Sister C and her husband brother D are college classmates. They come from different cities. Sister C is a hot girl in Chengdu, Sichuan, and brother D is a northern boy in Xuzhou, Jiangsu. Two people meet, get to know each other and know each other in college. After graduation, two people took root in the city of Shanghai. At first, because of the nourishment of love, the two people didn't feel that regional differences would affect their lives. Sister c likes spicy food, and brother d likes steamed buns. Brother d is very accommodating to sister c in this respect and changes his eating habits. It's a big deal to eat takeout and order what he likes.
But then life changed. Because of the arrival of the baby, Brother D wants his mother to take care of his wife and children. The arrival of her mother-in-law really adds insult to injury to Sister C. Her mother-in-law thinks that having a baby should not be spicy, but light. Mother-in-law thinks that the child is rough, so she will not use diapers, cut diapers with old clothes, and so on. Sister c can't stand it, and she feels that life really can't go on.
But Sister C is a rational person, and she has no direct conflict with her husband and mother-in-law. She quickly sorted out her life. She changed her mind. She talked to her husband calmly and told him the current situation. First of all, she understands her husband's feelings and tells him that her mother-in-law is old and may not understand the thoughts of young people now. Besides, it is difficult for my mother-in-law to come. Instead, find a professional nanny and let her mother-in-law live her own life. After all, now the income of two people can fully pay for this, so that everyone can relax.
Sister c bought some clothes and useful things for her mother-in-law After communicating with her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law was happy and relaxed and returned to her hometown happily.
After this incident, Sister C said that the key that many problems can't be solved is that many people don't know what they can and can't accept. After understanding this, many problems will be solved easily.
But the same problem is different in small families. Little ah is a full-time wife at home, and her family's income is basically beyond her means, and she needs her mother-in-law's help every month. Little a can't make decisions at home. At first, Xiao was always unhappy, thinking that such a life would not end. Later, Xiao was a little numb. After all, this kind of life now depends on the face. But going out to look for a job still depends on people's faces. So I live like this. But after such a long life, Xiao actually got depression.
After talking with psychologists, Xiao found that no one could help himself in this situation, and the focus was still on his own problems.
Xiao feels that he can't change other people's thoughts and practices, only he can change himself.
To this end, Xiao found his lost interest in painting for many years, enrolled in a class to learn painting, and actively kept fit. Try to keep yourself busy and have no time to feel sorry for yourself.
Little by little, I found it easy to be happy. He also made some friends and arranged his life in order every day.
After half a year, Xiao found a studio, where he taught children to draw and earned a corresponding income every month. She found that her life was actually beautiful. At the same time, she found that her mother-in-law and her husband's attitude towards her had also changed greatly.
Small ah said, life is like this. If you can't change others, change yourself. You are sure to find the life you want.
It is said that marriage is a kind of practice, and Sister C and Little A both grew up in their respective marriages.
May you and I in marriage accept what is acceptable, change what can be changed, and then gain a happy married life.