When the news came out, netizens applauded:
Left, finally left.
Seeing this news, everyone wants to buy some firecrackers to set off;
Finally, on this day, I cried with joy.
Everyone else is sorry for the divorce, but Xiaozhen's divorced people are cheering for her.
Why on earth? In fact, the reason is obvious:
There is always only one kind of marriage that is not blessed and optimistic, and I hope to get rid of it as soon as possible, and that is.
A hopeless bad marriage.
To tolerate cheating is to hurt yourself.
In 2007, Xiaozhen and Li Jinliang Fengzi got married, and now they are divorced. From 65438 to 2002, Li Jinliang's romantic history was notorious.
At the beginning, just a few days before their wedding, Li Jinliang was exposed by the media to share a room with others.
Even so, Xiaozhen put up with it at that time.
But do you think that tolerance and forgiveness can bring sincere repentance and the return of the prodigal son to love rat?
As it turns out, it will never be possible.
The more tolerant you are, the more forgiving you are, the more he pushes his luck, the more brazen he is, and the more blatant he is cheating.
The forgiven Li Jinliang didn't stop there. He cheated again and again, 12 * * * cheated 17 times, and even took mistress directly to the door.
For the sake of her daughter, Xiaozhen forbeared again and again. Even after seven years of separation, she still maintains this ruined marriage relationship.
Until one night when I was sleeping, my daughter said to her:
Mom thinks I'm too selfish. I hope you are happy and someone loves you.
Xiaozhen admits that at that moment, their mother and daughter hugged each other and cried, which also made her completely determined to divorce.
In marriage, too many women, like Xiaozhen, indulge in cheating in front of their husbands. Because the child, or because of her husband's kind words after his mistakes, his heart softened, and he still lived in endless expectations, giving the other party the opportunity to correct again and again, but the result was disappointment again and again.
In the end, in that little expectation and disappointment, I was constantly consumed and tortured until my heart died.
In the movie Forgive Him 77 Times, the heroine Lu Huixin is like this.
Lv Huixin always chooses to forgive her boyfriend Zhang Zhisi's mistakes every time, because she can't bear this feeling and hopes her boyfriend can correct it and become better.
Zhang Zhisi, who has been forgiven, didn't realize his mistake at all, but made something even more outrageous.
In the end, Lu Huixin, who was exhausted in this relationship, saw other women's contact lenses at her boyfriend's house and finally gave up in despair and put them down completely.
Tu Lei said that everything can be tolerated except cheating.
In marriage, the biggest harm a man does to his wife is to enjoy his wife's goodness while looking for flowers and plants outside. He is also very wronged and feels that his wife is neither bad nor bad.
The biggest harm to a woman is her repeated forbearance and connivance to love rat, which makes her lose her enthusiasm for life and confidence in the world between the fleeting hope and the great disappointment that followed.
Whose parents are not miserable? Why do they put up with other people's scum, punish themselves with other people's mistakes and sacrifice their own happiness?
Stop loss in time is your greatest responsibility.
Someone in Zhihu asked: What is the psychological maturity of girls?
The answer of the Lord "Red Mulberry" won more than 80,000 praises. He said:
An uncompromising refusal. It's a pity that too many women in life lack this.
For example, if you don't throw something that should have been thrown a long time ago, take it in your hand and paralyze yourself at the same time, which is very memorable.
For example, I should have put it down a long time ago, but I was reluctant to invest time, energy and feelings. I foolishly hoped that the prodigal son would come back, and finally I put myself in and said nothing. Even the original attraction has been consumed.
A mature woman must have an uncompromising attitude, know how to stop loss in time, and jump out of the mud instead of sinking in.
I once saw a netizen say that her ex-husband was a horse's hair and wanted to listen to everything.
What to do at the beginning of the wedding, which city to go for honeymoon, which hospital to choose for the next child, whether it is smooth or not, the ex-husband has to listen to his mother's advice, and her advice will always be ignored by everyone.
Because she felt like a puppet, at the mercy of that family, she chose to divorce.
At the time of divorce, she only had $65,438+000 and a nursing baby.
In the most difficult time, she even sold the baby's crib and stroller for food.
During that time, she suffered too much, but in retrospect, she still firmly said:
Never regretted it. Even if she had another chance, she would still choose to leave without looking back.
She said: "I made the wrong choice and jumped into the fire pit, but I couldn't shut myself in." This is my own destruction. "
In marriage, few and unworthy people and things are consumed. Stop loss in time is a kind of courage and wisdom.
In Zhang Ailing's little reunion, the heroine Jiu Li is heartbroken by the romantic Shao Zhiyong. When she suddenly woke up and decided to let go, she said:
"I have to go. Don't look for me again. I am not for your woman, but because I will never be happy with you. "
In any intimate relationship, a woman should not only be affectionate, but also have the courage to stop loss in time.
When love comes to an end, stop bravely and then you can reach nirvana.
The most "malicious" revenge is to live better.
Lovelorn, lovelorn, popular, but some revenge tricks, some people try their best to tear their faces and make each other notorious.
In fact, really smart women choose the most "malicious" revenge: silently strengthen themselves and live better and happier lives.
12 Xiaozhen, who escaped from emotional entanglements, was found missing at the press conference.
It turned out that in the past six months, she not only tried to lose weight, but also successfully lost nearly 80 pounds, her face was radiant and her career had new arrangements.
Now she looks radiant, elegant and beautiful.
If it is torture to keep going back and forth in a relationship, then the strong silence after separation is definitely the best salvation for yourself.
I saw such a news the other day.
Wei Xiaoting, a post-90s girl in Nanning, Guangxi, used to be a 75kg fat girl.
Because of his figure, he was always rejected by his boyfriend, and even abandoned directly later.
After being lovelorn, she turned grief into strength and began to exercise crazily. She not only lost weight successfully, but also participated in many bodybuilding competitions and won the championship.
Wei Xiaoting after the counterattack, excellent and beautiful, has made people who abandoned her unattainable.
Such a change is emboldened and the most "malicious" revenge.
There is a monologue at the end of the film The Wonders of Benjamin Button:
I hope you can live a wonderful life and be proud of your life. If you find that you haven't done it yet, I hope you have the courage to start again.
This is especially necessary in interpersonal relationships.
When you accidentally step into the quagmire, remember to stop loss in time, and don't take your own happiness to make others ungrateful.
After separation, when you lack love, love yourself more, invest well and improve yourself, so that you won't always want to find security from others.
May your life be calm and brave enough, and you don't have to please anyone endlessly, and you don't have to endure anyone without a bottom line, so that you can live happily.