The ancients said, "Stand at thirty, be puzzled at forty, and know your destiny at fifty."
When we are over 50 years old and have experienced enough years of baptism and test, we will gradually find that there are many things in life that don't need to be cared about and taken to heart.
Before the age of 50, because I was too young, I was still full of yearning and longing for the world, not only competing with people around me, but also with myself. In this way, in addition to not being happy and satisfied, it will also make your heart exhausted.
Is it really worth sacrificing everything for the so-called success? Life is like a water source. If you squeeze too early, the rest of your life will only be more difficult.
However, there are some people in life who are not young, but still look young.
My neighbor, Sister Xu, is a good example. She is over 50 years old this year, but she is still well maintained. If she doesn't tell others her age, most people think she is in her thirties at most.
Sister Xu, when she was young, she was worse than now.
She used to be a strong woman, trying to do everything best. Even though her income is much higher than her peers, she still dare not stop.
She works overtime and stays up late every day, hoping that she can have more, but she can't have both. Even though Sister Xu is a successful woman and can bring financial support to her family, her marriage has come to an end after more than ten years.
Sister Xu's ex-husband, unable to stand her strength, betrayed her marriage.
After the marriage broke down, her ex-husband quickly established a new family, and her sister Xu was hit hard at that time and was in a state of insomnia for several months. At that time, although she was less than forty years old, her face was extremely haggard and completely lost any luster.
Sister Xu is very hard on herself, but the more she pursues perfection, the more nervous she is. She is in a state of extreme tension every day, and under the pressure of long-term overload, her body gradually can't stand it.
After having a serious illness, Sister Xu seems to suddenly understand. She began to learn to slow down and reflect on past mistakes. Instead of constantly pushing herself forward as before, she knows how to enjoy the present life.
Now Sister Xu, when she is not working, will take her puppy for a walk in the nearby park and travel with some old friends.
Although Sister Xu is no longer a strong woman in everyone's eyes, there is a smile on her face, which makes people more willing to be close to her. After the age of 50, she will continue to exercise and exercise every day, and her figure curve will not lose girls at all. Friends say that she is getting younger and younger now.
Why is Sister Xu in a better state than before? She said that after 50, she could stay young and only do three things right:
Goethe said: "The happiness of human beings lies in the happiness in the heart."
Sister Xu, who is in her fifties, has already experienced the ups and downs of life, but her mentality is getting better and better. When she was young, she always felt that only by earning more money could she bring happiness and security. But money can't solve the inner anxiety and anxiety. The more you want, the worse your mentality.
When a person's heart is always tense and unable to relax, it is easy to face collapse.
Sister Xu is getting younger and younger because she no longer lives on money, but has mastered the ability to adjust her mentality. Even if she encounters great difficulties, she can still treat it with a normal heart and will not let herself be in an anxious state because of a little thing.
After the mentality has improved, Sister Xu's life has become more and more relaxed.
Now, she sleeps well every night, and the first thing to do when she gets up in the morning is running. She has a calm feeling when dealing with things, which is particularly attractive. She can't see that she is in her fifties at all.
As the old saying goes, "Worry has no roots, if you don't connect with nature, you will be passive, and if you don't learn, you will be relaxed."
Everyone's life will have troubles. When I was young, I always wanted to ask the truth. A lot of resentments are kept in my heart and I don't want to let go, just like Sister Xu at the beginning.
Sister Xu experienced a failed relationship. At that time, her ex-husband would rather be with an ordinary-looking woman than have anything to do with her.
This incident hit her so hard that for many years after divorcing her ex-husband, she was always confused and didn't know where she lost.
She can't let go of the past and lives in resentment every day. Obviously, she is still very young, and she wants to trap herself in a dark whirlpool and live as a woman without charm and vitality.
It took Xu Jie five years to let go and finally decided to let go of herself. She is no longer entangled in the ruthless betrayal of her ex-husband, and she is no longer unwilling. Instead of dwelling on past unhappiness, learn to enjoy the present time and regain your happiness.
Let go of the past and Sister Xu started a new life.
She went to the gym every day to exercise, and then she met the right partner. After remarriage, Sister Xu is no longer as strong as before, but knows how to respect her husband. When two people are free, they will travel together, and the days will be sweet and warm.
Rousseau once said, "He who knows how to let go is the happiest person".
After the age of 50, only by learning to let go can we feel more happiness and people will become younger and younger.
Life is not easy, along the way, wind, frost, rain and snow, once suffered too much, after 50 years old, we must learn to be better to ourselves.
An important reason why Sister Xu Can is getting younger and younger now is that she has begun to know how to treat herself well. In the past, she was obviously excellent, but she still felt that she was not good enough, and she dared not put down her work to enjoy the happiness in front of her.
Loving yourself is the beginning of a romantic life. Sister Xu, who is in her fifties, doesn't want to be like before. She is always afraid of owing her family and disappointing her friends, but she never knows how to consider her own needs and feelings.
Now as long as she doesn't want to do anything, she won't be forced. Sister Xu always said that it is better to learn to love yourself than to wait for others to love you.
After 50, if you want to live younger and younger, you must keep a good attitude and don't think too much, so that your mind can be free.
Take off your burden bravely and let your troubles be cleared.
I like romain rolland's sentence very much: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life."
Even if you have been hurt by this cruel world, those who are still willing to embrace life with a positive heart must be happy inside.
When you feel tired, you might as well think about the problem from another angle. There are no obstacles in this world, and there are no people who can't let go.
People who live younger and younger after 50 usually do only three things right, that is, keep a good attitude, learn to let go of the past, and know how to please and be kind to themselves.
If you do it all, your old age will be happier than you think.
Because all your efforts, all your love for life, and all your abandonment of yourself will eventually become your blessings and will be returned to you slowly in the long life.
Life is very long. I hope that all people who live with their heart can make their hearts not tired, and let bygones be bygones, which is what live high wants most.
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Today's topic:
What do you think is the best way to live when people are over 50?
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