As far as my own feelings are concerned, I think there are several points related to self-confidence:
1, text. Don't underestimate the influence of body on psychology. In fact, you may notice that, generally speaking, people with strong upper body are more confident than those with weak lower body. Even if that person is just a reckless person, what he said may be reasonable and unreasonable, but it sounds like a floor, and you can't question it; On the other hand, a weak person, even if he is telling the truth, may not be convincing, but will be regarded as a bookworm's empty theory. When I first entered the university, I was very thin, continuing the state of munching on books in high school. From small rural areas to big cities, I have little knowledge. Compared with my classmates, I really don't adapt. The first year or two was "jittery". Later, through fitness, playing ball and so on, my weight soared and I gained nearly 30 pounds. I have enough physical strength and meat, and I feel a little sideways when I walk. I found that the whole person's style is slowly changing, and I even had a fight with someone twice (my former classmates wouldn't believe I could fight). Although it smells young and impulsive, I am really confident in what I say and do. Slowly, the more confident I am, the more I dare to try, the more I try and the more I experience. This is a virtuous circle.
2. Speaking skills are important, but they are all external. Real strength comes from internal forces. What do you mean, I can kill you with my eyes? People in the aura don't need to talk, and there is a force surging in their chests. This kind of power is also pursued by real men (at least I appreciate it). Of course, this is not to say that speaking skills are unimportant, because everyone likes to associate with people who are good at talking, not people who can't speak for three sentences. I just want to express this, don't give up the cultivation of mind and gas field and blindly pursue skills. Just like a salesman in the property market, no matter how eloquent and skilled he is, you will feel that he is just selling things; People like Wang Shi either don't talk or talk, revealing the inside story.
3. Self-confidence. I think this is the foundation of being a man. People who are not confident can say that they can't do anything well. Of course, there is no one in reality who is not confident enough to do anything well. People always have their own areas of confidence, even if it is only a small area, so there is only a little bit of confidence. Confident people can show their confidence by talking and doing things. Confident people may not be so careful and thorough, because they don't care too much, but focus on controlling the situation, solving the main contradictions, and focusing on "being the best of yourself and not offsetting the doubts of others." So "hard life needs no explanation" is such a truth. What can I explain to you? That's my style. You may not know me, but please respect me; If you don't respect me, you will lose yourself. With this kind of domineering, you will have the confidence to do anything.
4. control. Remember the car advertisement of Mercedes-Benz, saying that men should have control. That's right. Be a powerful person. Where does the power of men come from? Instead of getting angry casually, it is control. I can control myself, control the situation and control others (not derogatory manipulation). Consciously cultivate your willpower and control, slowly influence others, and you will find yourself more and more confident and loving.
These factors, you will find that they actually influence and promote each other. Do it slowly and you will enter a virtuous circle.
Some people say that success is the source of confidence. I don't quite agree. Successful people have confidence, not because of their success, but because they have experienced so much in the pursuit of success. I have met that kind of middle-aged and old men who live a stable life, but are not successful (not very rich), but have been so persistent in pursuing their ideals and success. Although they failed to make a big splash in the end, they were calm, confident, steady and confident. This kind of person is rich in experience and life thinking. So, keep a brave, enterprising, confident and perceptive heart to grow up. Don't worry about anything, you will mature in the end.
These are just personal feelings, and we can't analyze them in depth from a professional perspective. I was deeply impressed by the psychological professional explanation I answered before, so I also wrote down my feelings. * * * Encourage