Situation 1: separation due to isolation.
Due to the problem of isolation, the situation between the two places generally occurs between lovers (unmarried), and the source of couples' gathering lies in mutual comfort. Generally speaking, it means caring for each other and touching each other. Feel each other's existence, feel each other's concern, be close to each other, be considerate, encourage and support each other, and the relationship between lovers will last for a long time.
However, due to the isolation of the epidemic, the two sides were forced to temporarily separate, adding up to at least 30 days before and after the Spring Festival. During this period, there is no way for couples to meet, let alone hug, kiss and other caressing actions.
Both sides can only rely on video and telephone software to appease each other. And these are not enough for lovers in love. A woman in love will put all her energy into this man, and this man is her whole world. But men's world is not like this.
Therefore, in this period, women are usually the most prone to problems. Because of the natural differences between men and women, women are more eager for each other's care and care. Always ask your boyfriend some small questions that are not important to men. In fact, they don't want to get the most correct answer, just want to see and feel each other's concern.
Men are just the opposite. Sometimes they are born dull and can't understand the idea behind their girlfriend's problems. Coupled with long-term isolation and different meetings, a small problem will also trigger a "thunder." And I still feel very wronged. In fact, men at this time should understand that women are more afraid of loneliness, especially at this special time, a little thing will touch their sensitive nerves.
In fact, solving this problem is very simple. Men can assign some tasks to the object that need to be completed together, such as: inviting her to watch a movie, a book, and exchanging stories and feelings after reading it; Invite her to play some small games and encourage her at the right time; Set a time for video fitness and the like; Let the other side move and get busy, so as to better spend the special time of the epidemic.
At present, many people stay at home and do nothing during the epidemic, but at this time, couples must not do this, because there is nothing to do, they will want to fly, they will keep pestering each other and want to get some motivation from each other to pass the boring time.
Men should bear the responsibility, not only the responsibility, but also pay attention to the psychological state of the object, and give her some tasks to finish together and test each other, so that not only can they successfully get through the difficult moment of the epidemic, but also can enhance their relationship and make it a positive result.
Situation 2: Both parties are isolated at home due to the epidemic.
This kind of situation mostly happens between husband and wife. During the epidemic, the two sides were isolated at home and rarely lived together. Don't worry about going to work in the morning and working overtime at night. We can take a long vacation together. But this beautiful state can only last for 7 days at most. After seven days and a week, there will be various contradictions: not cleaning up the house, not paying attention to hygiene, nagging too much, the mother-in-law being too lenient, the children being too noisy, and so on. For men and women in the workplace, the problem will be more successful.
Men and women in the workplace have their own jobs before marriage, and after marriage, they will follow the previous rhythm, nine to five and weekends. Hear each other go to work smoothly in the morning, have dinner together in the evening, play with children on weekends, or find a beautiful place to be alone. Enjoy rare leisure. This is the most ideal state.
However, due to the epidemic, the two sides were forced to spend more than 30 days together at home. From morning till night, 24 hours a day, nearly 7200 hours in 30 days, both sides are under each other's noses. All kinds of minor shortcomings, minor contradictions, and contradictions in family values will accumulate again and again, and the direct result is to queue up for divorce just after the isolation period.
In fact, this is not a personal problem for both sides, because everyone has their own way of life and life circle. Before the outbreak, the man can have tea and chat with colleagues and drink and brag with friends. Women can go shopping with their girlfriends. Each has his own life circle, and then two people spend the weekend alone. Everything's fine.
However, due to an epidemic, the two sides were forced to spend 7200 hours together, and their lifestyles and life circles could not be reconciled. Before this happened, neither side was ready. As a result, contradictions cannot be reasonably resolved after the outbreak.
"Since I can't go on, I will divorce."
Divorce is a natural thing after the epidemic.
In fact, solving this situation requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife. Husband learns to praise his wife, and wife learns to praise her husband, her cooking, her order, her optimism and her tolerance.
Since the external environment (isolation) cannot be changed and we cherish each other, try to understand and change.
The epidemic is not terrible, and we are tolerant.
Carved on the Sansheng stone, long live the lovers.
May the touchstone of the epidemic make more lovers.