceptions are no longer referred to. Under the cautious nature of girls, your every subtle movement and expression can't escape each other's crystal bright eyes. When two complete strangers or unfamiliar people sit together and talk about your harmonious topic, some partners may have such a situation when dating, and they will feel overwhelmed by Mount Tai, even bursting with tension, sweating all over, fidgeting and so on. A few people may still be as calm as ever, and some personal qualities will be unobstructed at this time. On the first date with a girl, all we have to do is never sing praises for ourselves, as long as we give full play to our natural style and don't need to put on airs. Don't talk to a girl here too much about personal matters. If the other person doesn't want to talk to you, it's useless for you to ask any more questions, or even to lower the score directly, because although you promised to date you at this time, you don't know her that well, so you need to get to know her slowly. Through constant contact to deepen the contact between the two sides, it is necessary to abide by a rule at this time, that is, to make a couple in a more comfortable and embarrassing atmosphere. When you are in a suitable atmosphere, she won't feel nervous. She will slowly relax her vigilance against you and talk to you naturally. And there will be some mistakes when relaxing, such as stepping on each other's shoes and forgetting to pour water for each other. It is also easier to forgive your mistakes. Ok, let's talk about the main points of dating.

First, about dress. In this respect, you don't have to be so handsome or dress like a fashionista, but you must make a good first impression on the girl's date, which will give you a lot of points. First impressions are very important. Dress not only represents your taste, but also represents your life state. For example, if you don't trim your hair for three months, your pants are wrinkled, your nails are long, there is black dirt, and your shirt cuffs are stained with coffee, which will greatly increase your negative score. Remember to trim your beard before you go out. Dress must be chic, clean and refreshing. You'd better spray some faint cologne, which will give you extra points.

The second is to create topics and appropriate interactions when chatting. Many people say that the most depressing thing about dating is "full chat", and there will be an ice breaker every 5- 10 minutes. Both sides should deliberately find a topic, and they will definitely feel uncomfortable getting along with you, so we should create a good chat atmosphere. Whatever you say, the other party should listen carefully. Crosstalk turned chatting into an art on the stage. Many people like to listen. Personally, I like Degang Guo very much, but the reason why his works are well-known is inseparable from his good partner Yu Qian. To create a good chat atmosphere, you should be like a teacher. It seems that you don't say many words at a time, but you can always make the speaker more interested in talking with only one or two sentences, and you can also guide the other party to fully express what you really want to express. In the daily chat environment, you need to do a good job of "keeping your eyes open". It is not unreasonable for people to directly associate whether they can speak with their emotional intelligence, because people with low emotional intelligence often don't answer the phone: for example, when a girl is sharing a topic and says that the dress she is wearing today was just bought yesterday, you quickly rush to say, "Yes, I saw it at the stall yesterday, 15 yuan." It's not that you don't answer the phone, it's annoying. The first thing to pay attention to is to learn to adapt to people's needs, rather than being an honest demolition agent. Remember, you are chatting, the purpose is to relax, not to have a meeting to discuss next year's life and death, nor to debate a certain life principle. I don't want to advocate larded school, but I have to learn not to be annoying. When girls buy new clothes, you can praise them and look good. When a guy says Messi plays football, you can cater to two sentences. Don't be too serious at this time. Another note is that you should prepare your homework in advance, and meaningful chat is chat, otherwise it can only be embarrassing blind catering. Only when the two sides find a * * * relationship in this process can they gradually improve.

Third, in dating, we must give full play to the characteristics of boys and be independent. For a boy, if he inadvertently shows his lack of opinion and responsibility, his attraction can be directly removed. In view of this situation, we can plan the route in advance, as well as some possible things and countermeasures, which can effectively avoid embarrassment.

What do you usually do on dates?

1, Archery Hall

2. Concerts, exhibitions, museums and science centers.

3. DIY by hand

4. Amusement parks, zoos and botanical gardens

Step 5 ride a horse

6, do sports gym

7. Go to road trip

8. Riding (Dafu Mountain)

9. Cook together

10, shopping at IKEA, supermarkets.

1 1, shrimp fishing, fishing

12, escape from the chamber of secrets

13, Flying a kite (Central Lake in University Town)

14, playing with pulleys and skating on real ice.

15, picking strawberries and fruits on the farm.

16, flower viewing, south china botanical garden, Million Sunflower Garden, Sparrows.

17, camping and mountain climbing

18, diving

19, playing video games

20. Go to the comic exhibition

2 1, photography, taking pictures of each other.

22. Take the road of memories.

23. Lego bricks

24, all kinds of small games, supermarket shopping competition

25. Go to the seaside

26. Run a marathon

27, skills exchange, such as teaching each other to play the piano.

28. Play table tennis

29. Keep a diary for a week and then exchange.

30. Help each other and make up.

Matters needing attention on the first date

1, time-6: 00 pm to 8: 00 pm from Monday to Thursday.

The survey shows that this period is a time for people to work all day and just relax. Not as tired as 90 pm, nor as lazy as Saturday and Sunday. After a pleasant first date, women tend to be more eager for the next date than men, but they usually don't take the initiative because of face. Men are more likely to be distracted by work or other things after dating, and are much calmer than women. Choosing Monday to Thursday is good for women to use the next day's work to relieve the excitement after the date. On the one hand, you can share it with your good friends, on the other hand, you can leave the weekend to a man, so that he can have more time to arrange his next date.

2. Location-Don't choose a place that is too quiet or noisy.

The location of the first date will mostly be decided by girls. Many girls will choose the cinema to co-produce a movie with their boyfriends on their first date, and then they can have a series of relaxed and happy discussions. It's also good to watch the popular commercial films at present. Even if the film sucks, at least we can be together! But don't watch a sad movie like Titanic together and bring two people's emotions into sadness for no reason. After walking out of the cinema, they wept silently. If one of you is not good at talking, then don't set the first date in a restaurant that is too quiet. If you sit and eat, you won't let go of each other. If you need a bar that is equal or too noisy, you will not consider it at all on the first date, and your mind will be easily distracted or empty.

Two places are recommended here: a revolving restaurant with Japanese cuisine, where two people sit side by side to avoid the tension of "eating", and you can also have some sake to arouse your mood; Korean roast bar, you can fry, cook and bake food for him to eat, show his considerate side and give him the feeling that you are a good wife and mother-even if it is an illusion!

3. Cut to the chase-an interesting story that happened to your friend.

The first date may not be like you, but out of courtesy, everyone will find something that both of them can participate in. If he is stupid, you can take the initiative! It's best not to tell your colleague what happened. You are not in the same workplace, so I'm afraid it will be difficult for him to devote himself to the fun of the activities for a while. You need to introduce a lot of background information, which will dilute the interest of this matter. In addition, this topic may also extend to your work, and eventually become complaining or venting anger, which is counterproductive. The interesting things that happen to your friends are different. You can attract your interested friends in all directions, and it is better to arouse his desire to know this person. You can follow the trend and say, "I'll introduce you next time." I found a clever excuse for you to see him. Of course, what you need to know is that this friend must meet at least one of the following three conditions: 1, and the famous flower is taken. 2, far less beautiful and lovely than you. 3. Be your partner. Otherwise, we might make a wedding dress for her!

Don't be taboo on blind date and first date.

1, the clothing temperament is completely out of tune with the other party.

When we meet for the first time, if one party thinks that the other party has bad taste in clothes and is unwilling to walk together, there will basically be no second chance. If you are not confident about your taste in clothes, you might as well look at the pre-dating dress guide in fashion magazines.

2, blind date first meeting, silence is scrap iron.

When strangers meet for the first time, it is not the hardest thing to find a topic. The hard thing is to stick to it. If you say nothing; Or no matter what the other party says, there is only a cold response; If you don't take the initiative to create a topic, you will definitely let the other party retreat and leave calmly. Dating, after all, is a matter for two people.

3, a kind of "casual"

When we meet for the first time, everything, big and small, is left to the other party to choose, decide and deal with. I'm completely passive. Unless the other person happens to be a man and a woman, the other person will feel bored and tired immediately. And even if the other person is very controlling, he will want to satisfy your wish: what do you want? Where are you going? If you don't have any expectations, you will always be "casual" and the other person will get bored. Again, dating is a matter for two people, so you might as well be prepared.

4. The attitude of paying the bill is not enough.

In fact, in the initial stage of love, the attitude of paying the bill is very important. If the other person is a big man and a big woman and has enough strength, the most important thing to avoid is aa with the other person. But if the other party's ideas are westernized and everything is equal and independent, aa might as well pay the bill. If the other person is older and more powerful than you, you don't have to pretend to pay the bill. Thank you very much. But after a few times, you might as well buy a small order.

5. Don't get sick for the first blind date.

Even if it is love at first sight, there is no need to tell the truth in a hurry. For one thing, the other person will feel "too early" afterwards, and for another, you can't help losing enthusiasm. At least twice, at least after we made our relationship clear. ...

6, too brilliant love resume

Talking about past love experiences is almost a compulsory course for new dating. But if you talk too much, you will lose, which will easily lead to the relationship between the two. If you are experienced, the other party may think that you are easy to philander, or that you are not very disciplined; If the experience is not only rich but also painful, the other party will not sympathize with you, but will think that there must be something wrong with you, so that you will be dumped continuously. Unless, of course, the other party is an alternative literary youth.

How to arrange the first date? 2 What does the first date talk about?

1, tell me about my hobby

Everyone's hobbies are moderate, and chatting is not afraid of nothing to say. Talking about hobbies can master each other's hobbies, which is a key topic for the future and very easy to cause laughter. More importantly, try to find out whether they have a common personal hobby. If you two have similar hobbies, you can open another deeper topic discussion for everyone.

Another thing to note is that when you talk about your hobbies on the first date, you don't have to focus on his hobbies all the time, which will make the other person feel that you are demanding of him. The correct way is to focus on this conversation and let the other person know you better and be interested in you.

Talk about what you usually do on Sundays.

In this way, we can not only understand the real situation at that time when he was free, but also grasp how he distributed his food, clothing, housing and transportation. If the opportunity is right, maybe he can try to meet next time and do something together.

3. Talk about your favorite major

Chatting on the first date and talking about special food is a difficult problem for 1. This is a rigid requirement. For example, talking about your favorite specialties can not only grasp each other's tastes, but also find similarities, and you don't have to worry about having no topic to talk about.

4. Talking about work and overall planning

Let's talk about what we are doing now and what plans we have in the future. We can talk about interesting things about each other's work, various awards and so on. Pay attention to each other's small expressions during the period. If it reflects indifference, we just say that the technical major of our work at this stage is wrong, and then turn to the topic for discussion.

5. Talking about social development

The discussion of social development topics in hot spots on the Internet is the first topic in the first date chat. At this time, you should express your views moderately, and pay attention to whether they are consistent with each other's views. If you find different opinions, you should look for opportunities to change the topic for discussion.

Step 6 talk about brothers and sisters

The general topic discussion of first date chat means brothers and sisters, which can deepen understanding and enliven the atmosphere. You can also learn about his family atmosphere and lifestyle by talking about his brothers and sisters.