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I was complained by other parents last night.

And I'm still in the parents' class, and the other party loves me very much. I'll teach my children not to be depressed (that is, don't touch their hands).

My heart thumped. What happened? Didn't you listen to the teacher when you picked up the children from kindergarten?

I will reply to her right away. Why? Then pull the child to sit down and ask him what's going on. He refused to speak at first. But I was stunned by my serious expression.

I didn't mean anything to him, and I didn't scold him or beat him around. I think it is unfair for children to make any decision without knowing the real situation.

I just watched a video of foreign parents educating their children who made mistakes yesterday, and I already have countermeasures.

I asked the child, "What's going on?"

He was silent.

I went on to say, "other children's mothers complained to me that you moved her children." Is it true? "

He said no.

"Children can't lie? Yes, yes, no, no, tell mom, did you push him? " .

He still refused.

I pulled him to the reflection stool and sat down against the wall. He took off his socks before and refused to sit down, saying that his feet were cold. I took something to cushion him, sat him down, and asked him again in a gentle but firm tone.

"You are in trouble for your mother now, and other people's parents are looking for me. I must solve this trouble. You have to cooperate with me and tell me the truth before I can solve it, understand? Otherwise, people will scold my mother and say that I can't educate my children. Do you want others to scold my mother? "

He shook his head.

"If you didn't do anything wrong, then tell your mother why. My mother will protect you, but you did something wrong. You must apologize to others. Okay？ So, did you push him or not? "

At this time, the child let go, pouted and said with a look of grievance: "He robbed my snowflake."

"Good, good, mom, I'm glad you told the truth. That's why he grabbed your snowflake first, and then you did it, right? Is he hurt? Did you cry? "

The child said to himself, "I took a lot of snowflakes." When he came to rob me, I kicked him. "

I was relieved: "OK, mom knows. You were right to defend yourself when others robbed you. It's good. Did anyone else see this process? Any witnesses? Did you tell the teacher?

When he finished speaking, he found that he didn't understand the witness. He didn't say anything.

I continued, "But is this the right way to solve the problem? What if he cries? What if he gets hurt?

He lowered his head and said nothing.

"So find a way to solve the problem yourself in the future, okay?"

So I can finally confidently reply to that mother. Then she added my friend. But I still replied to her in the group, lest teachers and other parents think that I can't teach my children well, that I am biased against me, and that I have a bad influence on my children.

"I ask, is your child robbed his snowflake, so he didn't start work, I also taught him at ordinary times, he would never take the initiative to bully other children. But he is not suitable for children. I join him in apologizing to your child. "

At this time, she also politely replied, thank you for your understanding.

Look at the private letter. She added my friends, maybe asked the children, maybe looked at my circle of friends and spoke politely. Said a lot. Say something small, let me never hit the child. Really don't hit him.

I said no, just let him sit on the reflection stool and reflect for a while. Then let the children speak out and say sorry to each other. Shall we play together next time?

She also let the children say that it doesn't matter. Next time, let's play together and be good friends.

Then it's over.

The mother was sensible later, but she didn't ask clearly in the parents' class, and it was wrong to blame others without knowing the truth. What if everyone thinks my child is Xiong Haizi and tells them to stop playing with my child?

Anyway, I won't wronged the child anyway. Even if he did something wrong, there was a reason. It is normal for children to fight with each other, and adults often surf the Internet. If it's a small matter, it's not worth the candle.

Problems between children can be solved by themselves, and they can get training on how to solve difficulties. Adults should not interfere too much.

So this is also an experience that children should learn. Learned to solve problems better.

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Then I went to the gym in the evening. I work out, and he brings toys to play with other children.

After a while, he came over and said that his favorite car was robbed by his little sister.

I said, "didn't you bring two cars for her?"

He said, "I just like new ones."

"This is your car, you like to play, why give others away? Since I like it, why not take it back? "

Then he left. After a while, he heard the cry of his little sister shaking the earth.

There he is again, with his favorite car in his hand.

I know what happened.

"This is how you solve the problem? The car came back, but my sister was crying, and there was no one to play with you. Is this right? "

"Solve the problem. You can take turns playing for five minutes, or you can play together, but you have to solve the problem satisfactorily, okay? "

He walked over. Then I heard their laughter. ...

Through these two little things, I believe that children have learned a very important attitude on how to solve problems.

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So, what if your family encounters similar problems? What if even Xiong Haizi got you into trouble?

1. First of all, remember not to make any hasty decisions before you know the truth. Don't wronged children, let alone beat and scold them.

2. Then communicate well with your child to understand what happened. Even ask each other, teachers, or look for witnesses. Analyze the truth objectively.

3. Tell the truth to the children and discuss whether it is correct to do so. What is the best solution?

In any case, the problem has not been properly solved, and there has been a conflict, so apologize to the other party. If there is a loss, we must compensate him and teach him to be a responsible person.

Let him reflect on what to do next time he encounters similar problems.

6. Be sure to educate children not to bully others, but also to protect themselves. Find a way to solve the problem yourself. If you can't solve it, go to the teacher.

7. Don't call unless you have to. In case others don't listen and keep attacking you, you should also hit them, not the head and face, especially the eyes. There is an important part.

8. Learn to take responsibility for your mistakes and accept punishment.

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