What should newlyweds do if they are separated for a long time?
0 1 make an appointment.
Husbands and wives often work different hours. When one of them is free, the other one is not, so it is not convenient to connect.
The best solution is to order a video or make a phone call when everyone is free. For example, I have a friend who handles it well. He and her husband, one in Xiamen and the other in Beijing, are very busy, but their relationship has not been affected by being busy and far away.
Because my friend and her husband agreed that every night, 1 1, they must video, no matter how busy they are, they must put down their work. The content of video chat between two people is to share their gains and losses of the day and let the other person participate in their own lives. I don't know what the other party is doing because of the distance.
Many couples who are separated from each other have lost their feelings, just because they don't share their lives and don't know what each other is doing. In the long run, there will be no topic between two people, forming a vicious circle.
Women should have their own lives.
Husband and wife are separated, and the most feared thing is that one person is busy and one person is idle. If women are housewives, they are more prone to problems. Every day, women are waiting for phone calls and news from their husbands. Once the other party doesn't reply, women will become anxious. The relationship between the couple is very bad.
I have always said that marriage is the intersection of two people's lives, but it doesn't mean that your life is all about him. Still you. Besides your children and husband, you have to have your own life.
Only when you are busy, you won't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and you won't be paranoid because your husband doesn't return messages. Being busy is the best medicine for all mental disorders.
Therefore, the separation of the two places, you can socialize, go to the gym, go to school, and enrich your soul. Next time your husband meets you, you will be smarter.
Take time to go to another city.
Do not get married. Even if the husband and wife live apart, they can communicate their feelings when they meet occasionally. Long time no see, I will miss them and want to hug each other.
So, when you miss it, fly to another city. Your occasional appearance will definitely make your husband happy. To tell the truth, what men want most is a home after all.
Even if you just spend two days with him on weekends, he can feel your love. It is worth noting that every time you meet, you'd better give him a little surprise, such as cooking him a meal and bringing him something he has been coveting for a long time, which will definitely arouse the other person's heart.
Of course, you can't go to each other's cities every time. You must let them go back to your city. This feeling is fluid, not the contribution of one party. So, you can make an appointment, for example, I will go to your city this month and you will come to my city next month. A short separation and a short meeting can also communicate the feelings of both sides.
Help my husband take care of his parents-in-law.
Although my parents-in-law are not your parents, you are your parents when you marry your husband. If you can take good care of them, your husband will appreciate you from the bottom of his heart.
For example, this is the case with Sister Liu. Her husband works outside all the year round to earn money to support his family. Sister Liu didn't complain about this, but kept her home in good order, so that her husband had no worries and no worries outside.
Once, Sister Liu's mother-in-law fell ill and stayed in the hospital for a month. She was taken care of in the hospital for a month after running, and her husband was very busy at work. When he got home, he saw his mother recover quickly, and her mother always praised him for marrying a good wife, so he became more and more kind to her.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the biggest hurdle for a family. If you can handle it, your husband will appreciate you. If you regard his parents as your own, I believe there is no inseparable relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in this world. Your husband is working hard outside. If you can share the responsibilities at home for him, he will love you for life.
How about the long-term separation of newlyweds?
Not so good.
Some couples, who have been separated for a long time because of work, career and other reasons, are always comforting themselves and each other, believing that the feelings between husband and wife can overcome everything. As we all know, a short separation between two places will make people feel happier than a wedding, but a long separation between two places will not only bring beauty because of distance, but also face various temptations.
The separation between the two places does bring a lot of inconvenience to the couple's life, often burying some hidden dangers in their feelings, and at the same time bringing a lot of incomprehension and distrust to each other. Although distance is not a problem, time will be a problem. Don't be too sad when the separation problem can't be solved temporarily. Husband and wife should encourage each other, overcome temporary difficulties, and never weaken their pure love because of separation.
What are the hazards of long-term separation of newlyweds?
1, being alone affects the relationship between husband and wife.
At present, it is not suitable to advocate the life of "Cowherd and Weaver Girl". Too long separation between husband and wife will bring many difficulties to both sides, including difficulties in work and study, difficulties in raising children and difficulties in supporting the elderly. The most nerve-racking, of course, is the emotional difficulties, especially young couples, and sometimes even cause emotional crisis between husband and wife.
In real life, it is not uncommon for couples to separate. The long-term separation between the two places is also easy to provide opportunities for third parties to get their hands on. If they are weak, it is easy to cheat.
2. The harm of physiological needs to the relationship between husband and wife.
Just like men have sexual needs, women also have normal sexual impulses, and women who have not been sexually satisfied for a long time are terrible. Although she tried to restrain herself with morality. It is difficult for food to have a good taste, but it is not easy to be confused. If you are separated for a long time, the more you suppress your feelings, the more likely you are to have an extramarital affair.
There are many contradictions when the two sides can't understand each other.
When a husband and wife are separated, there must be difficulties for one side. If only we could understand each other. But if you don't understand each other and understand each other, you will complain after a long time. For example, the woman complains that a man takes care of the children alone and does housework alone. If the woman lives with the man's parents, there will be more problems after a long time. If the man can't understand that the woman is not too big, the woman can't understand that the man is working hard for the family. So family problems will accumulate a lot. When there are many problems, if we can't mediate more patiently, then the contradictions will escalate and evolve.
4. The harm of life problems to the relationship between husband and wife.
A single woman has to face many practical problems that can't be solved at home alone. You are still far from the emperor. At this time, he just appeared, took good care of her life, melted her heart like a spring breeze, and urged her to constantly compare you with others in her mind. The more you compare, the better you feel about others. It's only a matter of time before you jump into someone else's arms.
Children can only receive single-parent education.
Because husband and wife are separated, children can only live with one of them. When I was a child, I could only receive single-parent education. After a long time, many problems often appear. Either the role is too feminine or the role is too masculine. A child's childhood is only once. If you can, who doesn't want your parents to accompany you? So for couples, the best education is that parents are around, which is a kind of fulfillment and companionship for each other.
What is the experience of long-term separation of newlyweds?
When it comes to the topic of marriage, I always have endless feelings in my heart. Since I got married this year, I always feel very long. I want to celebrate the New Year quickly so that I can meet my wife.
My wife and I have been married for less than a month and have been separated for a long time. I went to work in a big city hundreds of kilometers away. I wanted to set up a couple's office at home with my wife, but I just got married and the family couldn't afford so much money. Besides, the salary at home is very low, so I can't be so selfish and live separately.
Less than two months after I left my wife, I began to miss her. I am a very homesick person, and now I have to live apart from my wife for a long time. I feel terrible, but I have to compromise my life in order to make a living.
So I work hard every day, go out to do odd jobs at night, hoping to earn enough money early, and then go back to my hometown and open a husband-and-wife file with my wife. Even if I earn less money, I can at least meet every day and face the future together.
My wife has no choice but to face the reality. I believe there are many other men who work outside the home, and like me, they miss their wives very much. But as the pillars of the family, they should keep their love for their wives in their hearts. They really miss them. So, just call your wife, be caring and attentive, and then continue to work hard.