The unit has a new small fresh meat in 1993, which is actually eight years younger than me. Well, you see, the age is completely exposed from the top. Seeing his life at this age, I am deeply familiar and far away, which gives a sharp and harsh reminder: the wanton youth that once belonged to us after 80 is gone forever.
Like skating, a girl in her twenties after 80s slipped in front of the dividing line at the age of 30, which was so dazzling that she didn't even want to touch it. She was pushed by a pair of invisible hands and became an "old woman" in some people's eyes. However, if people say they are old after 30, how can they embarrass women who have reached their forties and fifties?
Personally, I think there is no difference between 29 years old and 3 1 year old in appearance, and I am extremely resistant to the name "old woman" in my heart. But what happened in real life made me dodge around.
Once I went to have my hair cut, a young man born after 1990 asked me when I was washing my hair, "Sister, which teacher do you usually find to do your hair?"
"Teacher An An on the 20th", I answered truthfully.
The young man is also very sincere and jokingly took over the words: "Oh, it's that bad old man. Haha. "
What? Did he really call Mr. Anan a bad, bad, bad old man? My heart trembled with anger because I knew that he was actually the same age as me. In the eyes of my younger brother who washes his hair, An An is an old man, and I should be no better, at least an aunt. It's really polite to call your sister.
Speaking of the name "big sister", it seems that it has been used more and more on me in the last year or two. Whether the unit meets an unfamiliar colleague or is stopped by the staff who distribute various leaflets such as selling houses and fitness on the street. People who call my sister are polite, modest and prudent; But the callee often can't get the respect and goodwill of the other party.
Why? Because we are also asking why, why do they all call me sister? I look old. Do I look bad? God, it seems that we can't be lazy tonight. We must wear masks. Being called Sister everywhere, am I really no longer young? Why are you getting old so soon? God, that's terrible-
Being called "Sister", our thoughts can travel thousands of miles. Therefore, please don't call people big sister easily, let alone big sister. People with high EQ call women from teenagers to 50 years old "beauties". Although it seems a little frivolous when saying these two words, it is really useful for women. If you don't want to use the name of this rotten street, you can call the young "girl" and the old "miss". In a word, don't use the word "elder sister" to arouse our panic and disgust at your age.
Out of courtesy, the person who is really called "elder sister" should be someone over 50 who should be called aunt. When I first joined the work, I especially didn't like people around me to call my aunt older than my mother "sister". With the growth of age, I understand that this is respect and care for those aunts who are pressed to the bottom of the box by age. Who doesn't want to be young forever? At this age when aunts and grandmothers are called everywhere, it is so comfortable and refreshing to be called "Sister" suddenly.
After 30 years old, although I resisted the secular vision of classifying women by age, although I still felt that I had not lost my vitality, I gradually found that some things were really different from the original.
In the face of delicious food, there is no impulse to eat.
Gluttony feast, for me, there is no longer the temptation to live and smell, but it has increased the bondage of taking only one scoop of water from the Yangtze River. This was absolutely unimaginable a few years ago. At that time, I had to find a reason to treat myself with the stimulation of the tip of my tongue from time to time. Spicy shrimp, boiled fish, barbecue, cooking, just thinking about it can make your mouth water.
I don't know when I suddenly became particularly contemptuous of myself in those days, because I understand that what I really love is not food, but to stimulate and fill my empty and boring youth with its spicy taste. Now, I have completely shifted my energy and interest from eating, and I often miss eating because I don't realize my hunger.
In front of gorgeous clothes, there will never be no one who is not satisfied.
In buy buy, which woman doesn't like beauty, which woman doesn't like shopping and which woman hates shopping? When I was shopping before, I saw my favorite clothes and immediately thought they were my own. As long as you can bite your teeth and buy, you will never be soft. Shopping malls also turn, Taobao also strolls, mainly depending on style. After so many years, the wardrobe is full of outdated and cheap clothes. Now, it seems that they have become a commemoration of youth.
I don't know when I started to pay special attention to texture and comfort when buying clothes, and I learned to change ten flashy cheap goods on Taobao into one that can travel through time.
I'm not a celebrity, and I haven't had luxury items such as big-name bags like LV.
When I passed this store in my twenties, I sneaked in with a little excitement of touching it with my own hands and a panic of being short of money and lacking self-confidence, secretly praying that the clerk must treat me like air, otherwise I was afraid of being patiently guided by others and fleeing. Looking at people with big-name handbags around them, by contrast, they seem to be less confident.
But look at me now, and I have become shameless before I know it. Whenever you go shopping or get together with friends, pick up a handbag and leave. All handbags have one thing in common: firmness, dirt resistance, large space and large capacity. I don't care what others think of me. But if my husband says he wants to buy me a bag, I can calmly walk into the store with him and choose carefully. Not because I have more money than before, but because I have a different mood. I have no obsession with luxury goods, and I lose a lot of luster when I look at my eyes. Besides, even if I don't buy it for a long time, what can the clerk do with me?
I don't want to insincerely please others in order to gain so-called outside recognition.
"talkative, laughing, loud, outgoing, enthusiastic and familiar" is the label I have been sticking on my body for nearly 30 years. I like to talk about Kan Kan in front of everyone, and I like to show it in the spotlight on the stage. Everyone's attention will not make me timid, but will multiply my sense of existence. Yes, at that time I was so eager to be recognized by everyone, as if only in this way could my life be meaningful.
Once, I always wanted to protect the thoughtfulness of others and tried my best to make everyone feel comfortable, thinking that I would be liked by everyone. I also thought smugly, wow, I have so many friends.
I don't know when I started, but I feel more and more like a fool when I am young and frivolous and unstable. Maybe I understand that time is the touchstone of friendship. Not many bosom friends, but good. There are people in different circles in the gas field, so there is no need to be strong. I just get together with friends around me from time to time, and then tell my heart to friends far away, without hurting others, and the whole person is refreshed.
Since we are over 30 years old, the world will classify us as "old women". It's time for us to take a certain attitude, get on the horse with a knife, put on our own robes and live in the decision of war. A 30-year-old woman, whether in love or in the workplace, will really be underestimated if she doesn't show her high status.
At the age of 30, we have developed a pair of critical eyes to quickly identify love rat.
In the face of men's small talk, Gu Jing didn't wave. They can tell the truth with one look and a few words. We can laugh off the compliments and compliments that men greet at the right time and tell them with contemptuous eyes that your routine that can make little girls lose their minds is useless to me. Get out.
It is a little girl's patent to cry helplessly in the face of deception. If you can still be cheated badly after you are 30 years old, it can only explain one problem. You are getting farther and farther on the road of being an idiot.
In our thirties, we have lost the little fragility and entanglement of moaning without illness, and lived a free and easy life of "the boat died from now on, and the river and the sea lived for the rest of our lives".
We can better control our emotions, because the more we live, the more we understand that no one takes ourselves seriously. Ninety-nine percent of the embarrassments and sorrows that happen to us are as light as a feather, and they are worthless to others.
I accidentally slipped at the crowded gate two days ago at work, and I was completely embarrassed. I dropped my glasses, but when I picked them up, I found that one lens was missing, so I put on glasses with only one lens and struggled to find another lens. I finally found it. After lifting the bicycle, I found that the handlebar was crooked, so I had to stand up in full view and run to the front to clamp the wheel with my legs and aim at the handlebar. After everything was done, I suddenly wanted to laugh. It seems that it is not yourself who is embarrassed, but others. Because I understand that after many days, who will remember this scene? That's all. Think of it as having fun for everyone.
At the age of 30, we understand that love is not to be squandered, but to be cherished.
For lovers, we no longer doubt, test again and again, and try our best to snatch them. I just want to be close to the person I love the most, advance and retreat together, and join hands for life.
For parents, we have enjoyed the nourishment of love for so many years, and it is precisely because of the support of this love that we can travel without fear. But when they grow up, we become strong and mature, and we don't want to act rashly and be extremely willful because of their unconditional love for ourselves.
I am more grateful to the children. We selfishly brought him into this world, only to find that his arrival cured our selfishness. More importantly, I am afraid that I will eventually get old, but the arrival of children makes me no longer afraid of the squeeze of time.
Yes, after 1980, we stumbled into a 30-year gap. A woman in her thirties is the most beautiful time: although she lacks some of her former youth, she has an intoxicating fragrance. We know what we want and live more confidently and confidently. Who has been forcing us to get old, stand up, stand up and promise not to kill you.
Although no one called me "Little Black Nicole" like a few years ago, and although there was a child seat exposed to age in the back seat of my bicycle, I still want to say that at the age of 30, I didn't feel that my life was officially opened. I am not jealous of a little girl in her twenties, except for the collagen on her face.
About the author: Mom C, a literary idiot who is full of reverence for life, touches the soul with words, waiting for you to come and watch that splendid time together in the most beautiful time of accompanying children to grow up.