First, others think you have a boyfriend; second, the circle is too small, and there are too few people to contact; third, you may walk too fast, and others can't catch up with you; fourth, others have no confidence in him or her, dare not chase you, dare not approach you, dare not touch you; fifth, you haven't met the right person; sixth, you are all good and perfect, for example. People who can't hide your beautiful life, people who vilify you, people who can say anything to others, people who are like fools, people who don't know how to think with their own brains, people who don't know whether you are true or not, just blindly follow the trend. If you don't believe it, you will have more enemies and no one will chase you. Bian Xiao thinks it is more difficult to pursue beauty and cuteness. First, everything in the world is vaguely expensive. As a rare and precious genetic advantage, beauty is completely normal to be popular. Excellent but plain-looking successful people, it is undoubtedly a wise choice to change their genes through beautiful women, and those who pursue beautiful women have always been fiercely competitive. Second, a gem may be priceless because people compete for it. In the face of so many suitors, beautiful women are waiting for the price, and it is normal to choose the best among them. It's just that sometimes it's tempting to spend money If you have too many choices, you will hesitate, which will inevitably make everyone feel that beauty is hard to chase. Third, I feel like an armchair strategist, and I don't know if it should be done. The above is only a theoretical discussion, and it is more difficult to operate. For beauty, we ordinary people have the right to appreciate it from a distance, and finding a practical and kind ordinary wife is the right way. Why aren't lovely girls pursued? Why do some good girls have no boyfriends or even suitors? There are mainly the following reasons: First, the circle is too small to take the initiative. Such a good girl is usually in such a small social circle, and she is not in class, canteen or library every day. If you don't have a chance to meet someone better, how can you take off the order? Even if you meet someone you like, you will not take the initiative to strike up a conversation. Because this type of girl has strict family discipline, she studies hard at school and is irrigated by her parents' brainwashing education. Although they also have a thief's heart that wants to fall in love, they have no thief's courage. Second: the right to choose. I have a good girlfriend, mother and son solo. To tell the truth, she is really good-looking. She is 1.65 meters tall, with big breasts and long thighs. She achieved independence in college by substituting classes, and was admitted to 985 graduate students in her senior year. In a word, wild life needs no explanation. In my opinion, she is really excellent. It's only a matter of minutes to leave the account. Most people think that a good girl like her has no boyfriend, which is really unforgivable. My best friend is very clear about feelings, never leaving a spare tire and never having an affair with others. There are four words written on her face: Don't go near strangers. For those who pursue her, like is like, don't like is don't like, cut the gordian knot, roar, never hesitate. For girls like her, they live a sober life and know what to do and what not to do. I also know what kind of life I want and what kind of people I want to be with. Third: too self-abased or too confident. Both inferiority and self-confidence have a lot to do with personality. Girls who are too inferior are generally afraid to fall in love. In their view, pursuing others is a burden for them. What if they associate with others and don't deserve each other? And if you are too confident, you will be a little conceited. Such girls usually feel particularly good about themselves, and I deserve better. So he gave up the pursuit of other boys. Other boys also know that she has a high eye and slowly stop chasing. Fourth: I have no concept of love and like to live alone. Such girls generally have no concept of love. They are kind-hearted, simple and lovely, lively and lovely. Give an example of my friend. In high school, all of us knew that there was a boy who had a crush on her, but only this girl didn't know, and this girl was also very close to each other. I won't know until I graduate, but that boy is no longer interested in her. Take myself as an example, I occasionally envy couples. When I walk on the street and see couples walking hand in hand, I will think, I want a sweet love myself! But I prefer to live alone. In my conscience, my opposite sex is not bad, but in the end I played with each other and became friends. what can I do? I'm really terrible. Finally, I want to say that even a person should live well, eat well, sleep well and take good care of himself. Learning, running and fitness make life interesting and fulfilling. If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come. You will meet what you are now. Only by turning yourself into a candy can you stick to other people's eyes. Why is there no one chasing the lovely girl? 3 why are girls with careless personality not chased? This question has three key points: 1, pretty; 2. Good personality; 3. No one is chasing. These three characteristics are subjective, so we can't rule out the possibility that if you think you are beautiful and have a good personality, you won't pursue it, which is not necessarily objective, or even the opposite. For example, as a girl, who do you think is beautiful, maybe boys don't think so; For example, as a girl, who do you think has a good personality, but boys don't necessarily like this personality; For example, if you think someone is not being chased, it may not be true, but you may not know who is being chased. Of course it does exist, and girls with really good conditions are not chased. So below, we will make a comprehensive analysis and give my suggestions: First, girls with really good conditions and good personality are not pursued, but if girls who are not bad or even good in all aspects are not pursued, it is mostly because of a problem in a certain link. In my consultation, there are indeed some girls with good conditions who are not pursued and want to take off their bills. 1, the standard definition is too harsh: too much is better than too much, and girls are doomed. Because of her Excellence, she has outlined the outline of a prince charming in her mind, only waiting for a tailor-made candidate to lie completely in the framework you outlined, and one more hair is regarded as not meeting the hard standard. You are waiting for a perfect candidate, but you can't. You focus all your attention on this, and naturally you can't see the bustling and eager candidates outside. 2, limited environmental assistance: the circle is too small, and the wine is not afraid of the deep alley. As we all know, the environment is an important factor that determines a person's quality of life. The same is true of love. No matter how beautiful, I am surrounded by good girlfriends and sisters every day. Even the opposite sex who can talk can't find your shadow, let alone talk about whether anyone is chasing you ... Even if Prince Charming really wants to give you a romantic pursuit gift, he must know you first! 3. The unavailability rate is too high: "Well, this girl is good, but forget it, it seems that I have no chance." You will find that most men can be called Bai Yueguang, an ideal type, and they will always be actresses with pure temperament such as "Sister Milk Tea, Aragaki Yui", but they seem to have no aura but a sense of distance, and are as kind as the young lady next door. On the contrary, many girls like actresses with distinctive personality, independence and popular temperament, such as Faye Yu and Faye Wong. This shows that many times, a person's beauty is beautiful, but too abrupt personality charm will give men a high "unattainable", feeling that they are not at the same level as this beauty, or they are definitely unable to catch up, and naturally there is no motivation to rise and pursue. In the final analysis, what people are doing depends on the cost performance or the input-output ratio. 4. Take your advantage as the capital to do whatever you want: I am a girl, and you are a slave. As soon as others catch up with you, you hang up high and begin to exercise the rights of the queen. Before they met, many rules and regulations had been promulgated: don't do this, don't do that, make yourself a little princess with no room for a grain of sand in her eyes-because you chase me, you should spoil me more. When the other person first approaches you, it is actually a process of mutual choice. And you mistake this "two-way choice" for your own "one-way choice" In other words, a small work is ok, but you are a little self-righteous, "doing" too early and too big. In consultation, there are many such situations. Girls and boys have just met on blind date and have not made any demands on boys. We haven't decided whether to be together or not. Girls enter the play too early, and it is inevitable that they are not cute and sensible enough. 5, the value of people is set off: you are good, but there are too many good surroundings. When I entered a luxury store, my eyes were full of burning RMB, and I suddenly saw an acceptable price. You are surprised, as if you have got a big bargain; When I came to the big food market, the goods around me did not exceed 100 digits, and suddenly a three-digit price tag appeared. Your first reaction: it's a little expensive! In the same way, your conditions may be really good, but your peers in the surrounding environment are better, which naturally sets you off unremarkable and the gas field is taken away by others. It turns out that excellent people are barely mixed up. Second, it is not necessarily an objective fact that you think beautiful girls with good personality are not pursued. There may be some bias and subjective factors: 1. There is a possibility that you just think you are beautiful and cute; In fact, it is not beautiful enough in the eyes of boys, and it is extremely general. As long as your character is not good enough to kill young and old, the boy's first reaction may be "this girl is generous and suitable for being a buddy." 2, the prejudice of good character is the same as above, and men and women have different appreciation standards. This is why many girls who mix with boys will be treated differently when they return to the women's group. Therefore, it is not excluded that what you think of as "salt can be sweet" is only "ever-changing woody cherry blossoms" in the eyes of girls-it is "neurotic and unpredictable" in the eyes of boys, which confuses the majority of straight men and only makes them feel uncontrollable and unattractive. 3. There are two kinds of prejudices that nobody pursues: (1) Ugly ones are not counted; ugly ones are inevitably extreme, or those that don't meet your expectations are not counted. In this case, even if someone tells you blatantly, "I want to chase you!" "You may look disgusted:" Please leave me alone and stay in a cool place! ""Then when a friend asks, you may naturally complain, "Hey, no one has chased me," because you don't regard some low-value suitors as people who pursue yourself at all! (2) Implicit pursuit is not "pursuit": the other party bumps into your deer, but the expression is more subtle: it may be by being ambiguous from friends, taking care of you in some details, always taking care of you when you are in trouble, etc ... but never mention the word "like". So this implicit way of expressing love is ignored by you. In your opinion, there is nothing but crazy and passionate pursuit! Third, my proposal has analyzed so much. If I want to get rid of this situation, it will generally be integrated into three points. Simple advice to girls: 1. Objective self-cognition: make a correct and objective evaluation and cognition of yourself, neither supercilious nor arrogant. 2. Favorable environment: expand your circle, participate in more activities and make more friends, boys and girls. There may be someone for you here. 3. Appropriate availability: self-confidence is right, and it is also right not to start casually. Too high and too cold will sometimes ruin your fate. The goddess can be approachable and will give boys more courage to approach you and launch an offensive with you. When you work hard in these three correct directions, you will wait for a suitable love sooner or later. Don't worry, mind your own business, if you are in full bloom, butterflies will come-that's right. I am profound, a national second-class psychological counselor, a translator of the book Non-violent Communication between Men and Women, and a member of Dalian Psychological Society. I am 34 years old, married, educated and willing to share my attitude.